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July 2011 Moms
#1 thing you're scared about after the birth of your baby
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Re: #1 thing you're scared about after the birth of your baby
Mostly breastfeeding issues..I've never done it so I have no idea what it will be like. I really want to be successful.
Pretty much this.
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1) Breastfeeding issues. It is something that means a lot to me. Even bottle feeding her breastmilk once I go back to work if I have to. I understand that its not my fault if I can't supply for her, but I think I'd really beat myself up over it.
2) Doing this on my own for a few months. SO is suppose to be home for a two week leave then off again until she is about 3-4 months old. Then after doing this on my own I'm scared about how they will react to one another when he is back home for good. I know he will be a great father, but it worries me that he's worried about it, if that makes any sense. (He's worried and hoping she knows who he is although she will still be young. Also, he's worried about not having the fatherly instinct.)
3) After having some time away from the SO I'm scared about how he will view me once he is home. I just want to be viewed as someone who is still attractive to him and is a great mother.
4) Worried about how the dog will react to her. Our dog watches TV, its the craziest thing. I was watching a baby story for a bit before I left for work. She kept nipping at the babies. She would never hurt a fly, but this concerned me and I cried about it on the way to work. UGH.
ITA, but no episiotomy, just a natural 2nd degree tear.
Just remember that people lie. Not saying people don't love their children by ANY means, but not everyone falls immediately in love with their child and that is normal. There actually has been a large number of posts about this on the 3rd tri board, so that the new mom's won't feel like douchecanoe's if they don't fall immediately in love. The love comes and if it isn't instant is slaps you in the face within a few hours or days.
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This is number two for us, so my fear is based on what happened with #1, lol.
I bled for 5? weeks, stopped for two days, then got my first period (ridiculous, I could have screamed, and this was with exclusivly pumping!). It was just such a PITA that I really hope it's quicker this time.
I know that DH had no issues with how he looked at me, or body type, so try to relax those fears a bit
And I know we said healthy baby was a give-in, but DS came 4 weeks early, so I'm really hoping this one cooks a little longer
Before I got pregnant I was taking antidepressants which helped me gain 50 unwanted pounds but really did help with my depression. When we started to try to get pregnant I stopped taking them and now, I don't know if it's the hormones or what, but I feel great.
I'm afraid that when I'm no longer pregnant I'll go back to needing the medicine, therefore making it harder to lose the weight, taking away my option to bf, etc.
1) PPD. A few bouts with depression during this pregnancy have made me feel anxious about that possiblity. I plan to discuss it with my MW on Friday.
2) Being able to fully trust my husband's ability to provide most of the income for our family. I've been working non-stop since I was 15 so the idea of not working for at least several months makes me jittery.
I'm most concerned:
- That I will not avoid depression/beating myself up, if my L&D or BFing don't go as well as it did with DS. I was able to get through everything marvelously with DS, because while I had my wishes I didn't really have any expectations. This time, I do have expectations. Med-free birth was hard and I asked for an epi, but thankfully didn't receive it. I went back to work at 7 weeks and set a goal to BF for 3 months, then 6, then 12. I feel like anything less for LO would be failing him somehow.
- That DS will somehow be traumatized by LO. I know it's irrational, but I honestly couldn't love my little boy any more and I somehow feel like I'm robbing him. Clearly through reading all of the pp's of 2+ moms, I know that this the norm, but it doesn't make it any easier.
Geez another thing to make me jealous of you! lol DD was colicky, cranky and head strong from the get go (along with nursing issues) I pray every night for a laid back baby that latches well, not colicky and sleeps at night. HAHA Let me have my fantasy
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Having another baby with reflux
You should really come to terms with these jealousy issues.....lol!!!!
I had a dream last night that people (DH's family mainly) kept snatching away the baby and by day 3, I hadn't even gotten to breastfeed yet and my milk was drying up. His mom had been feeding him out of a bottle. I cried and cried.
That is actually pretty realistic. When SIL had her kids, especially her first, they literally came to the hospital and sat in her room ALL DAY and then followed them home. It was very frustrating as SIL was trying to BF and bond with her baby. She really had a tough time because they have boundary issues.
So that's my fear.
This. Plus I am scared about how we will manage watching DS while we are in the hospital having DS #2. although we are close to family, we have NO ONE that I would trust watch DS. I probably worry about this more than anything else.
I wonder if I will still be able to run. I LOVE running and it was pretty tough to get back into it after #2. A few months after I finally got back to my old pace adn mileage, I got PG with #3.
I wonder how I will manage to find "my" time to run b/c it has gotten harder after each child. I guess that coincides with getting my body back after baby - 1st time, easy, 2nd time, more difficult, 3rd time will likely be a nightmare!
Double post, sorry!
DH and my mom promised me they would help me make time to run. DH knows how happy it makes me. I was a half-marathoner, too. Because of my back I haven't run since late October or early November. This is my first, so knowing you did it after #1 and #2 is encouraging to me - - FWIW!
LOL I'm working on it!
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1) Dh and I's relationship will change and not for the better. Not exaggerating but we have the most wonderful loving relationship out of anyone I know and I'm afraid that somehow having a baby will hurt this. A lot of the couples we know either divorced or had some pretty serious issues after having a baby. We've kind of talked around this and we both plan on making extra effort to go on dates and spend some couple time together
2) This one is kind of 2 fold... that I'll never be abe to get my body back to even close of what it was. I was in the best shape of my life when I got pregnant and I am terrified of deflated saggy boobs and saggy droopy skin on my stomach
the 2nd part is that I won't be able to get back into running like I was. I was training for the Rock N Roll Mardi Gras 1/2 marathon in New Orleans when I found out I was pregnant. It was planned and I was training for it in case it took a while for us to conceive,