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Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
"Best Friend's" Kid's 1-Year B-Day Party :'(
Okay, first of all I LOVE this kid. He's so sweet and adorable and really makes me feel happy, and his parents are my fiance's really good friends from high school. I'm a lot younger than everyone I am around but the girl, M, and I had gotten really close, I started calling her my best friend and vice versa.
I asked her about a week ago if anyone preggo was gonna be at the party (because I really don't want to be around all the chatter, especially when I'm supposed to be one of them......................) and she said that no one would be there that was.
She posts on Facebook two days ago about how her "besties" were all together and blablabla, and I'm like, I've been dying to do something instead of sit at home all day, real nice.......
So I debate on whether I want to go to the party and decide to go last minute.
As soon as I get there this freaking girl I don't know runs up to my fiance gives him a hug and says "I'm so fat and pregnant! Isn't that so exciting!" And then runs around talking about how she is pregnant and has to pee and how she should get fed first. I literally cried for about an hour, my fiance spends that time ignoring me and then takes me home. Never comforting me.
Then he leaves and is gone until, well after I'd gone to sleep.
Worst day ever.
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Re: "Best Friend's" Kid's 1-Year B-Day Party :'(
Oh my God. I am SO sorry that you had to go through all of that. *HUGE HUGS* There are so many things there that I want to comfort you for and punch other people in the face for.
I've cut my "best friend" out of my life for a situation where she used "her miscarriage" in a fight with me, when she'd never been pg in her life. It hurts like hell to lose that person, but sometimes it just needs to be done. I don't know if that's the case in your situation, but I'm sorry that you have to deal with this one way or the other.
That girl I would punch in the face just for running up to your FI and hugging him, then I'd knock her flat on her @ss for bubbling about herself in front of you.
Your FI definitely needs to be more supportive and understanding. I'd like to box his ears. *hugs again* I'm so sorry this had to happen to you.
I totally need the hugs, thank you. M messaged me and is like, Are you okay, I'm worried. I was just like, no I'm not okay, my baby died and you alone knew that.
I really wanted to punch people but I just cried. I am looking so hard for a job so that I can get an apartment. I think that without L (fiance) around to have emotional expectations for I will become more independent. I really need people to be there for me and I need to learn to be strong for myself.
But step one is a crappy entry level job.
I have also decided that I would enjoy being a midwife (literally somehow it calls to me), so I need to center myself and put my hurt aside and learn to be normal around pregnant women.
BFP 2.19.11 - Missed miscarriage, April 2011
I cannot believe the comments some people have posted their friends making! And it makes me wonder if I've ever done something or said anything while I was pregnant that hurt anyone else. God willing, when I become pregnant again, I will definately be more sensative towards others around me.
It sounds like your fiance had no idea how to react. I am so afriad of my husband "shutting down", either due to my crying all the time or not being able to deal with his own emotions. Definately confront him, because him abandoning you is NOT what you need right now.
BFP#1 EDD 11/8/11 - MC @ 9w6d, 4/15/11 we said goodbye
BFP#2 DD arrived 5/7/12