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Silly I suppose but I'm upset none the less...

I gave my puppy away today.  I've had him since he was 6 weeks old (about a year and a half).  I've been crying like a baby all night long! 

I know that he went to a good home and I know in the long run, it is better all together.  I am just so upset about it.

He was my 'baby' for a long time.  I gave him away to prepare for the arrival of this baby.

The little guy is just too hyper.  He jumps around and acts crazy and I wasn't going to take the risk of him hurting the baby.  Not to mention, being a boy, he peed on anything and everything he could lift his leg to.

I know I made the right choice.  I guess I just needed to vent a little bit...

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Re: Silly I suppose but I'm upset none the less...

  • claarclaar member
    It looks like you are a relatively new poster, so I am just going to warn you...this post is going to start a firestorm of comments berating you for giving away your puppy...I am inwardly cringing for you...
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  • I have two hyper miniature pinschers and I could never give them away. One of my dogs is a male and pees on stuff occasionally. I can't feel sympathy for you. 
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  • People can feel how they want to feel and say what they want to say.  I did what I know was best.  They don't know my situation so really no one has the right to judge.  That isn't to say they won't though.  Thank you for the warning!
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  • Um.... yeah. Usually you TRAIN your dog, not give it away. Will you give away your baby if it's a wild toddler when you have #2? No? Then you shouldn't dump a dog. 

    Don't ever get another pet.  

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  • No sympathy from me. Hopefully whomever took the dog for you is a more dedicated owner.

    The thought of getting rid of my hyperactive, bitey, chasing, puke twice a day, "jump out and scare the shiit out of you" cat never, ever crossed my mind. Instead we are working on teaching him better manners.

    And if you think training a dog is hard...

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  • So, what will you do when your child pees on something? Cries too loudly? Jumps up and down?

    Did you ever think f training your dog? Or did you just think it was cute when he was a puppy? 

    Seriously, people like you make me crazy. Don't ever get another pet. You clearly are not responsible enough. You make me sick. 

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  • So much for, oh, you know, TRAINING your pets I guess. No sympathy here.


    FYI -- pets should not be disposable.

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  • Sounds like he needed training not to be given away. I have a boy puppy and he knows when/where to pee.
  • Re-homing a pet is so emotional. :( I had to find a new home for my kitty when my mom turned out to be so allergic to him that she couldn't even come in our house. This was right before we had kids, and I knew that I would need my mom around to help so I had to choose between my sweet Toby and my mom. I chose my mom, and while it was incredibly sad, and I cried so hard, I know that Toby is in a happy home, and it was definitely the right decision for our family.

    I'm sorry you're going through this! 

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  • don't EVER get another pet. You're obviously not mature or responsible enough to handle it. 

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  • You know what?  There's a reason you are crying:  you've done a horrible thing.

    I can't even type more than that because I don't have anything remotely kind or encouraging to say.

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  • I don't even know what's so silly about the situation. I would hope you feel at least a bit upset over it.

    I have zero sympathy for you, and it just made me so angry reading your 'poor me, but I did the right thing' post. I rescued my dog when he was around a year to two years old, and fostered a couple that had been in various homes since they were around a year and a half or so. The rescue person was telling me that they get a lot of dogs in that age range because past the year mark, most people can't continue to commit, train, and care for the dog, and appropriately enough, their puppy-ness has worn off (which also makes it harder to find new owners).

    I hope you have enough sense to never get another pet again, OP

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    Brilliant! 

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  • Thank you.  One thing I guess I should have mentioned is that my husband and I just moved from a 40 acre farm into the city where we don't have a yard.  He couldn't adjust.  We gave him to the breeder who we got him from.  She lives on a farm.  My dog is very familiar with her and he will be back with his mother.
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  • Hahahahaha. That CL ad was awesome. Very appropriate. 
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  • ew... I hate when people do this. DON'T GET A PUPPY IF YOU CANNOT HANDLE A PUPPY. they are a lot of work, they jump on you, they are hyper, they like to play, they pee on things, they chew on things. I thought all of these were known about puppies?? I have a puppy, and yes- I'm a little worried about what will happen when baby arrives. I know I will get frustrated with him at times. But there are ways to solve the problem. Baby gates, for instance.

