September 2011 Moms
My 18 month olds first hair cut and possibly hair dye???
Hello out there! I need some advice... I know in advance that this topic may be controversial to some but I would really like some honest advice from some other moms out there! My DD is 18 months old and unfortunatly she was born with red hair.... And when I say red, I really mean orange! (Keep your fingers crossed that baby number 2 due in September has a more normal hair color!) I knew this was a possibility because my DH had orange hair when he was a child but luckily it eventually darkened up and is now more brown in color. I think that it is time for my DD first hair cut and my DH came up with an idea.. Maybe we can dye our DD hair! I know this may seem a bit out of the ordinary, but think about it, when people don't like the color of their hair they change it! When we go out in public, people stare at my poor DD like she has a disease, and if I hear the word "ginger" one more time I think I might just puke! 
Red/Orange hair is just not desirable in our society and I don't want my DD to go through what my DH went through as a child (he was teased....Alot!) Its not like I would do a drastic color change or anything.. Maybe just a few shades in a more beautiful direction. So my question is, shoud I go lighter, like a strawberry blonde? Or a light brown? Thanks so much ladies and good luck with everything!
Red/Orange hair is just not desirable in our society and I don't want my DD to go through what my DH went through as a child (he was teased....Alot!) Its not like I would do a drastic color change or anything.. Maybe just a few shades in a more beautiful direction. So my question is, shoud I go lighter, like a strawberry blonde? Or a light brown? Thanks so much ladies and good luck with everything! This discussion has been closed.
Re: My 18 month olds first hair cut and possibly hair dye???
my angel babies: 6/10 (chem. pg), 9/10 @ 10 weeks
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Good luck finding a salon to dye the kid..
I feel bad for your kid though..only 18 months old and already making them feel bad about their appearance. Class A parent.
BTW.. Red is "Normal" ..
I really hope so; otherwise...just wow.
my angel babies: 6/10 (chem. pg), 9/10 @ 10 weeks
Really? What's wrong with orange hair? I thought everybody loved redheads.
My advice is to figure out how to make your daughters uniqe qualities work for her, and teach her how to do so when she gets older.
I had super curly hair when I was a kid, and my mom kept trying to work against it, instead of work with it- I basically walked around with an afro my entire childhood, and this was not when afros were in style. There was nothing wrong with my hair, now I get compliments on it all the time, I just had to learn how to work with it.
To sum up: different is good when it comes to hair. Talk to a talented stylist.
I agree, when she gets older and I'm talking teens, I can see it being different.. but to dye an 18 month olds hair and expose her to those chemicals at such a young age.. is crazy..
If this isn't MUD you can just go ahead and give me your redhaired children because I would adore a redhead, just like my husband. Red Hair is VERY desired in this house.
Grow up, grow a pair, and tell people to fvck off when they make negative comments about your child.
I looooove red headed babies! My DH's cousin is a redhead and I keep hoping those recessive genes sneak into our offstprings'.
You should embrace your baby's unique coloring. It can only help her to grow up being proud of it herself.
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Don't feed the troll.
Please go away...and seek help elsewhere....I feel like crying for your DD right now...
I won't speak to the apparent parenting issues that this presents because it's not my child and not my decision, but...
before you dye your child's hair, please look into all of the detrimental effects it will have on her hair. Putting all of those chemicals on a small child's hair will cause premature hair loss and thinning of the hairs. The chemicals will burn her poor little scalp (as an adult, hair dye burns, so imagine what it would be like for an infant!). If when she's older, she doesn't like her hair color and wants to change it, let her make an informed decision on her own, but please don't dye her hair for her at such a young age.
All the a$$holes this place is raining is making my Sunday very MUDdy so far.
OP, get a life, there is not a soul on here who believes that you are posting a real issue.
MUD
Buy your kid a hat.. or get a life.
Either way.
Take it from someone who has red hair (hence the screen name "Ginger"ness) I love my red hair, I love that it is different, I love that some other women spend thousands of dollars trying to get it like mine, and I even love the nickname ginger. As a child I think I was called a carrot-top maybe twice, but because I knew how lucky I was to have my color hair, I knew it was just a weak try from the other kids who felt left out for NOT having hair like mine. In these situations, even a a child, I just laughed it off and the kids gave up. I guess your DD will only be able to do this if you support her. All my teachers in school always said how beautiful my hair was, making all the other kids jealous (loved this too!) I didn't have to buy the latest style clothing or the newest technology, I just showed uo with my "natural" beauty!
So no, do not dye her hair. If she doesn't love it now, she will later and laugh at the times when she didn't. But for some reason I get the feeling that YOU are the one who doesn't love it, whille DD has no idea whats going on. If this is the case, then I laugh at you for the day when she grows up and gets compliment after compliment and you yourself will be jealous of your own child, trust me, it's in your future.
Oh and I want to add that my hair is also wildly curly, so I was a double-whammy of different, natural, crazy hair that I LOVE!
I will also add that since I announced my pregnancy, EVERYONE is actually praying that I have redheaded kids. Why? Because they are ADORABLE!!
Good luck to your DD!
What the EFFFFFFFF??????????
I have red hair, and I LOVE my red hair. I never knew my grandfather, but I always loved when people would tell me my hair was the same color of my grandpa's. I was never once teased because of the color of my hair.
Why would you even THINK this is ok? It's insane! Let your daughter make the decision when she is old enough is she wants to dye her hair. You're going to give the poor kid a complex!! Since when is it socially unacceptable to have red hair??
Sorry, you irk me.
I wish for my child to have red hair, and I can't wait for September to find out.
I know, right? We can call it the Ginger Kid Support Group.
Please don't dye her hair. Lots of people in my family have hair of all shades of red and it's a "normal color" to us. It would be best if you could embrace it and raise her to have confidence about all of her features rather than try to hide them.
I get that you are concerned about your daughters confidence, but I really think dying her hair is not the way to deal with that, especially at such a young age. Kids will make fun of whatever they can find to make fun of (adults too sometimes), but everyone has a physical feature that someone can make fun of (big nose, too skinny/big, too tall/short, etc). The way to deal with people is to deal with yourself first. If you raise her to be confident, teasing wont bother her as much.
Be proud of your little Strawberry Shortcake!!
This is immediately where my mind went. I'm not sure I ever remember a child being made fun of because of their hair color.
Never dyed my hair. And if I did it would have been my decisions not my moms decision. And never would I have been a baby....or a child....and seriously.....put on your big girl panties or go elsewhere.
One, my DH was adopted so unfortunatly all of his childhood pictures, were lost in translation. The only childhood pictures that he has were after he adopted and outgrew his orange hair. And the fact that he had red hair as a child never came up during our dating life (we would often go to the movies).
WOW - (I saw this posted before by someone else and thought it was appropriate).