FFFC!

blueLu25 · April 2011

You guys are the best

jcyahne · April 2011

MSTie24:
cmcmillan:
Also what he heck is PLing/PL'ed?
PL= potty learning. Training just sounds like what you do for a dog, I heard the term potty learning and liked it better. Forgot that it's not in super common use yet

I think I liked potty training better. My dog figured it out in a few weeks. And he can't cry "no underwear".

MSTie24 · April 2011

cmcmillan:
MSTie24:
cmcmillan:

Also what he heck is PLing/PL'ed?
PL= potty learning. Training just sounds like what you do for a dog, I heard the term potty learning and liked it better. Forgot that it's not in super common use yet
Ok, totally understandable. But it is "training" taking them to the bathroom every 20 minutes and most likely cleaning up messes along the way. They don't need to learn how to go to the bathroom, just where.

Oh, I know, it's totally a personal semantics thing. I guess I just like the idea that *they* are "learning" how it feels when they need to use the bathroom, "learning" to tell me that, and also "learning" the importance why they need to go in the potty rather than in diapers. I am more the one that will be trained to stick her on the can regularly, I think, LOL.

AnnetteWalker · April 2011

MSTie24 Thanks for the site that may work for us.

Caldwell he wears underwear at home and does really well. He knows when he has to go and always goes poop on the potty. He needs some help with the pants up and down and that is what daycare says that he has to be good at that before he can come in underwear. It just irritates me that they want him in pull ups because I think it is easier for them and they don't have to really "work" on helping him learn that skill.

We are looking at having him go to Sunnyside in Lake Stevens. So we may change anyway.

Caldwell what was your thoughts on Sunnyside I know Mason was there this year.

MSTie24 · April 2011

jcyahne:
MSTie24:
cmcmillan:
Also what he heck is PLing/PL'ed?
PL= potty learning. Training just sounds like what you do for a dog, I heard the term potty learning and liked it better. Forgot that it's not in super common use yet
I think I liked potty training better. My dog figured it out in a few weeks. And he can't cry "no underwear".

Haha, I like cats best. You don't even have to train them, it's instinctual to use the litter box.

shar01 · April 2011

Ever since giving birth I don't like the cat any more. I was never a big fan of her to began with, but now I really can't stand her.

I haven't let her sit on my lap for longer than a minute, I don't pet her, kiss her, hold her, play with her (all things I used to do). I feed her, change her water, & clean the litter box but that's about it. If we didn't have a cat I'd be much happier but my husband likes her so she's sticking around. If it were up to me, she'd have a new home.

Jas*sGirl · April 2011

Jas and Ads are leaving this weekend to go see family and I have the house to myself. I am equally excited and terrified!! I have not had a weekend to not think about any else but myself in almost 3 years....I hope I still like myself.

MSTie24 · April 2011

shar01:
Ever since giving birth I don't like the cat any more. I was never a big fan of her to began with, but now I really can't stand her.
I haven't let her sit on my lap for longer than a minute, I don't pet her, kiss her, hold her, play with her (all things I used to do). I feed her, change her water, & clean the litter box but that's about it. If we didn't have a cat I'd be much happier but my husband likes her so she's sticking around. If it were up to me, she'd have a new home.

Not a flame, but thank you for keeping her, she depends on you and pets are a lifetime commitment. I love watching DD interact with our cats, she loves them very much and you can tell. I hope that in time you will be able to enjoy you cat more again, especially as you see your baby light up when watching her as ours does. We have 7 pets so they definitely don't get the same kind of attention they did before DD was born, but we try to give them as many scritches, pets and snuggles as we can so they remember they are loved too. Just keep in mind that she may begin to act out if she feels "replaced" so try to give her love whenever you can so she knows she is still an important part of your family. May I ask if there is a reason why you are not a fan (maybe just not a cat person?) Sometimes the truly fun side of cats needs a little bit of extra "persuasion" to come out and I'd be happy to share some thoughts with you if you'd like.

