Vent...mean people!

soinlove26 · April 2011

ok so maybe I should be posting this on the "name board" but I recently told a stranger ( a cashier) my name choices and she made a face!! II didnt even ask her opinion!! I am purposely not telling my family or friends the names until the baby is born but I figured it wouldnt hurt to tell a stranger...boy was I wrong. I left CVS in tears!! Why are people so mean!!??

PS...the names are

Jamison Ava for a girl ( hubbys name is James so i thought it was a cute idea)

and Holden James for a boy ( named from my all time favorite novel The Catcher in the RYE)

christinaramirez08 · April 2011

Those are perfectly fine names. The CVS cashier is just an idiot.

Sweetpea1718 · April 2011

This is exactly why we are keeping name choices to ourselves.

BabyCakes87 · April 2011

I love Holden!!! That's what I want to name the next boy we have! Great names!

JaysonandKristin · April 2011

You did post this on the BNB. But, you haven't gotten any responses.

There is nothing feminine about Jamison. It's terrible. I would switch the two names to Ava Jamison.

Holden James is a perfectly legitimate, masculine and spelled correctly name.

MrsGo4Hockeychick · April 2011

JaysonandKristin:
You did post this on the BNB. But, you haven't gotten any responses.
There is nothing feminine about Jamison. It's terrible. I would switch the two names to Ava Jamison.
Holden James is a perfectly legitimate, masculine and spelled correctly name.

this.

xoxpipahxox · April 2011

JaysonandKristin:

You did post this on the BNB. But, you haven't gotten any responses.

There is nothing feminine about Jamison. It's terrible. I would switch the two names to Ava Jamison.

Holden James is a perfectly legitimate, masculine and spelled correctly name.

Yes

soinlove26 · April 2011

JaysonandKristin:

You did post this on the BNB. But, you haven't gotten any responses.

There is nothing feminine about Jamison. It's terrible. I would switch the two names to Ava Jamison.

Holden James is a perfectly legitimate, masculine and spelled correctly name.

Ya..after I posted it on here I decided to go ahead and post it on the Name board...sorry for the re post!

lindylogana · April 2011

I like your names. That lady is an idiot. I'm doing the same thing of keeping our names a secret because I don't want to hear/ see people's opinions.

soinlove26 · April 2011

lindylogana:
I like your names. That lady is an idiot. I'm doing the same thing of keeping our names a secret because I don't want to hear/ see people's opinions.

THank you!

kkasper13 · April 2011

JaysonandKristin:
There is nothing feminine about Jamison. It's terrible. I would switch the two names to Ava Jamison.

I know that when we ask about our name choices we as asking for opinions, but some responses seem over the line to me. I don't think there is anything wrong with giving alternatives, but to say that a name choice is "terrible" is really hurtful. That said, I do like Ava Jamison better, but if you like Jamison, go for it!

sunnydaisy · April 2011

Unfortunately, if you're going to share, you have to be prepared for not everyone to like or agree with your choices. A face is better than a comment like, "WTH are you thinking using those?"

I can understand being annoyed by her reaction, but tears seem a bit of an overreaction. I mean, do you really care what she thinks?

mabma80 · April 2011

Not to be insensitive, but I can see why she made a face. Jamison is not a name you hear often for a girl. But I do like "Ava". : )

quezzo · April 2011

JaysonandKristin:

There is nothing feminine about Jamison. It's terrible. I would switch the two names to Ava Jamison.
Holden James is a perfectly legitimate, masculine and spelled correctly name.

This. I thought Jamison was a boy until I saw the middle name.

michellechacon · April 2011

I think Holden is a great name for a boy... it was on my shortlist for boy names

However, I am not crazy about Jamison for a girl... I just think of the whiskey.. sorry! Jaime is a nice faminine form of James.

I LOVE the name Ava... beautiful indeed.

TeacherVicky · April 2011

Sweetpea1718:
This is exactly why we are keeping name choices to ourselves.

Yup, this for us too.

People are more likely to keep their opinions to themselves if the baby is already named, as opposed to if the name is still only an option.

Gipper0809 · April 2011

Jamison is too masculine for a girl. I did know a girl in college named Jama. (pronounced Jay-ma)

+diana82+ · April 2011

all I can think of when I hear Jamison is Jenna.

sleepingbeauty · April 2011

ok, i'm gonna snob it up for a sec, but she works at cvs. Stick out tongue

skiezik · April 2011

I think those names are fine, and they have meaning for your family. Time to grow some thicker skin.

prism207 · April 2011

You are aware that Jamison means "son of James" right? No wonder she made a face. It is not a good name for a girl. Not cute at all.

eminbmore · April 2011

Your kid, your choice. You totally could have told her to shove it.

BUT - when you name your child something super unique, different, or a name meant for the opposite sex, you're going to get reactions like that. You just are. If you choose to stick with that name, it's something you're going to have to learn to deal with - and let roll off your back. If it's going to bother you every time someone says something like that to you (or if someone says things like that to your little girl), it would be worth considering another name.

Soon2BMrsSikes · April 2011

I think you should name your kids whatever you want to, but you also have to be aware that if you name your child something unusual (people will think you named her after the whiskey, no doubt), people will comment on it...to you and also to her. People are going to ask her if she was named after alcohol.

So if you want to name her Jamison, go with it, but be aware of those things.

