Flame Free Confessional Friday

megs68 · April 2011

JillianAshley6:
I think having a huge massive sig is annoying. You get ONE ticker. Or two, if you make them small like Janimal.
Oh, and make your pics smaller. I don't need to see the pores on your face.

Totally agree. There's a poster on here who I blocked because there were huge pictures of her and her DH, several tickers and several pictures of her dogs. I had to scroll like 2 pages down past all that crap to read on. No thanks.

My FFFC: my sister was a total bridezilla last month and was a total B**** her entire wedding weekend. I have yet to get an apology for her screaming and swearing at me 2 nights before the wedding over nothing. Just for that, I might let her find out about the baby on facebook along with the rest of the world.

solana1987 · April 2011

This is my first post on TB and I am totally jumping in on the rants! I have HORRIBLE morning sickness. I have been late to work every single morning for the past 3 weeks and today decided to work from home. I also get sick EVERY SINGLE night around 10/11. last night I puked up both of my pnv's. ugh. hate it. I am very grateful to be pg but I just can't wait until the second trimester!

bellapup · April 2011

My SIL is getting married in two weeks and I really don't want to go...at. all. I wish I could just stay home. I can't stand DH's family. My MIL and FIL talk about their other three grand kids all the time and they act as if they don't even care about DD. We live two hours away and they always make comments about how we need to come and visit them. Um, excuse me, my DD hates the car and us visiting them is way more work than them visiting us. Ugh, if his mom mentions this when we are there for the wedding I will flip a lid!

Luna12011 · April 2011

DH and I agreed to tell MIL about the pregnancy after my appointment next week. I know its the right thing to do to let his parents and family know. But a big part of me would be just fine if we never told them.

ateasha · April 2011

katgracenugget:
I'm tired of people (mainly family) who are judging me for getting the screening for Down syndrome and other abnormalities. I'm 34 and want peace of mind.

Shoot I was 29 and I still had them done! would they take on that kind of responsibility?? Thats a huge decision you dont take lightly...DONT feel bad or like you have answer to that crap!

@drinking mothers....I saw a woman give her daughter couldnt be more then 4 or 5yrs old some of her beer at a restaurant!! I couldnt believe it...she just handed it to her!!! WTF is that. SMH Angry

rachaelski · April 2011

JillianAshley6:
I think having a huge massive sig is annoying. You get ONE ticker. Or two, if you make them small like Janimal.
Oh, and make your pics smaller. I don't need to see the pores on your face.
I hate that the mommy martyr-dom is already starting. You don't get to make decisions for anyone else. You don't get to judge what someone else does unless there is significant scientific evidence that the action is wrong (doing drugs during pregnancy, drinking excessively, etc.)
Scientific studies have shown that there are no effects on children whose mothers have had a glass of wine here and there in their 3rd (2nd too maybe? I can't remember, its early) trimester. A recent study actually claimed the red wine benefitted babies-in behavioral issues, cognitive development, and sometimes actually slowing or stopping preterm labor. While I'm not sure that I buy into this study (its the only one of its kind right now I believe), I do believe that a few glasses of wine throughout your 3rd tri won't hurt you. STUDIES HAVE SHOWN IT. So stop judging mothers who choose to have a glass or two. Get off your high horse and recognize that there are different ways to do things.
Thought it should be noted that I'm not much of a drinker-I maybe would drink a glass or two of wine a month before I got pg. But again, its not my place to judge others and their decision to partake responsilby.

BUUUUURRRRRNNNNNN!!! (sorry, I've been watching That 70's Show a lot lately).

I agree with everything you said.

ClaraEarlene · April 2011

DH and I were supposed to go out of town this afternoon for a wedding tonight. It snowed 5 inches last night, and it's still snowing, so we decided not to go. Still, I took off the entire day of work, even though it's one less day I'll be able to take for maternity leave. Now, DH is doing laundry (his, not mine), washing dishes from our dinner party last night, and shoveling. I've done nothing except finish a book and watch TV. I know I should feel bad about it, but I don't. I'm thinking of taking a nap.

rachaelski · April 2011

ateasha:

@drinking mothers....I saw a woman give her daughter couldnt be more then 4 or 5yrs old some of her beer at a restaurant!! I couldnt believe it...she just handed it to her!!! WTF is that. SMH

I am pretty sure this is why I didn't have any desire to drink until i was close to 21. I used to get sips of my grandpa's beer...it tasted yucky to me (my little kid self). It wasn't made to be this illicit, secret thing....hell, it wasn't that long ago that mothers used alcohol to help with teething pain! I don't see either as being horrific, assuming they are rare occurrences.

rachaelski · April 2011

I don't think there's a "right" way to be a parent. As parents, we make choices that are relevant to our family situations and dynamics. My decision to send my kid to public school does not make me a worse parent than you, who pays for private school. My drinking a glass of wine at a birthday dinner when I am 28 weeks does not make me less of a mother than someone who eats deli meat twice a week, or the woman who has scared herself into just eating brown rice, carrots, and well-done beef. Point being, what works for one mom is not always going to work for others, and our kids will be wonderful, regardless.