JodiLinn503 · April 2011

I should be happy to pass along the things people gave us for DD. We have several friends who are pregnant or have a newborn. We were super blessed and got tons of great gifts. Instead, I really just want to save it all for the B&B Fair and sell it. It makes me feel like a selfish, bad friend, but money is tight and it'd be great to get a little from DD's stuff!

blueLu25 · April 2011

Jas*sGirl:
Jas and Ads are leaving this weekend to go see family and I have the house to myself. I am equally excited and terrified!! I have not had a weekend to not think about any else but myself in almost 3 years....I hope I still like myself.

house party!

kaskade · April 2011

BlueLu, Amy, hugs.

I have pretended to be asleep more than once this week so DH would take a midnight coughing fit/wakeup.

My old daycare lady is still watching kids. It's driving me nuts. Every other day someone calls or finds me to tell me, as if I can fix it. I called the licensor and she's going to do another surprise inspection today. She did one last week and the daycare lady just explained that she was "just watching her friend's kids while the friend was at work" as if that's not bleeping daycare! Argh. I have had to stop myself multiple times from standing in front of her home all day and giving all the parents a copy of the suspension letter. WTF. Why aren't these parents looking on the state website, which clearly shows her license is suspended????

On the good side, she was referred to the prosecutor for criminal charges for leaving K on the bed, alone, with hard floors. I'm not going to lie, I'm pissed that my baby is going to now have an involvement in the criminal records system, even as a victim. I don't want her name in the database.

cmcmillan · April 2011

kaskade:

My old daycare lady is still watching kids. It's driving me nuts. Every other day someone calls or finds me to tell me, as if I can fix it. I called the licensor and she's going to do another surprise inspection today. She did one last week and the daycare lady just explained that she was "just watching her friend's kids while the friend was at work" as if that's not bleeping daycare! Argh. I have had to stop myself multiple times from standing in front of her home all day and giving all the parents a copy of the suspension letter. WTF. Why aren't these parents looking on the state website, which clearly shows her license is suspended????

On the good side, she was referred to the prosecutor for criminal charges for leaving K on the bed, alone, with hard floors. I'm not going to lie, I'm pissed that my baby is going to now have an involvement in the criminal records system, even as a victim. I don't want her name in the database.

WTF!!! That is crazy, it's too bad we can't do some kind of Bumpie Sting. That would be awesome, totally set her up. Keep us posted on what happens.

pearly1 · April 2011

Mine is kind of related to Bluelu's confession.

I get really really angry (like quiet, shaky angry) when I hear people get scornful about women who kill their children. I don't know why I have such a strong reaction. I mean, I know there are straight up psychopaths out there, but I just feel like the act of killing your children is so unnatural, so unfathomable, that any woman who does that must be suffering in a way that I can't begin to understand. She must have not gotten any of the support she needed, and I think that it's not fair to lay blame.

And so many women suffer from depression, and let it get worse and worse, out of shame. Out of being afraid they'll be called a bad mother. After a baby is born there are all sorts of well-baby visits, but IMO not enough well-mother visits.

mrssmith717 · April 2011

MOHjen:
My Confessions:
So remember last week when I confessed that Maeve's b-day decorations were still up, well yeah they are still up again this week. I will take them down this weekend though!
Maeve's 1 year appt is tomorrow and I think I'm going to push to get her gross motor skill evaluated. Our doctor is pretty laid back, which I usually love but I need to press this. She is really behind and I don't care if I come across as being a crazy mom. I have a very strong feeling that she needs some sort of PT.

I just wanted to give you a high five for being awesome! So many people put blinders up and ignore issues, and I think you're great for going with your gut.

MOHjen · April 2011

mrs_smith717:
MOHjen:
Maeve's 1 year appt is tomorrow and I think I'm going to push to get her gross motor skill evaluated. Our doctor is pretty laid back, which I usually love but I need to press this. She is really behind and I don't care if I come across as being a crazy mom. I have a very strong feeling that she needs some sort of PT.
I just wanted to give you a high five for being awesome! So many people put blinders up and ignore issues, and I think you're great for going with your gut.

