Ok, so DH's brother is getting married and I am in the wedding. I was asked to be in the wedding the week I found out I was pregnant, so I agreed bc obviously anything could have gone wrong at that point.
Here is the dilemma - the wedding is in Pittsburgh (5 hours away from us) on September 9th and I am due October 2nd, so I will be full term. DH and I will obviously be driving because I won't be able to fly. WWYD? I plan to ask my OB her opinion, but I'm just curious to see what you girls have to say. I don't want to wait til the last minute and not be able to go, so I would rather tell her sooner rather than later. I was thinking of telling her I cannot be in the wedding, and hope that I can still attend it but will not know until it gets closer.
I am also in a wedding on September 2nd, but that is 5 seconds away from us and shouldn't be a problem.
TIA for your input! It has been weighing on my brain!
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My OB doesn't want me flying after 34 weeks.
I would probably back out of being in the wedding in case you have the baby early. But I would probably still plan on attending if going by car.
I agree. Talk to the bride - I'd want the option to not go just in case something happens early.
If it were me, I think I'd still attend the wedding, but not be in it. That's very close to your due date. Best of luck with whatever decision you make, though!
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I would talk to the bride and see how she feels and then make your decision. I personally would go and just take a few stops to walk/snack. I want to say you should still be in the wedding but I don't know what it feels like to be that close to your due date. I know tons of girls that are fine and not phased by pregnancy but also know many that hate life at that point =/
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I think I personally would be ok driving 5 hours away that close to my due date if my OB said it was ok. I probably wouldn't consider going any farther than that though.
Hopefully it will all work out!
Thanks so much ladies!! I definitely agree with you girls, that I will do anything to make it to the wedding. I just would feel so bad if something happened and I was letting her down last minute by not being in it. I will definitely talk to her about it
Thank you!
I had kind of the same problem. I told my friend I would be in her wedding in Florida in May (we live in Ohio). She got engaged and asked me to be in the wedding while DH and were TTC and she knew what we were going through. When I found out I was pregnant we hadn't bought bridesmaid dresses yet so I told her that I wouldn't be comfortable traveling 16 hours from home 32 weeks pregnant. She understood and it was fine. I still did all of the other bridesmaid duties (helped plan the bridal shower and threw her bachelorette party) but I just won't be going to the ceremony.
I would say that it's too close to your due date to travel that far from home. But if you end up attending the wedding as a guest anyway that might negate that excuse...
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It's your DH's brother, he can't miss that wedding, he would always regret it. Worse case scenario, you go into labor and might have to deliver in a strange city. If you decide to stay home, I'm assuming you would want DH to stay with you in case you go into labor, then he would miss his brother's wedding. If you wouldn't expect DH to stay with you and you go into labor then he might miss the birth.
I would go, take a car seat with you and anything else you would need for the baby just in case you went into labor there.
This. AND, what PPs said. So basically, you should talk to the bride and see how she feels....and then prepare to go to the wedding by preparing car for baby, just in case.
Also, if you did have a little baby that weekend, it would always be the best celebration weekend ever for you and DH's family!!!!
Oh no! I would never require DH to stay home! I think it is a good idea to take the car seat!