    I could never ever get rid of my 2 dogs. and it just blows my mind that someone would get rid of their dog before even knowing how it will act towards your child.

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  • imagenikkimouse323:
    Thank you.  One thing I guess I should have mentioned is that my husband and I just moved from a 40 acre farm into the city where we don't have a yard.  He couldn't adjust.  We gave him to the breeder who we got him from.  She lives on a farm.  My dog is very familiar with her and he will be back with his mother.

    You say that you JUST moved, and yet he couldn't adjust. Maybe a bit of time and training would've helped? And if you don't mind me asking, what kind of dog was he? 

    Trust me, dogs adjust. And we live in an apartment with no yard either. We WALK him.

     

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  • We have lived here for about 2 1/2 months.  So I guess we didn't JUST move here.  He is a Schipperke.
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    imagenikkimouse323:
    Thank you.  One thing I guess I should have mentioned is that my husband and I just moved from a 40 acre farm into the city where we don't have a yard.  He couldn't adjust.  We gave him to the breeder who we got him from.  She lives on a farm.  My dog is very familiar with her and he will be back with his mother.

    You say that you JUST moved, and yet he couldn't adjust. Maybe a bit of time and training would've helped? And if you don't mind me asking, what kind of dog was he? 

    Trust me, dogs adjust. And we live in an apartment with no yard either. We WALK him.

     

    yep. We have a black lab/boxer mix (read 2 high energy breeds) and we don't have a yard. And yet, we manage to get her the attention and exercise she needs.  

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  • imagenikkimouse323:
    Thank you.  One thing I guess I should have mentioned is that my husband and I just moved from a 40 acre farm into the city where we don't have a yard.  He couldn't adjust.  We gave him to the breeder who we got him from.  She lives on a farm.  My dog is very familiar with her and he will be back with his mother.

    Bullshiit. I moved from a farming community to NYC with a hunting dog. Was it an adjustment - for both of us? Of course it was. Were there trying moments? Yup. Did I decided to give him up because it was too difficult? No, because I loved him. 

    If you want to give away your dog that you loved so much, fine. Your loss. Do I think this cycle will repeat itself when your child waaaants one? Yup. Because people like you seem to have a hard time learning. 

    Pet = Responsibility.

    If you can't deal, don't effing get one.  

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  • imagenikkimouse323:
    We have lived here for about 2 1/2 months.  So I guess we didn't JUST move here.  He is a Schipperke.

    wow. you gave him a whole 10 weeks? Someone should give you a medal. And a cookie.

     

    Our dog is 3 times the size of a schipperke. And it took her well over a year to fully adjust to our home because she was given up by people like you 3 times already. 

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  • imagenikkimouse323:
    Thank you.  One thing I guess I should have mentioned is that my husband and I just moved from a 40 acre farm into the city where we don't have a yard.  He couldn't adjust.  We gave him to the breeder who we got him from.  She lives on a farm.  My dog is very familiar with her and he will be back with his mother.

    2 months?!?! He should have peed on you before he left.

    I live in a major city - in a condo, with no yard and  our dog is fine. not to mention there are things like sidewalks and parks.

  • Wow, not good at all!  We have three dogs, and had them all before DD was born.  My two dogs do not get along to the point where we have the house gated, and we would never give them away, we found away to make it safe for both of them, and I could never live with myself giving away one of them.  They are a part of our family and they have feelings.  Dogs do not need to be moved form home to home, they deserve permanency! 
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  • I'm just lurking on this board but I just had to comment on your selfish, irresponsible behavior.  Taking care of a pet is a HUGE responsibility.  Obviously you are too lazy to try to make it work.  If you had adopted a child would you give it away after a year because you were too busy to take care of/teach/play with him or her?  I'm a firm believer that pets are family.  I equate giving away your dog with giving away a child.  If you can't handle a pet then I feel sorry for the poor child you are carrying.  You are a pathetic human being. (Stomps off back to 1st tri)

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  • I just want to thank everyone who has commented.  I appreciate all of your opinions. 
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  • imagenikkimouse323:
    I just want to thank everyone who has commented.  I appreciate all of your opinions. 

