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XP: how do you handle parties w/LO's food allergies?

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I'll be taking DD to my cousin's son's first birthday party in a few weeks and i'm not sure how to handle food with DD's nut free diet. I know right off the bat that she can't have the cake (since it will be ordered from a bakery and nothing around here is nut free...)

The food I think will be brought by family and I also wont know what is going in to everything.

Is it odd/rude to bring something for DD to eat when they cut the cake? I really dont know how to approach it...

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Re: XP: how do you handle parties w/LO's food allergies?

  • PAP179PAP179
    I'm wondering the same..except DS has allergies to dairy, egg and nut so we are really limited.  He was invited to my friend;s nephew's party and I decided not to go because they were having a Thomas cake and he is obsessed with Thomas.  I usually will just bring a safe cupcake for him but I knew he'd really want some ;(
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  • livingituplivingitup

    It's quite common for parents to ask about the menu and bring a look-alike substitute for young children. My sister brings gluten free pasta, if pasta is served. Or gluten free pizza if they are giving kids pizza. She ALWAYS brings a gluten free cupcake for her DD when cake is served. Sister just puts it on a plate for DD and says, 'here's yours, honey.' DD has been taught since 2.5 to never take food without asking mommy. Now, she knows how to ask if something is gluten free and won't risk eating if the person doesn't know.  

    My DD is 3 and I still bring food choices for her and she doesn't have an allergy. When I'm organized, I do it to make sure she has some healthy, balanced options that she likes. I wouldn't hesitate to bring a nut-free cupcake if she had a nut allergy.

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  • thanxbabythanxbaby member
    I agree with pp, find out what will be served and bring something similar for your DD.  I used to work with kids with autism who were on the gluten/dairy free diet and this is what the mom did for bday parties at school (she would send in a brownie or a donut) he never noticed the difference.
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  • MaxandRubyMaxandRuby member
    DS2 has a nut allergy and everyone in my family knows.  I'd bring my own food for my child to eat.  You can also forewarn your cousin (if they don't already know) that because of the nut allergy you are most comfortable bringing your own food for your child.  Personally, I wouldn't blink an eye if someone brought specific food for their child at my house.  All the power to them if that is what makes them comfortable.
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  • C.squaredC.squared member
    DD just recently outgrew a dairy allergy (hooray!).  I always used to take a cupcake for her (or even a banana muffin and she'd be happy).  Cherrybrook Farms (I think that's the name) has decent allergy free mixes and frosting, so she was none the wiser.  I would also find out about the menu and bring something similar.  For a while, we had a lot of pizza parties to go to, so I'd just take some "dairy free" pizza and heat it up there.  If I couldn't find something similar, I'd take something that I knew was a treat for her that she'd be likely to eat and enjoy.  DD knows she can't eat the same food as everyone else and doesn't necessarily feel deprived by it - we just remind her that it will make her tummy hurt.  I never had anyone be offended by me bringing food for her (at least I hope not - everyone always encouraged it). 
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  • Court0026Court0026 member
    We always bring something.  And we don't even go if they are offering nuts.  I don't think twice about it, although I will bring enough of our snack to share if there are other little kids and it looks yummy. 
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  • psuash7psuash7
    Why don't you call the host and explain the situation and ask if they would be okay with you bringing something.  This way the host will understand/know the situation and who cares what the other party go'ers think?!
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  • smiling76smiling76 member

    Anywhere we go I bring stuff for DS--he's allergic to wheat, egg, dairy, nuts and peanuts (although now has grown out of egg allergy and peanut--but that is super recent).

    I bake cupcakes and freeze them--and use a pillsbury icing that you spray on but doesn't need to be refridgerated--so it's awesome to just frost one at a time.  Here is the recipe for the cupcakes:  https://www.eatingwithfoodallergies.com/allergyfreebirthdaycake.html

    then I have a little thermos I put his "food" in to---so if they are having pizza, I will have a "safe" pizza (Amy's kitchen has great ones)--for him.  I try to duplicate what they are having--but otherwise I make and freeze mini meatloafs for him. 

    People just expect it really----- especially with something like a peanut allergy where it's very serious. 


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