DS is not PTed yet. In fact, he's never gone on the potty ever. We bought him a potty when he was 18 months so he could get used to it and sit on it clothes and he did that for awhile. But then he was over it. Now he doesn't even sit on it clothed. He's not scared (I don't think)--just not interested. We talk about going on the potty all of the time, nearly every time we change his diaper or when we see other kids his age in the bathroom. We bought him Cars underpants as a motivator. He thinks they are cute, but refuses to try them on. My pedi says not to push him, but just to continue to talk it up and let him go at his own pace. He honestly wasn't showing any signs of readiness until around 3. Now he will hide under the table or in the kitchen when pooping. But he still doesn't tell us ahead of time and usually doesn't mind having a dirty diaper. He just doesn't care. He also poops at least 2-3 times a day, and some days it's 4-5. So that's tough.
He's very bright and totally understands what potty training is. He even comments about how his friends are potty training. He'll say that he'll be done with diapers soon, but not yet.
I obviously don't believe in pushing a child who is not ready (am of the mindset that it shouldn't be hard and will be easier when they are ready), but we are going to have to push him in some way soon. He starts preschool in August and must be trained. I never dreamed we'd be worrying about the deadline, but here we are.
What approach should I take? I don't like the methods that involve getting him naked and staying home for days. Our schedule doesn't allow it and he actually doesn't like being naked. Nor do I want to clean up pee and poop with a crawling baby and cats in the house. He is also not motivated by stickers or rewards. They just won't do the trick with him. He's generally been the type of kid who will decide to do something and fully commit--a bit of a perfectionist that way. It's hard to trick him or coerce to do something he doesn't want to do. He's also not adventurous and doesn't like to venture outside of his comfort zone.
Any advice for a book, method, strategy would be appreciated. We are going to have to address this soon!