This seriously almost made me cry! Thanks for making me feel like I'm not a crazy mom!

mrssmith717 · April 2011

blueLu25:
1. I have no idea what Bigger Dance is, I guess I should google it.
2. I miss CG. CG where arrrrrrre youuuu?
3. This is a big one that I am kinda embarrassed to say, but need to get it off my chest--
Last night I had a MAJOR breakdown. Home alone with the kids, while dh was at school. Something in me just snapped and for a moment I could understand why the lady who drove off the bridge with her kids did it. Except that I would never do it with the kids in the car. There was a lot of screaming and I went up to our room to be alone for a min and slammed the door as hard as I possibly could. I was kind of hoping I would break it, but I guess I'm not that strong. Anyway, I have never felt that angry and out of control in a long time. But not at the kids, just in general, so overwhelmed. I texted dh and told him he needed to come home. I have been doing EVERYTHING by myself for so many weeks now, I guess the stress had to come out somewhere.
I drove the kids around the neighborhood hoping they would sleep, til dh got home and we barely even talked about it. He just went and fell asleep on the couch.
I need some time away. But strangely, I feel a lot better today. I need to learn how to ask for help tho.

Don't be embarrassed, I'm glad you have a place where you *can* confess this stuff! Good for you for taking time to yourself. I know it's kind of dorky, but sometimes writing a letter to DH helps me to process what I really need from him, what I really want to change, and what is and isn't necessary for me to bring up with him. Do you have any time during a day that you can have some "L-time"? I need my 10'oclock bath to just think, read, not be touched. Does E go down for bed at the same time as O? Take some time to reflect on what you need to change, what are some realistic changes you could see your DH taking on, etc.

So glad you're feeling better. Not sure if you really wanted the advice, but there you have it.

zazzu · April 2011

MOHjen:
mrs_smith717:
MOHjen:

Maeve's 1 year appt is tomorrow and I think I'm going to push to get her gross motor skill evaluated. Our doctor is pretty laid back, which I usually love but I need to press this. She is really behind and I don't care if I come across as being a crazy mom. I have a very strong feeling that she needs some sort of PT.

I just wanted to give you a high five for being awesome! So many people put blinders up and ignore issues, and I think you're great for going with your gut.

This seriously almost made me cry! Thanks for making me feel like I'm not a crazy mom!

W is delayed on his gross motor skills. I'm super sensetive to watching his pals climb around while he just lays there. Our pedi referred us to the Kindering Center in Bellevue for an evaluation. They've recommended in-home pt using play to encouragemhim to try because of a 25% delay. We haven't started pt yet, but I've been impressed with the center overall, and I'm glad we got an evaluation. You're NOT a crazy mom.

shar01 · April 2011

MSTie24:
shar01:
Ever since giving birth I don't like the cat any more. I was never a big fan of her to began with, but now I really can't stand her.
I haven't let her sit on my lap for longer than a minute, I don't pet her, kiss her, hold her, play with her (all things I used to do). I feed her, change her water, & clean the litter box but that's about it. If we didn't have a cat I'd be much happier but my husband likes her so she's sticking around. If it were up to me, she'd have a new home.
Not a flame, but thank you for keeping her, she depends on you and pets are a lifetime commitment. I love watching DD interact with our cats, she loves them very much and you can tell. I hope that in time you will be able to enjoy you cat more again, especially as you see your baby light up when watching her as ours does. We have 7 pets so they definitely don't get the same kind of attention they did before DD was born, but we try to give them as many scritches, pets and snuggles as we can so they remember they are loved too. Just keep in mind that she may begin to act out if she feels "replaced" so try to give her love whenever you can so she knows she is still an important part of your family. May I ask if there is a reason why you are not a fan (maybe just not a cat person?) Sometimes the truly fun side of cats needs a little bit of extra "persuasion" to come out and I'd be happy to share some thoughts with you if you'd like.

Usually I am a cat person but this cat just isn't my favorite.
My cat (Yasha) died 2 years ago & our current cat (Zola) was adopted a few months after my cat died. I had Yasha for 6 years (she was adopted as an older cat, the shelter estimated she was 8 years old when I adopted her) & I think it just wasn't enough time in between cats for me to heal from Yasha's death. I loved my cat to pieces & when she died I didn't want another cat but my husband did so I went along with it. In hindsight, I wish I would have told him I wanted to wait before adopting again but we didn't and it is what it is.
Zola has definitely gotten way less attention from me although my husband still makes sure she gets loving from him (he's always been her favorite). I do need to make a conscious effort to pay more attention to her - I'm not mean to her I just kinda ignore her & she ignores me unless she wants food or a quick scratch session.