MsDexter · April 2011

I like both of those names. Before we knew we were having a girl our name choices were Jamison Murray for a boy and Addison Raelyn for a girl. Ray is a family name so we wanted to incorporate it somehow.

backinpgh · April 2011

Yea, I don't see why people can't just at least smile and nod if they don't like it...clearly she was just making polite conversation with you, can't she also have a polite response?!

But since you posted the names, I'll say that I love the name Jameson, but not so much for a girl. Holden James I like those.

pettycrocker · April 2011

prism207:
You are aware that Jamison means "son of James" right? No wonder she made a face. It is not a good name for a girl. Not cute at all.

Sorry but this is exactly what I thought when I read the post. That is the literal meaning, so I'm not sure why you would want a daughter named "son of James" But really, to each their own!

SugarQueen101 · April 2011

Yep, some people are mean. My sister in law gave me grief about a potential girl name. I went off on her for putting her foot in her mouth...

mabst196 · April 2011

That's why you don't tell people, especially random people that you don't give a sh!t about their opinion.

OvensReady4aBun · April 2011

I think they are both beautiful names, The fact that they have a meaning to them make them even better. Cause when the baby gets older and asks you why you named them that you can explain it. I hope its a girl. cause i love that name. Who cares what people think. its you and your family that are going to be in the childs life the most. Have confidence in yourself and everything will be fine. :]

Baby428 · April 2011

Jamison is a boy's name, so that is probably why the cashier made a face. I agree with PP and that Ava Jamison would be so super cute. I'm a teacher, so I've heard a lot of names out there...but never this one for a girl

KAK ;-> · April 2011

If it is a name that you love then you need to be able to stick up for it. If you can't then you shouldn't expect your child to, JMHO.

FWIW, my SO's name is James and we are using Jacqueline as a MN. Our DD's FN is Dagny. People either love it or hate it and we're fine with that. Our baby, our choice and her story.

laurel-poppy · April 2011

eminbmore:
Your kid, your choice. You totally could have told her to shove it.
BUT - when you name your child something super unique, different, or a name meant for the opposite sex, you're going to get reactions like that. You just are. If you choose to stick with that name, it's something you're going to have to learn to deal with - and let roll off your back. If it's going to bother you every time someone says something like that to you (or if someone says things like that to your little girl), it would be worth considering another name.

We picked a unique name (and not, it's not 'Unique') and I learned to just stop asking people for opinions, even on the bump (looks like you got a lot of similar reactions from people on here). I don't blame you for crying. These hormones are crazy. I cried while singing a Taylor Swift song the other day. Your skin will have to get thicker eventually but for now while you're still sensitive, just keep the names to yourself

jupiterthecat · April 2011

Name your child whatever you want, but please grow a thicker skin and get used to confused/ disapproving faces if you plan to name your daughter Jamison. Not only is it a boys name, but since it means son of James, it's kind of like a double boys name! You may not be familiar with it as a boys name, but it is increasing in popularity and your daughter will be surrounded by male Jamesons, and people will become more familiar with it as a boy's name and will always expect a guy when they see her name written. Somewhere on the baby names board there's a link to an article written by a woman with a boy's name about how it's impacted her life-- it was full of annoyances.

RobynK · April 2011

prism207:
You are aware that Jamison means "son of James" right? No wonder she made a face. It is not a good name for a girl. Not cute at all.

THIS.

Plus, if James is potential to be the middle name of your boy why not make it the middle name for a girl? Honestly though, Jamison is NOT a girl name. Think of what that poor girl will have to suffer through for her entire life.

Trust me -- most of the people I run into think Robyn is a boy name (well, spelled Robin) so I've been there and would never do that to my child.

MNgirl326 · April 2011

I can see why she made the face.

lookingformommyland · April 2011

I like boy/boyish sounding names for girls with really feminine middle names. At the end of the day it's all about what you and DH like not anyone else.

WashingtonQueen · April 2011

I personally really dont like Jamison for a girl. You are going to name your kids whatever you want but, I just thought I would throw in my 2 cents. I think Ava Jamison is a lot better.

1momma · April 2011

you could spell it Jamyson, that would totally make it more girly.... Confused

katchowski · April 2011

I may be different in this, but I love the name Jamison. It is unique, and can be shortened easily to Jamie if she doesn't like it. (I like the idea of giving the kid the option of nicknames, since I have used one most of my life)

I also think Holden is a great name, but I might have made a face hearing it 'cause I actually hate Cather in the Rye. With that said ignore the personal preferences of others, everyone has weird pet peeves (ex/ me hating Cather in the Rye) that influence them. You are the one that has to raise the person you name, it is more important for you to love the name than anyone else.

notfat · April 2011

I think everyone should keep thier opinion of names to themselves. Its the age old saying, "if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all".

Seriously though WhoTheF cares what you name your kids. If they have a problem with your name choices they should stop and think, "I wonder how many people hate my kids names?" (Answer plenty). Truth is we all have an association with a name. I for example hate the ever classic Sarah because of a mean girl in school.

Ps I love unique names so good for you!

Skibunny07 · April 2011

+diana82+:
all I can think of when I hear Jamison is Jenna.

I was just going to say this. Please do not name your daughter Jamison... I think most people would associate this with the porn star (Jenna Jameson). Jamison is just not feminine at all. You could get away with it as a middle name and do Ava Jamison if you want, Or just do like Jamie or something if you want to honor your DH.

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