How do I talk my DH into a name?

dana316 · April 2011

I think I may have narrowed the name search down to two possibilities.

Steven likes both first names, but it super unsure about one of the middle names. It was my grandmother's maiden name, and I'd LOVE to use it.

So, tell me all your tricks for talking reluctant DHs into naming a child something they don't love, lol.

Seriously...spill it, ladies...

Big Smile

charmcitygirl · April 2011

I didn't have this issue with DH. He's a relatively amiable guy, even with the names of our kids.

Something like..."This is really important and special to me" would have been the tipping point for him.

Unless he has an equally sentimental and special name as a replacement, I think it should be the name that you have.

TheSkimmy · April 2011

I cried... worked for me.

However- I've never heard him call DD Alexandra. Think he truely dislikes it... oh well!

cjsbdl · April 2011

Honestly, I wouldn't. It was really important to me that we both were fully on board with our kids' names. But if I had been seeking to do that my strategy probably wouldve been let it go and bring it back up only when in the middle of labor so that it would be hard for him to disagree.

gabbeyh · April 2011

Tell him he can make the final choice when he pushes the baby out... Wink

Cassian · April 2011

Blow jobs.

howleyshell · April 2011

gabbeyh:
Tell him he can make the final choice when he pushes the baby out...

LMFAO!!!

If it was a first name I'd not push him into something he wasn't wild about.

Middle names?

They're rarely used and hardly ever spoken.

I'd go with that approach.

It's not like he's ever gonna hear it spoken.

It's kinda a non-issue but it's important to you that the family name gets handed down.

THEN.... tell him he gets full naming rights for the next one.

All of his attention will turn to how NOT ready he is to think about #3 and what he can do to talk you out of THAT. He'll forget all about the middle name issue.

hee hee

If that fails?

TOTALLY drop the whole issue of names.

I mean cold.

Not a word for the next several months.

Then when you're gigantic pregnant with swollen feet and lugging around a toddler pick a particularly pathetic day and then hit him with it again adding a puppy dog face.

That's all I've got.

But seriously - if you're not making head way totally drop it for a while.

Let the battle part die down and revisit later.

armywife76 · April 2011

I just had a sit down and said, if you are really set on that name for sentimental reasons, then we can go with it (his idea), but if you're not really attached to it, I am to this one (DS's name). He was ok with it and hasn't mentioned anything since, so guess he really is. GL!

Quizzle · April 2011

The baby is already getting HIS last name, why can't the baby have a middle name from your side of the family? Besides, how often are middle names used?

Mahon Baby · April 2011

My DH absolutely refused to even consider the name I wanted for our son as either a first name or middle name. It was my Dad's name and DH didn't care...he hated the name. So...

I went into PTL at 24 weeks and stayed on hospital bedrest until I finally had an emergency c-section at 32 weeks.

Yep, after that DH didn't have a thing to say about my choice for our sons name!! LOL.

This is not a method I recommend, though!! hahahaha

firsttogo · April 2011

I address it, tell him how important it is to me, and then drop it for a while. I REALLY liked Lincoln but DH was not on board. He also wanted Eliza (my middle name) over Gwen. We also always use family middle names. Nolan was named Nolan Martin (Marty was my paternal GP) Linc is Lincoln Thomas (after DH's GP) and Gwen is Gwendolyn Awbrey (my GP was Dean Awbrey)

So, we took turns with the middle naming!

crystalgirl · April 2011

For me, it works to just not push it, but let it be known that that's the only thing I really like. We haven't been able to use it, of course, but DH did not like my choice for a girl name at all (we always use family names, so the selection is limited!). I really wanted it, and it was the only name I would ever mention when we discussed names. Over time, DH started to like it and was totally on board with it this time...had we had a girl. :P

browneyedgrl4282 · April 2011

With middle names I flat out told him they get his family's last name so it is only right that my family comes in with the middle name. He fought me at first but i reminded him I am the one who does all the work for the pregnancy and I am the one who gets the birth certificate and unless he wants me to name the baby something he totally hate he better shut up!

naflmj · April 2011

Basically I told DH that the middle name was non-negotiable since it will honor my grandfather who I was very close with and has since passed away. He was fine with that

ETA: DS#1 was going to have the MN I want to use for LO#2 and it was vetoed for another family name at his request so I don't feel bad doing this.

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