    I hope you have nightmares tonight of your puppy scared and crying and wondering why you did this to him.  Sweet Dreams!! 

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  • imagelookingformommyland:
    Sounds like he needed training not to be given away. I have a boy puppy and he knows when/where to pee.

    This.  Wow. 

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  • I normally hold back any potentially rude or offensive comments so as not to seem like a troll but I have to say, your post is bringing out the worst in me. His behavior is a direct result of your complete lack of care or desire to train him. The reason we have so many animals in shelters that get euthanized is because of people like you - people who aren't willing to put in the work to make their pet a member of the family, people who think that owning a pet should be all fun and not much work. I feel bad for your puppy but I'm willing to bet that if he was that disposable to you, he's much better off not with you.
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  • Up until now, I have only lurked here....But seriously, you are a twatwaffle. Animals are NOT disposable. Why couldn't you just train him? I can only hope you are not so lazy when it comes to your child.
  • I can't even imagine a situation that might arise in my life that would make me even THINK of "getting rid" of my two cats.  Because I feel a sense of responsibility toward them.  Because that's how decent pet owners feel.

    Some people just should not be pet owners.  You are one of them. 

  • Long Reply...main point at the bottom in bold. :P

    Pregnancy can be a really hard time emotionally/physically for some people. Some get depression, some struggle with health problems or worsened health problems. We all don't really know all of the circumstances surrounding OP's decision. I try not to judge people. Actually, unless someone personally attacks me, I try to stick to "If you can't say something nice...." rule. Just how I was taught I guess.

    That being said I had a huge dog, really it was the father of DD's dog, and I was worried about how he would do when she arrived. He was mostly okay and trained pretty well, but we were not 100% sure about all the abuse and neglect he had from his previous owner. He randomly chose people that he hated. I really mean hated and would just try to do anything to "get them." He really had a thing about ppl in uniform, and actually had a gun pulled on him by a cop who mistakenly came into our yard, instead of whoever's yard that he was trying to serve papers.

    By the time DD had been home a few days, he was her body guard, he came and let us know when she had woken up or was crying. It turned out great, except for the extra extra cleaning I needed to do bc his shedding was bothering DD.

    Anyways, sorry for the long reply. Maybe you acted too soon, and everything would have been okay, but also maybe you are going through a really rough time right now, and having hormone crazies. I don't know you or your situation.

    I just hope that you don't let all of the name calling and stuff get you all upset more bc it isn't good for LO or you.

    I am not saying I agree or disagree with your decision to rehome your pet, but I disagree with all of the name calling and bashing; especially on a board created for emotional, hormonal pregnant women who are mostly looking for support.

    P.S. I'll probably get the same treatment from some, just for not being mean to you. 

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  • I seriously question your parenting abilities now.  Its not what was best for the dog...its best for you.  Dogs adapt to environments very easy.  I had a dog that was raised in the country and when she was 4 we moved to a 3rd floor walkup downtown.  Now we live in the suburbs.  Sure, she loved the country....but ultimately, she's happiest with mommy and daddy! 

    Being a mommy means putting your dependent's needs first.  That dog depended on you and you failed him.  Shame on you.  Sad

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    I am not saying I agree or disagree with your decision to rehome your pet, but I disagree with all of the name calling and bashing; especially on a board created for emotional, hormonal pregnant women who are mostly looking for support.

    This.
    and I'm sorry that you're upset, but maybe you acted a little too quickly.
    Don't let the rude people upset you!

     

  • No, it hasn't upset me.  I know people are quick to judge.  It is just how humans are.  A lot of the people on here have used the term "getting rid" of my dog.  What I find funny is that I never once used that term.  If my intention was simply to "get rid" of him, I would have taken him to an unfamiliar area and dumped him or taken him to the pound.  I didn't do that.  I gave him to a person who we went to visit several times a month, where his family is.  He knows these people.  They aren't strangers.  He has stayed there several times when we've gone on vacation.  What people also don't know is that I have taken him to obedience classes on 3 seperate occasions with no success.  What they also don't know is that when my dog saw my step-daughters baby doll last week, he went over and grabbed it by the throat and started shaking it like a rag doll.  I know it was just a doll, but who is to say that he wouldn't try to do that with my child?  I know this post would have been twice as horrific if it were a post about how my dog seriously injured my baby (or worse). 

