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How do you cut an unpleasant friend out of your life?

JenninMAJenninMA member
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I have this "friend" who I feel really brings out the worst in me- she's competitive, petty, catty, etc. Everytime I talk to her/email with her I end up feeling pissed off and wanting to stoop to her level of cattiness. I can't stand feeling this way, and I don't have another person in my life who I have this kind of negative relationship with. At the moment this girl is in the middle of a divorce, is now a single mom, and is struggling financially, so I really feel bad for her-- but the nasty, catty comments keep coming as they have been for years. I feel done with the friendship but have no idea how to escape it- she calls and emails me constantly. I'd rather just have the relationship fade away than have to have a talk about why she pisses me off, but she's pretty relentless about staying in contact. Anyone deal with a similar situation?
Nadia Irene 8/13/07 Reid Owen 8/18/09
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Re: How do you cut an unpleasant friend out of your life?

  • r9stedtr9stedt
    Can and have.  

    I try to distance our relationship.  I realized it makes me a lot happier!   Or when she starts bitching, I redirect her.  OR I have also starting hanging out with her when we exercise.  Then we don't have to talk!!
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  • JenninMAJenninMA member

    imager9stedt:
      OR I have also starting hanging out with her when we exercise.  Then we don't have to talk!!

     

    This is a brilliant idea!

    Nadia Irene 8/13/07 Reid Owen 8/18/09
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  • cbidt*sgirlcbidt*sgirl member
    I started responding to emails with very short replies - not rude, but just the bare basics,and I was sure never to include anything in my response that required a response.  No questions or "how are you?" etc. I declined invites for coffee/drinks etc with a simple "I'm sorry, that day doesn't work for me", but i didn't offer other dates.  I stopped seeking her out and she clearly got the picture. 
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  • dnagaldnagal

    I moved and didn't give her my forwarding address or phone number.  (This may not be an option for you)

     

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  • jlw2505jlw2505 member
    I had one person that I didn't know long and she just sort of stuck to me like glue but she was sooo negative and hard to be around.  I tried the whole just not returing calls/email thing but she just did not get the hint at all so I finally sent her an email explaining that I no longer wanted to be friends and gave a short and simple, to the point, explanation of why.  She called/emailed a few times after that and I just always ignored the calls/emails.  It was hard but I was so happy I did it.
    Jenni Mom to DD#1 - 6-16-06 DD#2 - 3-13-08 
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