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Okay You People!!
The lurking here is ridiculous! 
Almost every post has 60-300 views but only a half dozen replies!
Now I know we've talked about it before - and some lurkers aren't in the process or feel like they don't have anything to add, or are just curious.
But if you're checking around here then you must care about adoption a little - and we could certainly use your encouragement!
So stop lurking and jump in!!
I am NOT being mean. I just am pointing out that we need you people!!!
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Re: Okay You People!!
LOL!
Exactly!
I guess I did a lot of good.
Yay! We have a convert!
Friends for 15 years. Married 8. TTC since January 2009
2010 Diagnosis: Anovulation and Severe MFI
2011 Treatment:
IVF w/ICSI #1 Antagonist: 2 blasts - c/p - BFN 04.22
FET #1: 1 blast/1 early blast - BFP 06.22 - m/c 06.30 @6w0d
07-11 RPL: MTHFR C677T Heterozygous & Slightly elevated ACLA IgM
FET #2: 1 morula - BFN: 9.02
January '12: IVF #2
Started BCP and Metformin (New!) 12-14 for stimming in January
Dum spiro, spero.
?SAIF/PAIF/PgAL/PAL always welcome?
I view a lot and respond when I can help, but I don't have much time on my hands these days. I've already finalized, so I'm not in need of help as much.
Remember that the views include those people who go back and look at the thread multiple times. So you could have 100 people view it 4x and get 400 views.
I know that it includes repeat readers.
But I know that people read and don't jump in.
Congrats on finalization!
But stick around and jump in so we can learn from an expert!
Pretty much this. I would love to adopt some day, I just have no idea when that might be.
"Just keep swimming, just keep swimming..."
Sorry, I lurk over here mostly b/c I have worked in foster care before and find refreshing to read about positive foster and adoptive situations b/c it often wasn't what I experienced.
I also send prayers to those of you waiting to bring children home. You are the strongest and most kind women on the bump.
"Just keep swimming, just keep swimming..."
Ok I'll bite! DH and I have TTC for 2.5 years. We decided this week that we're done with this roller coaster. As we both agreed, "what we have here is too awesome not to share." I'm just starting to do research (thanks for the FAQ's). I'm a little dissapointed to see the nearest agency is 3.5hr drive one way from our home. No big surprise, as it's in the same city as the only fertility clinics in Nebraska.
So, HI! Hope to get to know you all soon. I'll pry be a lurker until more starts happening.
Dx: Unexplained Infertility
Spring 2010: 3 Clomid + TI
Jan 2011: 2 Femara IUI's
Summer 2011: 6 months of Chiropractic Therapy
March 2012: Confirmed Agency, Meeting set
July 2012: Homeopath consult (fail!)
July 2012: Start of Agency Meetings/Paperwork
October 2012: Agency Interview
February 2013: Tenative Agency Training
March 2013: Tenative Homestudy start date
Don't feel weird! Just jump in, even if it's just with encouragement.
That's great!
Congrats on the new step into adoption!
Jump in here along the way - all these girls are really helpful.
Good luck!
I get that.
I love the community. And I'm a newbie here.
Just kind of weirds me out that so many people are watching out there!
Welcome! And congrats on the start of your journey.
You crack me up!
I think that adoption is a really intimidating process and while I completely understand why people lurk, I feel like this is a really laid back board with nothing but supportive people.
To all you lurkers- c'mon! Introduce yourself! We are fun girls.
OK I am outing myself though I have posted here before.
I lurk because I was a stepparent adoptee and I see questions here about it from time to time. Also because I am stalking Maydaygirl :-)
Guilty here too!!!
I post from time to time as well. Nothing much going on, just waiting to be matched. But, I do like to read posts and keep up with everyone, even if I dont say much.
Ok, I'll post since I viewed. I have been trying to post more, but I still lurk a lot! I'm responsible for a few "views" since I go back to check new posts from time to time.
I post some, but I know I lurk a lot too. I love to read all the stories and updates. Sometimes I have stuff to add, sometimes it's already been said. Sometimes it doesn't pertain to my/my situation.
Would you rather read 400 responses "dito pp", or "just browsing" or just see that people stoped in?
Actually that's a big step! You should have posted!!
Congrats.
Personally, I would like to see people say something when they view. Then you know what they are thinking. And it builds community.
Otherwise it feels like people are out there watching you, but don't care enough to say anything - like good luck or hang in there.
Maybe that's just me. But I like it when people drop in even with a little thought.
I post occasionally with updates on our progress but feel like I'm a small player on this board. Our match was so quick and we haven't had a lot of the drama that you other ladies go through (thinking of MayDay here) so I don't usually feel qualified to offer advice or opinions.
I do love this board though.
Two Mommies Healing Hearts
ditto...I'm guilty of this too!
Welcome!
Our situations may be a bit similar. Stick around and share your progress. It's nice to have others to talk to/vent with/compare with!
I've lurked for a while but haven't posted because I don't want a bunch of people (esp a nosy sister & another sister I don't like) in my business right now.
I'm Kristin, known on these interwebs as "kekis", age 43, infertile w/ 3 losses and failed everything we've tried to have a bio child. We are looking into DA right now & are currently completing inquiry forms. (Yep, JUST started!) DH and I just want to be parents and have our own family. Biology doesn't dictate whether or not we are a family, and honestly, it's taken me a while to get over my bad self and get to that point. Sounds silly since my sisters were adopted by my Dad, I have an adopted cousin, and I can't imagine my life without them.
I have a couple of IRL friends on this board (one who is the mommy of my *precious* Goddaughter!!). Looking forward to getting to know everyone, pick lots of your brains, and hopefully provide support!
After 5.5 years of loss, heartbreak, and empty arms, our dreams were fulfilled through the beautiful, selfless gift of adoption. We are amazingly blessed!
Blog About Us | Blog About RPL/IF/Adoption
Yay yay yay!!! So freaking happy you're here K!! I know you'll get tons of support here and probably see some familiar faces from PL and IF. Love you girl!
Y'all, she's Payton's godmother and one of my IRL besties.
Hi Kristin! It's really good to see you are starting the process! I know you are no stranger to what a blessing adoption is.
I can really relate to the "having to get over your bad self" and the hang up on the bio/pregnancy thing. It took me a long time as well. DH has always, always been happily open to it, but I did not come to my senses till after our 5th m/c and almost 3 years. You probably know this but it was the absolute BEST decision and best thing that could have ever happened to me. Gone is the bitterness & jealousy that plagued me every.single.day. I'm not the same person I was before, but at least I'm not hate & anger filled.
Anyway, I'm really glad you guys have taken this step & that your heart has opened. I know that GOD did the work on my heart. The kind of transformation can only be explained in terms of Him. And I'm still in awe, because I was so angry at Him for so long. I never thought I would ever say this, or actually believe it, but I would not change one single thing that happened over the years. It sucked and broke my heart, but I wouldn't have Noah if it all didn't happen.
HUGS, good wishes, lots of luck, and everything else for your new journey! You can get my info from MrsB if you ever want another person to talk to, though I'm sure you've got plenty of support already.