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  • imagenikkimouse323:

    No, it hasn't upset me.  I know people are quick to judge.  It is just how humans are.  A lot of the people on here have used the term "getting rid" of my dog.  What I find funny is that I never once used that term.  If my intention was simply to "get rid" of him, I would have taken him to an unfamiliar area and dumped him or taken him to the pound.  I didn't do that.  I gave him to a person who we went to visit several times a month, where his family is.  He knows these people.  They aren't strangers.  He has stayed there several times when we've gone on vacation.  What people also don't know is that I have taken him to obedience classes on 3 seperate occasions with no success.  What they also don't know is that when my dog saw my step-daughters baby doll last week, he went over and grabbed it by the throat and started shaking it like a rag doll.  I know it was just a doll, but who is to say that he wouldn't try to do that with my child?  I know this post would have been twice as horrific if it were a post about how my dog seriously injured my baby (or worse). 

    just to be clear, i was referring to "i'm sorry you're upset about giving your dog away." 

  • imagenikkimouse323:

    No, it hasn't upset me.  I know people are quick to judge.  It is just how humans are.  A lot of the people on here have used the term "getting rid" of my dog.  What I find funny is that I never once used that term.  If my intention was simply to "get rid" of him, I would have taken him to an unfamiliar area and dumped him or taken him to the pound.  I didn't do that.  I gave him to a person who we went to visit several times a month, where his family is.  He knows these people.  They aren't strangers.  He has stayed there several times when we've gone on vacation.  What people also don't know is that I have taken him to obedience classes on 3 seperate occasions with no success.  What they also don't know is that when my dog saw my step-daughters baby doll last week, he went over and grabbed it by the throat and started shaking it like a rag doll.  I know it was just a doll, but who is to say that he wouldn't try to do that with my child?  I know this post would have been twice as horrific if it were a post about how my dog seriously injured my baby (or worse). 

    What exactly are you looking for?  Someone to tell you that you did the right thing?  I really don't think that's going to happen.  It sounds like you need to work on convincing yourself, because no one here is going to validate you.

  • imagenikkimouse323:

    No, it hasn't upset me.  I know people are quick to judge.  It is just how humans are.  A lot of the people on here have used the term "getting rid" of my dog.  What I find funny is that I never once used that term.  If my intention was simply to "get rid" of him, I would have taken him to an unfamiliar area and dumped him or taken him to the pound.  I didn't do that.  I gave him to a person who we went to visit several times a month, where his family is.  He knows these people.  They aren't strangers.  He has stayed there several times when we've gone on vacation.  What people also don't know is that I have taken him to obedience classes on 3 seperate occasions with no success.  What they also don't know is that when my dog saw my step-daughters baby doll last week, he went over and grabbed it by the throat and started shaking it like a rag doll.  I know it was just a doll, but who is to say that he wouldn't try to do that with my child?  I know this post would have been twice as horrific if it were a post about how my dog seriously injured my baby (or worse). 

    You're right. If something had happened to you baby a social worker woud be at your door like you told the pup to do it or something. 

    I have found this same thing in a lot of people unfortunately; if they want to be mean they will turn things around to do it.

    We all have to make decisions in life. I have two LO's already, and I have had to make much harder calls than that I believe, and I know there will be more. Sometimes we just have to hope we did the best thing for our situation and if we find we did not, we should learn from it.

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  • I'm not looking for anything.  I just needed to vent.  Nothing more, nothing less. Like I have said, everyone has their own opinions.  Bottom line is no one knows my personal situation.  They have come to a conclusion based on what little I have written and are entitled to their own opinions.  I respect their opinions. 
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  • I am going to take an unpopular tact here.  I think you did the right thing.  I would never myself be able to get rid of my beautiful baby girl, english cocker spaniel. But if you felt it was necessary then it is probably for the best.   We were worried about some of our puppy's more rambunctious behavior but found that she needed consistency love and structure, same as a child.  

     

    Now do I think your gonna give away your baby?  No.    

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