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WWYD (sort of IFV related)

abvernonabvernon
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So I am out this cycle. Boo. Spotting since yesterday. Boo.

So here is my dilemma. DH's cousin is getting married in Mexico in November. We really would like to go as she came to our wedding. The IL's are asking questions if we booked our airfare and if we are coming (they know nothing of our IF struggles) and we keep avoiding the question.

I am not sure how far along I would be or how I would feel by November if we are successful between now and November. DH and I talked a bit and said we could make this a mini vacation and if I am PG, a babymoon.

Cost is not the issue as we would be able to afford the airfare and hotel.

WWYD?

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  • illinigalillinigal member
    I would book the trip to Mexico.  No more putting life on hold because you may or may not be pregnant... I've done that too much and no more.  I hope it ends up being your babymoon.
    TTC #1 since October 2008. Dealing with MFI.
    IVF #1 w ICSI in July 2010 = BFN
    IVF #2.1 in Oct 2010 converted to IUI = BFN
    IVF #2.2 w ICSI in Dec 2010 = BFN
    Met with new RE in new city on 1/31/11.
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    Beta #1 on 5/10 (10dp5dt) = 99.4. Beta #2 on 5/12 = 284. First u/s on 5/26. = Fraternal TWINS!
    Twin boys born & lost on 8/16/11 at 18w1d due to PPROM & preterm labor.
    IVF #4.1 in Jan 2012 converted to IUI on 1/7/12 = BFN
    IVF #4.2 w ICSI in Feb 2012. Lupron on 2/10. Stims on 2/18. ER on 2/29- 7R,6F
    ET scheduled for 3/5/12- nothing to transfer :(
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  • love2b_mrstlove2b_mrst member

    I would go.  Since you are past the point of being due around the wedding, you would just have the possibility of being pg when you go.  Sounds like fun, and it sucks to have to always put everything on hold because of what may be.

    My H and I booked an all-inclusive vacation for July...I could be newly pg or I could have to push back a cycle, but we decided we didn't care and wanted to do something fun this summer without worrying about all the what ifs that we think about all the time.

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  • msjcordovamsjcordova member

    imageillinigal:
    I would book the trip to Mexico.  No more putting life on hold because you may or may not be pregnant... I've done that too much and no more.  I hope it ends up being your babymoon.

    This! Go and have an amazing time! 

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  • DeputiesWifeDeputiesWife

    Book the trip. But get insurance -- just incase.

    my brother and SIL (also struggle with IF) jsut did the same thing -- her BFF is getting married in Aruba next year, 2012, and they were sick of putting everything on hold for the what'ifs.

    TTC #2 since June '08

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  • OCW2010OCW2010

    imageillinigal:
    I would book the trip to Mexico.  No more putting life on hold because you may or may not be pregnant... I've done that too much and no more.  I hope it ends up being your babymoon.

    I totally agree with this.

    GL abv!

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    1/11: IUI #2 = 5mg Femara + trigger + IUI = BFN
    2/11: IUI #3 = injectibles + trigger + IUI = BFN
    IVF #1 April 2011 ER 4/23 w/16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 11 fert., 4 blasts to freeze, 5dt of 2 blasts on 4/28, beta #1 5/7 = 243... beta #2 5/9 = 491....beta #3 5/11 = 1113!!
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  • Bella2u07Bella2u07 member
    imageDeputiesWife:

    Book the trip. But get insurance -- just incase.

    Ditto!  I can't stress enough about buying insurance. 

    We didn't buy insurance on our last trip and had to cancel 4 days before b/c I had an ectopic pregnancy that needed to be monitored.  BUY the insurance!!!

    TTC #1 Since 11/08 - Dx: MFI & PCOS
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    2012: Jan We're Certified FC/A Parents
    May IVF #3 = c/p
    June-Nov Foster Mommy to M (Toddler)
    July FET #2 = BFN
    Aug FET #3 = BFN
    Sept-Nov Foster Mommy to Baby Bella (Newborn)
    Nov HSG/Sono = Clear!
    Dec FET #4 = BFN

    2013: Feb FET #5 = m/c @ 6.5w
    May-July Foster Mom to H (8 yr old girl)
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  • madelyn07madelyn07 member

    I'd go.

     

    TTC #1 since June 2008 *SAIFW*

    TI, IUIs, IVF = c/ps and BFNs

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  • Delta04Delta04 member

    imageillinigal:
    I would book the trip to Mexico.  No more putting life on hold because you may or may not be pregnant... I've done that too much and no more.  I hope it ends up being your babymoon.

    Yes...and you can always book the insurance.

    TTC since 3/07. IVF#1 = canceled. IVF#2 = 0% fertilization. IVF#3 = BFN. IVF#4 = c/p.  
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  • STL34STL34 member

    imageillinigal:
    I would book the trip to Mexico.  No more putting life on hold because you may or may not be pregnant... I've done that too much and no more.  I hope it ends up being your babymoon.

    This, but I would probably get some trip insurance for this one!

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    IVF #1 - long lupron (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 4 retrieved, 3 fertilized; ET 2 blasts and 1 frozen = BFN

    IVF #2 - a version of antagonist with EPP (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 6 retrieved, 4 mature, 3 fertilized, 2 blasts and 1 frozen blast transferred on day 5 = BFN.

    IVF #3 April was postponed to May, May was canceled. June/July was canceled. Had a cyst aspiration and then began IVF #3 in August. ER on 8/22; ET on 8/24 with AH. +HPT on 9/5. Beta #1 (11dpo) = 3; Beta #2 (15dpo) = 29; Beta #3 (17dpo) = 60; Beta #4 (19 dpo) = 118. Heartbeat at 6 weeks 6 days =132.  Lil is here!

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    IVF #5:  MDLF + Lovenox = 4R, 1F = Transferred 1 10-cell compacting embryo on day 3 = BFN

    IVF #6:  (New RE):  Long Antagonist November 2014 (transferred two 8 cell grade 1 embryos and froze one blast) = BFN

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  • abvernonabvernon
    Thanks ladies. DH and I will be booking a trip soon and thanks for the tip about the insurance.
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  • love2b_mrstlove2b_mrst member

    Def check the cancellation policies/change fees before you book insurance.  For us, we can cancel our room up to the day before.  Also, we are using points for our flight so there wasn't big change fees associated with that.  The insurance may not be worth it for a flight/hotel trip, especially if you get the cancel for any reason.

    I think for cruises especially it's a good idea, or flights that have big cancellation/change fees.

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  • Mandy_Lou83Mandy_Lou83 member

    imageillinigal:
    I would book the trip to Mexico.  No more putting life on hold because you may or may not be pregnant... I've done that too much and no more.  I hope it ends up being your babymoon.

    Yes

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  • MBfromBMCMBfromBMC

    I would def go...

    If you are PG by then, fantastic, but if you aren't, you will be miserable and heartbroken if you are sitting at home while your family is at the wedding.  Don't put your life on hold!

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    IUI #5 ~ Femara/Ovidrel/TI/IUI ~ BFN
    IUIs #6-9 ~ Research Study Meds/Pregnyl/TI/IUI ~ all BFNs
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