It's kind of like schools trying to replicate successes of individual schools across entire school districts, not taking into account the uniqueness of the first school and its community. I digress.....

rachaelski · April 2011

mabenner1:
hisbeautyalways:
MrsOlson:

I don't understand how women have " just a glass of wine every now and then" when they are pregnant.
I think it is really irresponsible. ( puts on flame suit)

This, as well as when people start drinking pretty much right after birth - despite the fact that they're breastfeeding.
As long as you don't breastfeed WHILE drunk, you can drink all you want after giving birth.

From what I understand, a 1/2 to a whole beer can help women who are struggling with breast feeding...it encourages the flow of milk or relaxes something...

MissMex · April 2011

rachaelski:
JillianAshley6:
I think having a huge massive sig is annoying. You get ONE ticker. Or two, if you make them small like Janimal.
Oh, and make your pics smaller. I don't need to see the pores on your face.
I hate that the mommy martyr-dom is already starting. You don't get to make decisions for anyone else. You don't get to judge what someone else does unless there is significant scientific evidence that the action is wrong (doing drugs during pregnancy, drinking excessively, etc.)
Scientific studies have shown that there are no effects on children whose mothers have had a glass of wine here and there in their 3rd (2nd too maybe? I can't remember, its early) trimester. A recent study actually claimed the red wine benefitted babies-in behavioral issues, cognitive development, and sometimes actually slowing or stopping preterm labor. While I'm not sure that I buy into this study (its the only one of its kind right now I believe), I do believe that a few glasses of wine throughout your 3rd tri won't hurt you. STUDIES HAVE SHOWN IT. So stop judging mothers who choose to have a glass or two. Get off your high horse and recognize that there are different ways to do things.
Thought it should be noted that I'm not much of a drinker-I maybe would drink a glass or two of wine a month before I got pg. But again, its not my place to judge others and their decision to partake responsilby.

BUUUUURRRRRNNNNNN!!! (sorry, I've been watching That 70's Show a lot lately).
I agree with everything you said.

I knew I liked this board

rachaelski · April 2011

I'm on fire....

My confession is that I am done worrying about stuff beyond my control. Assuming all is fine right now, it's a very small chance that I will miscarry. Statistically, I am more likely to have a healthy baby, than one with a genetic disease or a birth defect.

I refuse to spend the next 2 trimesters freaking out....if I am wrong? My freaking out would have done nothing to help anyhow.

mrsjabas · April 2011

JillianAshley6:
KZ2010:

I have developed a serious addiction to butterscotch pudding...the little snack packs! I've been eating them every day and I can't stop myself!
BTW, I have two tickers and I like them both, so I'm sorry if that annoys anyone but I'm not changing them.

Genuinly curious, not being snarky....but one tells you the developmental stages and how far along you are and how far you have to go.
The other one just tells you how far along you are and how far you have to go....
So do you just like they way they look? Or do they serve different purposes to you?
Again, just curious, not being snarky.

In my case, I have one ticker which gives me an estimate of size (in comparison to fruits/veggies/what have you). The other is more of a developmental ticker- I like to see what my baby is "making" that week (some of my books aren't that specific). That was my rationale behind my two (gasp!) tickers. Frankly, this is probably going to be my only pregnancy (we only want one child) and I want to enjoy all that I can-- even if it includes tickers. And I used to/still do have a big picture. Suck it. :-)

Seriously, not being snarky here- just silly and punchy because IT'S FRIDAY!!!!

jnealet · April 2011

rachaelski:
mabenner1:
hisbeautyalways:
MrsOlson:

I don't understand how women have " just a glass of wine every now and then" when they are pregnant.

I think it is really irresponsible. ( puts on flame suit)

This, as well as when people start drinking pretty much right after birth - despite the fact that they're breastfeeding.

As long as you don't breastfeed WHILE drunk, you can drink all you want after giving birth.

From what I understand, a 1/2 to a whole beer can help women who are struggling with breast feeding...it encourages the flow of milk or relaxes something...