Thanks for the gentle reminder about pets being a pet lifetime commitment & yes, any ideas you have to help coax the fun side out of Zola would be great. Yasha was strictly a lap cat whereas Zola doesn't want to sit on anyone's lap unless it's her idea.

blueLu25 · April 2011

pearly1:
Mine is kind of related to Bluelu's confession.
I get really really angry (like quiet, shaky angry) when I hear people get scornful about women who kill their children. I don't know why I have such a strong reaction. I mean, I know there are straight up psychopaths out there, but I just feel like the act of killing your children is so unnatural, so unfathomable, that any woman who does that must be suffering in a way that I can't begin to understand. She must have not gotten any of the support she needed, and I think that it's not fair to lay blame.
And so many women suffer from depression, and let it get worse and worse, out of shame. Out of being afraid they'll be called a bad mother. After a baby is born there are all sorts of well-baby visits, but IMO not enough well-mother visits.

This is very well put. I completely agree.

ckmommy · April 2011

My H put a bottle of milk in the laptop bag. The milk leaked. The computer is dead. I am livid. We just bought it in 2009 and spent decent money on it. I yelled, I admit it. It was a rather dumb thing to do.

pixelvixen · April 2011

There is a guy in my department at work who is gay. He hasn't told any of us (well except one person), but it's quite obvious... and he keeps trying to setup conversation with me to get me to ask him. I want to just tell him "I KNOW" but not sure how. Ideas?

My husband is driving me nuts lately. [I just typed and retyped ten times the reasons why I'm frustrated with him but it's all just blah blah blah blahhhh stuff, so I'm just leaving it at that] HE DRIVES ME NUTS.

StellaZ · April 2011

zazzu:
Our pedi referred us to the Kindering Center in Bellevue for an evaluation. You're NOT a crazy mom.

One of the Mom's in my baby group enrolled her daughter in Kindering at about 14mo. She was really nervous...but they ended up LOVING it and treated it as an extracurricular class basically. Our whole group got together last weekend and her daughter was as sturdy and mobile (we had an egg hunt) as the rest of the 20 month olds...it was amazing to see!

MrsAmyB · April 2011

zazzu:
MOHjen:
mrs_smith717:
MOHjen:

Maeve's 1 year appt is tomorrow and I think I'm going to push to get her gross motor skill evaluated. Our doctor is pretty laid back, which I usually love but I need to press this. She is really behind and I don't care if I come across as being a crazy mom. I have a very strong feeling that she needs some sort of PT.

I just wanted to give you a high five for being awesome! So many people put blinders up and ignore issues, and I think you're great for going with your gut.

This seriously almost made me cry! Thanks for making me feel like I'm not a crazy mom!

W is delayed on his gross motor skills. I'm super sensetive to watching his pals climb around while he just lays there. Our pedi referred us to the Kindering Center in Bellevue for an evaluation. They've recommended in-home pt using play to encouragemhim to try because of a 25% delay. We haven't started pt yet, but I've been impressed with the center overall, and I'm glad we got an evaluation. You're NOT a crazy mom.

Ditto the others! My little guys have developmental delays in different areas (and are ahead in others) and if you feel something is wrong that is great that you want to push the issue. Even things that you aren't so sure about. Like my friends kept mentioning to me that my girls didn't take their bottles well. I didn't realize it, but I bought it up and the pedi send in a PT group Encompass (like the Kindering Center) and they found that they are silent aspirators and that milk is sitting in their lungs which can cause choking and illness. I didn't know! So, I wanted to give you a high-five too

Seattle_JiLLn · April 2011

blueLu25:
pearly1:
Mine is kind of related to Bluelu's confession.
I get really really angry (like quiet, shaky angry) when I hear people get scornful about women who kill their children. I don't know why I have such a strong reaction. I mean, I know there are straight up psychopaths out there, but I just feel like the act of killing your children is so unnatural, so unfathomable, that any woman who does that must be suffering in a way that I can't begin to understand. She must have not gotten any of the support she needed, and I think that it's not fair to lay blame.
And so many women suffer from depression, and let it get worse and worse, out of shame. Out of being afraid they'll be called a bad mother. After a baby is born there are all sorts of well-baby visits, but IMO not enough well-mother visits.
This is very well put. I completely agree.

I agree too!

