How does night time work at your house?

Twinkz · April 2011

Regardless of if you BF or FF, how does the night time work at your house? My DH sleeps like a boulder and doesn't wake up when DS cries, when I get out of bed, when I go back to bed, nothing. How involved is your DH during the night? I don't complain because DH is still going to work and with driving and standing in intersections/on the side of the highway/etc. his sleep is rather important for his safety at work. I just wonder how many DH's are taking an active roll in the middle of the night.

1Mrs.Jones · April 2011

My DH only takes an active role if he has the next day off of work. He works for a corrections agency that contracts with Homeland Security, so for him, it is also important that he gets his sleep because of safety issues at work.

He usually wakes up whenever she cries but starts to go right back to sleep- unless he is off the next day. If he is off the next day I tell him to go get LO every other time she cries. Sometimes we work it out so he sleeps from 9:00pm-5:00am and I sleep from 2:00ish on- an early shift and a late shift. I'm pumping, so he can give her bottles if she is hungry. However, I can't sleep much longer than 4 1/2 hours anyway, because I become engorged and it wakes me up.

DefiantRose · April 2011

DH SOMETIMES puts her to bed, but after he goes to bed, he's out till morning. It bothered me at first, but not so much anymore. He works a lot and drives 30 miles one way to work with long days and few days off, so he does need his sleep. If I've had a bad night, he'll take her in the morning when he gets up and feed her. Other then that, I'm on my own.

(I switch back and forth between bf and formula)

kare81bear · April 2011

Funny you should ask...when I met DH SS was 3 and still had a monitor in his room and DH was up at every peep to check on him. I came along and he relaxed and now sleeps like a rock! Granted I take DD to the living room when she wakes up to nurse and half the time we end up asleep in there for the second half of the night, but I don't think DH even realizes when we come in for bed. This weekend I set DD in the RNP while DH was sleeping so I could go to the bathroom only to come out to her screaming with him happily sleeping 6 ft away! In his defense he works and I bf and am a SAHM, but I have to get up and take care of 2 kids every morning before he even gets up for work (darn daylight coming earlier so SS thinks it's time to get up at 6!).

I have decided that since I have a freezer stash now, as a present to me I think Mother's Day weekend I'm putting him on night duty in the living room while I take over the bed Big Smile

Cristin23 · April 2011

DH really wants to switch nights. But I'm not too keen on pumping that much. Plus I think I would be up worried anyway.

Usually I just get up when I hear him on the monitor, usually before DH can, feed him and put him back down-usually takes about 10 minutes. That way it doesn't interupt DH's sleep.

Usually when he gets up for the day (LO, not DH) I make DH go get him and he does the first diaper change of the day.

On Friday and Saturday's I will give DH a bottle so he can do the first feeding as well.

DH tried to put him down tonight, but it didn't work, so he put him in his swing.

babyblues314 · April 2011

It's just easier for me to do all the night time work.

stacyslo · April 2011

DH is working and I'm still on mat leave, but he wakes when LO wakes to change him and then brings him to me to BF. Then he goes back to bed and I take care of putting LO back when we're done. Its nice to have the extra few minutes to get up and go to the bathroom, get a glass of water, or just lay in bed while he changes him.

Magical95 · April 2011

babyblues314:
It's just easier for me to do all the night time work.

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MicahAnn2009 · April 2011

For the most part, Monday through Friday, DH sleeps and I take care of LO. DH is driving 100 a miles one way to work and 100 miles back home to sleep is really important to him right now. I try to get the baby up at the first signs he is ready to eat again (bf baby) as so not disturb DH but sometimes I wait too long and DH will get up and change the diaper but most of the time he sleeps. Although I know its important right now for him to sleep I still find myself having ugly thoughts from time to time when he's laying there snoring....your not alone, sounds like a lot of us are in the same boat.

YouandMe912 · April 2011

My LO typically only gets up once at night (around 2am) so I take that shift. If he wakes up again my H takes it. Then on weekends one of us takes the whole night until around 8 so that we each get a good nights sleep.

MissYouDietCoke · April 2011

DH gets up with me when I get out of bed to BF. Usually he falls back to sleep when I'm nursing, but he'll wake up when it's time to change a diaper or burp DS. Also, if DS is slow to go back to sleep, DH makes me go back to bed, and he stays up with him.

revgal2009 · April 2011

We are FF and my DH does the last feeding before we put Leah to bed (usually around 8:30-9:00p.m.) She wakes up around 3:00a.m. or so and DH changes the diaper while I make up the bottle. I feed her and she sleeps until 7:30a.m. On the weekends, DH helps with the middle of the night feeding as well. I am the only one that hears her on the monitor though...DH sleeps like a rock!

StellarStina26 · April 2011

I EBF and we bedshare. So baby is next to me and I just wake up change her in bed and then side lay, latch her, and fall back asleep. Super easy and it works for us. My boyfriend sleeps through the night.

RayRay007 · April 2011

During the first two weeks at home he was a great help because I had a csection and could hardly get myself out of bed. DH would get up, change her and bring her to me in bed, and when I was done nursing he would take her and rock her back to sleep. This was 2-3 times a night. But right at two weeks she started sleeping longer stretches, falling right back to sleep after nursing, and I was more able-bodied. Now, she only gets up once in the night, and I take care of it all myself. It is really only a 20 minute ordeal. DH might stir, but doesn't get up. DD wakes up pretty early in the morning (usually by 6am), and I usually get up, get her changed and bring her into bed to nurse and doze off until we get up (usually 730 or 8) - on weekends I sometimes ask DH to go get her. If we formula fed I don't think it would be much different.

hispenguin · April 2011

DH gets up for feedings (we bottle feed) on the weekends and holidays. He drives a bus for a living, and gets up at 5:30am everyday for work, so during the week it's important for him to be alert so I do all the nighttime feedings M-F.

DH also goes to bed early during the work week, and DD doesn't go to sleep until 11pm/midnight, so I'm alone most evenings as well.

lmg423 · April 2011

My Dh helps out a lot at night. I figure it's fair though because he travels for work and gets a few nights a week of solid uninterrupted sleep.

I'm pumping/formula/and breastfeeding so at night when she wakes up - he'll take her change her diaper. I'll warm a bottle for her. He'll take her and feed her while I pump. Then I'll get her back to sleep. It works for us.

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