A whole beer is better! I had one almost every night while I was nursing. And if that changed DD in any way, I'm totally doing it with this baby too! DD is a calm, happy but busy 2 year old who I get compliments on daily.

babywing · April 2011

angiegail78:
hisbeautyalways:
MrsOlson:
I don't understand how women have " just a glass of wine every now and then" when they are pregnant.

I think it is really irresponsible. ( puts on flame suit)

This, as well as when people start drinking pretty much right after birth - despite the fact that they're breastfeeding.
Alcohol metabolizes through breastmilk the same way it does through blood. If you wait an hour after you have a drink to BF, the alcohol is not present in the BM.

This isn't entirely true. Wine and Beer take about 3 hours to come out of your system while hard alcohol would take 13 hours. I had the little strips to test my milk as well if I chose to drink, which I rarely did. That's what I read 2 1/2 years ago anyways. I think the rule of thumb is if you aren't feeling tipsy it's out of your system. As that can take different times for different people, it's the best bet.

babywing · April 2011

rachaelski:
mabenner1:
hisbeautyalways:
MrsOlson:

I don't understand how women have " just a glass of wine every now and then" when they are pregnant.
I think it is really irresponsible. ( puts on flame suit)

This, as well as when people start drinking pretty much right after birth - despite the fact that they're breastfeeding.
As long as you don't breastfeed WHILE drunk, you can drink all you want after giving birth.
From what I understand, a 1/2 to a whole beer can help women who are struggling with breast feeding...it encourages the flow of milk or relaxes something...

This is an old myth than any beer will do this. I had trouble with my supply and tried everything, even lactation cookies. It's the hops in beer that helps and not many beers have enough hops to help. Guiness is one that does, but you have to look. I think a lot of mom's use this as an excuse to drink beer while breastfeeding. I hate guiness but I'd have one right after pumping to try to help, it had nothing to do with drinking.

babywing · April 2011

I guess I should add my confession. I never had any ms or pregnancy symptoms with DS which always made me nervous. This time I have mild ones upwards of insane nausea. Except for the nausea... I'm secretly glad to have something that tells me I'm pregnant on a daily basis. I could also do without being ready for bed at 4pm.

catch2010 · April 2011

ashley1381:
my puppy is making me batshit crazy. I love her, but I'm not even looking forwards to spring break that much b/c she requires my constant attention.

This! I feel bad because I keep screaming at him to leave my purse alone and to go lay down because I have zero energy to play with him. AND it's going to rain tomorrow!

I'm pretty excited to tell everyone 2 Wednesdays from now (after our 12-week ultrasound), but at the same time I kinda love how not many people know, and how no one at work knows. It seems like when I'm around my close friends who know already, the conversation always steers towards my condition. It's almost like "pregnant lady" is my new identity. I don't know if I'm kvetching about it, but it is taking some getting used to, and I don't know how I'm going to feel with everyone I work with asking me how 'm feeling or commenting on how big I'm getting.

My mother keeps dropping hints that she wants me to send a mass email to everyone in my family on Easter. Uh, you had your chance to share news that you were pregnant, Mom, give me an opportunity to have mine.

marista99 · April 2011

My confession, such as it is: I was down with it until recently, but I'm getting really sick of the same exact questions being posted over and over. At least page back a few pages, please. Also, as a plus size gal, I'm kind of offended by the "omg I gained 5 pounds I'm a HUGE COW!" you feel how you feel, but just realize you're basically calling anyone even somewhat bigger than you a whale.

pinklilly122 · April 2011

Everything is irritating the sh*t out of me. People are driving me nuts at work, my cat is beyond irritating and if my DH does not start picking up after him self Im going to go crazy on him. I'm mad that I cant watch ANY show on investigation Discovery without crying, and Im so tired of waking up at 3 am to go to bathroom!!! Whoo I feel a little better now I like this lol

emandbry522 · April 2011

I don't have just one. I'm quite cranky today.

-If something about someone on TB bothers you, block them then you won't have to see their posts anymore.

-I've gained 10 pounds and I was already 20 pounds overweight when I got pregnant. I don't care about this or how long it will take me to lose after the baby comes. I'm going to keep eating when I'm hungry.

- I'm tired of people telling me how to live through my pregnancy. I don't care that it's "ok" to have a small cup of coffee. I don't want it. I chose to give that up when I got pregnant. That goes for soft serve ice cream, lunch meat, and salad dressing and alcohol. Also, I've been doing good for the past 11 weeks. I'll handle my own business, I don't need your .02 cents.

- I will wear heels as long and my little feet will let me while I am pregnant. Who are you to tell me what I can and cannot wear on my feet?

-I'm really tired of not having any help around the house. So, if I'm not getting help, I'm not cleaning. DH has hands and legs too.

I think that's it....for now, lol.

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