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November 2011 Moms
JnJ_9.22.07
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"you're pregnant? wow! how do you feel?"
JnJ_9.22.07
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I never realized how annoying this was until now. I won't be asking this of preggos I encounter in the future.
1 - If I feel like garbage, I would probably rather not discuss it.
2- If I feel fine, it's really pretty irrelevant.
I feel fine... pregnant, but fine, thankyouverymuch.
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Re: "you're pregnant? wow! how do you feel?"
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I don't mind so far....a bunch of my college students figured it out over the last couple weeks. They were really cute and kind. I liked being able to share my pregnancy with the public, since we haven't announced yet.
Ask me again in a couple weeks...
Oh, yeah. I told DH that we're just going to start saying "We haven't decided" for all of those questions because I got so sick of the commentary:
- "You're going to find out the sex? Don't you want to be surprised?"
- "Really? That name?"
- "What do you mean you're NOT going to breastfeed?!?!"
shut. up.
Oh my, my my. You ladies have a loooong road ahead of you! Personally, I have never minded b/c I think it's nice when we can show that we care about each other in this crazy, f-d up world. It's a nice, happy, positive thing for people to talk about and the questions are just people trying to express their interest/concern for you.
Meh, I take the "How are you feeling?" questions as a sign that my friends and family care about my well being. I feel like crap, all the time, so its also seems like a natural question to ask. I would ask a friend the same thing if they had been sick for 5 weeks and it was still going strong.
That being said, just wait until a complete stranger tries to touch my belly or ask about my weight. I am usually a pretty shy, nonconfrontational person, but I am already brainstorming comebacks for when people invade my personal space.
Baby Turtle - November 2014
I don't mind the "how are you feeling?" questions. The women I work with who I think figured out I'm pregnant but haven't asked me about it yet seem to always ask me this. I find it cute, it's like their little way of showing that they know without blowing my cover.
I don't know what I'm going to do with the random people touching my belly in the supermarket scenario. I'm really not a touchy-feely person, I've been to soooo many hands-on women's self-denfense classes (one of my close friends is an instructor so I always get to go to the pilot run for free), I hope I don't put some unassuming old lady in a chokehold and scream, "Rape!"
This is what freaks me out the most. I don't mind the questions - stupid or not. It's the personal space infringers that irritate me. I'm excited to have a bump and look PG rather than fat but I'm not looking forward to random bumb touchers. I just hope I remain calm, cool and collected if people try to touch the bump. Boundaries, people, boundaries.
Agreed.
I hate that and I equally hate when people say to me "Your life is going to change FOREVER when you have those babies."
Really? It is? Huh, I never would have IMAGINED that having another human or two that is COMPLETELY dependent on me to take care of it would change anything. *rolls eyes*
lol -- one of my VERY anti-kid but know-it-all friends says this every time she sees me. It cracks me up to no end. It's true in a no-duh way, but coming from her, it's just funny. She says it like she knows for certain, as if she has ten kids or something. I also get a hoot hearing her pregnancy advice for the same reason.
Typically, I don't like the "just wait" comments, but just wait. You may think you know, but you have no idea. And then, you'll probably say that exact thing to someone someday.
Love this thread. My pregnancy was a COMPLETE surprise. We are apparently the 1% of people who can get pregnant on birth control even without doing anything wrong. So its taken my DH and I bit of time to really get used to this idea. I am 11 weeks and we haven't told too many people yet, but my first experience with the annoying comments was my sister in law. When we told my in laws everyone was surprised and happy. I had just finished talking about how sick i was, how tired i was and frustrated at not wearing my regular clothes and my sister in law promptly says "oh come on....being pregnant is fabulous and you were too skinny to start with".
What on earth made her think it was suddenly ok to say something like that. Anyway i just said, maybe for you. I am sure it will get better, but i would really prefer not to feel like crap all the time.
DH and I have told just a handful of people and really haven't gotten that many questions, not nearly as many as I thought we would.
I'm at the age where I'm surrounded by friends and family having babies, so I've developed my standard question: "What are you most looking forward to?" It lets the mother give a different response than the standard how are you feeling, due date, sex answer.
As for anyone that asks "Do you know what you're having?" My response will be:
- It's either a basketball or a baby, I guess we'll find out in November.
- I'm pretty sure it's a baby
- We hope it's a pony!
I can be sarcastic when I need to be!
Emily, I love the "we hope its a pony!"....
definitely going to use that!
On cafepress.com (where I ordered my "coming out" shirt) they have a maternity shirt that says, "We hope it's a pony." I recommend it. I should have ordered the shirt that says "Don't touch, I bite."