And blulu and Amy and anyone else who has felt out of control mad/stressed/overwhelmed/aggravated.... I've been there too. A few times too many over this winter actually. I have screamed so loud at Ben that I think I scared him. And I am so hoping he never remembers his mommy acting like that.

Being a mommy is hard work, and when you're overwhelmed and on your own with nowhere to get a break, it's hard to find a good way to cope. I'm trying super hard to stop being a yeller. I even got a book from the library called something like Scream Free Parenting. My FFFC is that I haven't even opened it. I get all of these parenting books from the library and I just never get around to even looking at them. I dont' know why I can't get it together to read and learn what I need to.

Oh and I also will go for a long drive hoping to knock one or both of the kids into a nap and listen to music and drive through Starbucks. It's a way to destress and keep everyone safe from my wrath.

My other FFFC is that I know I need to work on Cooper's sleep habits and I just can't get my act together to do it. What is it with me and being too lazy to change things that would make my life better?

itskacie · April 2011

Leanne and Anne -

I totally feel both of you. I have been overwhelmed more than I would like to admit and yell too much. I think that we all take on way too much ... and people are way to quick to judge and so we feel guilty. Not fair.

My FFFC is that on my way home today (ok, every day) I pass the highschool and cant help but check out all the guys in their baseball pants... then I remember I am over 10 years older than most of them and feel bad, but still keep looking. Embarrassed

itskacie · April 2011

pixelvixen:

My husband is driving me nuts lately. [I just typed and retyped ten times the reasons why I'm frustrated with him but it's all just blah blah blah blahhhh stuff, so I'm just leaving it at that] HE DRIVES ME NUTS.

OMG, i feel you 10000%.

Lunch next week? Or HH after work??

Seattle_JiLLn · April 2011

pixelvixen:
There is a guy in my department at work who is gay. He hasn't told any of us (well except one person), but it's quite obvious... and he keeps trying to setup conversation with me to get me to ask him. I want to just tell him "I KNOW" but not sure how. Ideas?

Ask him if he's dating anyone and if not say you have a guy you want him to meet?

keri1013 · April 2011

Hugs to Leanne, Amy and all the other mamas who need them (which really is all of us at one time or another). Please let me know if there's anything I can do--L, you can always drop one or both kids off with me for a bit and take some time for yourself. You are working really long days now with B back in school and you definitely need some time alone! Or if you want to grab coffee or dinner or whatever, I'm game.

And MOH Jen, add me to the list of high-fivers. I know how hard it is to not see your kid doing what s/he should. For me, getting evaluated was reassurance in and of itself...either they'd tell us there wasn't a delay, or they'd confirm it and we'd get some help, which of course is what happened. But knowing that a professional would do testing was reassuring. And even though he did have significant gross motor delay, it was nice to hear he was ahead in fine motor, and same later on with expressive and receptive speech. If you have any questions or want to vent, I'm here!

doublem · April 2011

Hugs to everyone - there are SO many great mamas here and you all deserve major kudos for being there for your kids when it's rough.

I wish I had some wise words to help, but I'm still figuring it out myself and not sure if I'm doing a decent job of juggling working and mommying. However, my door is always open on evenings/weekends if you need to stop in to vent or have a glass of wine or adult interaction!

My FFFCs:

I'm trying to wait until E is 6 months old to start solids, but she is so darn eager to eat. Last week she grabbed part of my toast while I was eating and I just let her have it and suck on it, and today she had a great time chomping on my banana. I don't think I'll quite stick it out.

I feel like I'm late to all the conversations on here since I can rarely bump from work. It's silly, but by the time I'm home and have free time to chat, sometimes I think, "everyone else has moved on, so why bother commenting?"

dawnies79 · April 2011

I just want to say reading this FFFC and all the supportive responses is really wonderful. It reminds me that being a Mother is not easy, but it has also reminded me that when I become a Mother I will have a place to vent, and get support without judgment. It's a place where a group of wonderful Mothers share their experiences and know they are not alone. I'm so happy to have found the Seattle Bumpies.

Maddimom · April 2011

dawnies79:
I just want to say reading this FFFC and all the supportive responses is really wonderful. It reminds me that being a Mother is not easy, but it has also reminded me that when I become a Mother I will have a place to vent, and get support without judgment. It's a place where a group of wonderful Mothers share their experiences and know they are not alone. I'm so happy to have found the Seattle Bumpies.

