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Using the title Mrs.

(not referring to Mrs_H Smile )

Do kids call people Mrs. [Last Name] anymore? As a kid, all of my teachers and friend's moms were called Mrs. I don't think I even knew they had first names. Is this an outdated thing? Seems like they are called Miss [First Name].

 

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Re: Using the title Mrs.

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    Most elementary, middle school, and high school teachers are still called Mrs. [Last Name]. At least, they were at all the schools I taught at.

    As far as teaching children to call all adults by their last names, I feel like this may have gone by the wayside. I prefer not to be called Mrs. Nemo outside of the classroom by neighborhood children, but that is just me.

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  • In the youth organization I work with and grew up in, we refer to the adult chaperones as Dad/Mom last name. For the younger adults it is Dad/Mom first name. There are those who prefer to be Miss, Mrs and Mr but I am with these kids so much and have helped them through tough situations that I don't want them to call me Mrs, they are like my family.
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  • It seems like first names mostly. Then miss first name for preschool. Then the mrs last name in elementary. And my bff has a second grader. Her dd's friends call my friend mrs last name.
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  • We do a mix.  A few of our closest friends are Aunt.  The neighbors and church friends are Mr and Mrs but most friends are First Name. 

    I also err on the side of Mr/Mrs/Ms because I can't stand it when I'm introduced to kids as my first name. For instance, I'm picking up N at daycare, some of the big kids are running around and the teacher says "Watch out for Stacey!" Uh, no.  Let's try Mrs. Preston. 

    For the most part it seems to come down to my relationship with the parents. 

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    It seems like first names mostly. Then miss first name for preschool. Then the mrs last name in elementary. And my bff has a second grader. Her dd's friends call my friend mrs last name.

    This is how it was growing up.   Parents had first names again in college.  T this day, my friend from elementary/jr/high call my my parents Mr. and Mrs.  The friends I met 3 months after graduation its first names.

  • We use first names for adults when we talk about them to our kiddo.  Maybe because for my generation it seems like "Mrs. Last Name" or "Ma'am" can sometimes feel "old" to some women?   I guess I should probably ask how other people want to be introduced.

    Now that I think about it, I'm kind of surprised I'm not more strict about this stuff.  When I was growing up we had really strict ways on how we referred to adults.  For the parents in our neighborhood we used their child's name and a Korean term that translated to "John's mother" or "Sally's mother", we never used the parent's actual names.  There were other terms we used for strangers that differed based on the age of the person. 

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  • At least in the elementary and secondary school setting, teachers are still referred to as Mrs. [Last Name].  Unmarried teachers generally go by Ms., not Miss, but it's a personal choice. 

    In early education, teachers often go by Miss [First Name].

    When it comes to parents, I would say most parents go by their first name, which I have a very hard time getting used to! My parent volunteers like being referred to by their first name, and it's hard for me to NOT call them Mrs. [Last Name].

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  • I am not technically a Mrs. since DH and I have different last names.  I will probably get a lot of Mrs. S-F though because of C's hyphenated last, but I'd just as soon circumvent that and go by my first name.  Mrs. S is my mom, Mrs. F is my MIL and Mrs. S-F doesn't exist, and being married it will probably not occur to people to use Ms.  Anyhow I am not an especially formal person and just would rather kids call me by my first name.  As long as it's spoken with a respectful tone I don't care at all.  

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  • I would have thought I would have had my kids saying mr and mrs too just because that's how I was raised. But my friends kids already used first names. So it would have been weird to make different riles for my kids. I am 41 and I still call my friends parents mr and mrs!!
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    As far as teaching children to call all adults by their last names, I feel like this may have gone by the wayside. I prefer not to be called Mrs. Nemo outside of the classroom by neighborhood children, but that is just me.

    The next time we go out, I am going to call you Mrs. Nemo the whole time.

    I am not a teacher, but I do interview kids, so I am in a weird position in terms of names. I introduce myself by my first name, but when I come into a classroom, like I did with a group of 4th-graders last month, the teacher referred to me as Mrs. Lastname. Lois Lane would not approve.

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    (not referring to Mrs_H Smile )

    I demand only proper address! :-) haha

    I worked in child care for 10 years and I was always Ms [First name], as were all the other teachers.  I do remember calling my friend's parents "Mr" and "Mrs" when I was younger.  As an adult, I call my friend's parents by their first names.  (I should mention that these are entirely different people, whom I met as an adult.  I no longer know anyone that I was friends with when  I was young.)

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  • When I taught in public schools it was ms/mrs last name

    When i've worked at schools for kids with autism, its Beth.   even some public school classes, its beth depending on the kid.  

    Friends, I always do 1st names.  I grew up saying mr/mrs last name.   one of my (non bump ) friends was offended when I told her to have kids call me beth, not mrs. s.   Its just not me.   as long as its respectful, I dont care.

    I HATE that preschool is miss firtname...  yuk yuk yuk...  Im just "hey gabeandaudrey's mom" to most 3 year olds in the class...

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  • imageSeattle_JiLLn:
    I would have thought I would have had my kids saying mr and mrs too just because that's how I was raised. But my friends kids already used first names. So it would have been weird to make different riles for my kids.  I still call my friends parents mr and mrs!!

    Same here!  I go back and forth about this, because I really want my kids to know how to give proper respect to adults and not offend people by being too informal.  That said, at the school where I teach, all of the staff is on a first-name basis with the students, and they always are able to be respectful (with the exception of a few rude children).  Plus, we currently go by our first names with our friends' kids, so I don't see why we don't do the same.

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  • We're teaching Madelyn to call adults Mrs./Mr. until she's invited to call them by their first name.  Then, it's the adult's choice.

    The only exception to that are our very close friends.  We've started out by calling them by their first names.

    Honestly, I'd expect the same.  The first time I'm introduced to a child, it should be by my proper name - "Mrs. C....".  Chances are, I'll tell them to call me Heather if they're children I'm going to be interacting with.

    And the same exception applies - I don't think my good girlfriends started their children calling me Mrs. C, but I met most of htem before their children could speak :D

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    We're teaching Madelyn to call adults Mrs./Mr. until she's invited to call them by their first name.  Then, it's the adult's choice.

    The only exception to that are our very close friends.  We've started out by calling them by their first names.

    Honestly, I'd expect the same.  The first time I'm introduced to a child, it should be by my proper name - "Mrs. C....".  Chances are, I'll tell them to call me Heather if they're children I'm going to be interacting with.

    And the same exception applies - I don't think my good girlfriends started their children calling me Mrs. C, but I met most of htem before their children could speak :D

    I'm just gonna go ahead and ITA this. 

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    imageIdahoGirl:

    We're teaching Madelyn to call adults Mrs./Mr. until she's invited to call them by their first name.  Then, it's the adult's choice.

    The only exception to that are our very close friends.  We've started out by calling them by their first names.

    Honestly, I'd expect the same.  The first time I'm introduced to a child, it should be by my proper name - "Mrs. C....".  Chances are, I'll tell them to call me Heather if they're children I'm going to be interacting with.

    And the same exception applies - I don't think my good girlfriends started their children calling me Mrs. C, but I met most of htem before their children could speak :D

    I'm just gonna go ahead and ITA this. 

     

    Yeah, I think it's hard when you have known someone since they were a baby, so they grow up hearing your first name, so of course they're not going to suddenly learn "mrs. whoever" later.  That's why I think things sort of change in schoool.  You start "meeting" new kids at that age.   

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