YES!!!! Love bumpies

FutureFung · April 2011

itskacie:
My FFFC is that on my way home today (ok, every day) I pass the highschool and cant help but check out all the guys in their baseball pants... then I remember I am over 10 years older than most of them and feel bad, but still keep looking.

Yes Yes Love this.

FutureFung · April 2011

keri1013:
And MOH Jen, add me to the list of high-fivers. I know how hard it is to not see your kid doing what s/he should. For me, getting evaluated was reassurance in and of itself...either they'd tell us there wasn't a delay, or they'd confirm it and we'd get some help, which of course is what happened. But knowing that a professional would do testing was reassuring. And even though he did have significant gross motor delay, it was nice to hear he was ahead in fine motor, and same later on with expressive and receptive speech. If you have any questions or want to vent, I'm here!

High five to all of you!! For being great mamas and taking advantage of the resources that are available to you & your kiddos! Early intervention can be so successful to help kids catch up, and, on behalf of other EI professionals, we *love* working with your sweet babies!!

iHeartHimMore · April 2011

itskacie:
pixelvixen:
My husband is driving me nuts lately. [I just typed and retyped ten times the reasons why I'm frustrated with him but it's all just blah blah blah blahhhh stuff, so I'm just leaving it at that] HE DRIVES ME NUTS.
OMG, i feel you 10000%.
Lunch next week? Or HH after work??

I'm with ya. I feel like I have such a short fuse lately, but it's like one thing after another and eventually reach a limit.

I might have to crash your date. Smile

itskacie:
My FFFC is that on my way home today (ok, every day) I pass the highschool and cant help but check out all the guys in their baseball pants... then I remember I am over 10 years older than most of them and feel bad, but still keep looking.

Um, this is awesome.

kaskade · April 2011

doublem:
I feel like I'm late to all the conversations on here since I can rarely bump from work. It's silly, but by the time I'm home and have free time to chat, sometimes I think, "everyone else has moved on, so why bother commenting?"

I feel like this a lot, and sometimes feel silly because my comment is always the last one. But...no one has ever said anything ever to me, and I think it's just something we notice ourselves! Still comment, we want to hear your opinion!

breebree13 · April 2011

ttgcole:
breebree13:
I feel like so many of you...desperate need of adult convo, stressed from taking care of the kiddos solo (my hubs has a physical handicap so he cant pick up kids, change diapers, give baths or dress kiddos). So my confession would be that i take every chance i can to dump the kiddos off on my Mom. Also I am very excited a little to excited for my delivery of whipped cream vodka and skinny girl margarita coming next week.

I am shy so I haven't made an effort, but let's make an effort to get together very soon, evenings and weekends work for me especially since DH is about to start playing ball like 5 nights a week. We only live 2 houses away from each other so I would love to get together with our boys!

I'm kinda shy too incase you haven't noticed...:) But yes lets get together. I'm sure the boys will have a good time together. I'm also let you hold Syd so you can get some practice holding onto a little girl!

breebree13 · April 2011

doublem:
Hugs to everyone - there are SO many great mamas here and you all deserve major kudos for being there for your kids when it's rough.
I wish I had some wise words to help, but I'm still figuring it out myself and not sure if I'm doing a decent job of juggling working and mommying. However, my door is always open on evenings/weekends if you need to stop in to vent or have a glass of wine or adult interaction!
My FFFCs:
I'm trying to wait until E is 6 months old to start solids, but she is so darn eager to eat. Last week she grabbed part of my toast while I was eating and I just let her have it and suck on it, and today she had a great time chomping on my banana. I don't think I'll quite stick it out.
I feel like I'm late to all the conversations on here since I can rarely bump from work. It's silly, but by the time I'm home and have free time to chat, sometimes I think, "everyone else has moved on, so why bother commenting?"

I've been trying to wait till Syd was 6months too and I have failed! Tonight I gave her some french bread to play with and keep her occupied while we all ate dinner and she was going to town on it. I might pick up some avocado this weekend.

Also now I'm the last person commenting and I hate that... lol

LauraLynneC · April 2011

breebree13:
Also now I'm the last person commenting and I hate that... lol

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