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Talk to Me About When Things Got Easier...

MamatoJacksonMamatoJackson
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Up until this week, things have been pretty easy but as DD is getting 'older', spending more time awake, demanding more attention, I'm having difficulty when I am home all day with both of them, feeling like I am providing them both with adequate attention.

Does it get easier?  Harder?  Tips? 

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  • firsttogofirsttogo
    Your tickers are off, so I can not see how old they are, but I will tell you that for me personally, going from one to two was WAY harder than going from two to three. I think that DS2 was close to 4 months or so before I felt like things were getting into a groove. It is so hard. Ours were 19 months apart, and to me having those first two was harder than adding that third 10 months later! You are doing the best you can. Someone will cry at times, and that is ok. As long as they are safe, and fed, or getting there Stick out tongue it is going to be alright! To me leaving the house, ect was all a work of art, and still is! Hang in there momma! it does get better!
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  • kcisthebombdotcomkcisthebombdotcom member

    Have you gotten a carrier to wear the baby yet? If DD wants to be held but DS wants to play, I wear her so she gets her cuddles but I have my hands free to play with DS.

    Also, I spend a lot of time sitting on the ground holding the baby while playing with DS. She likes to watch DS play with his toys, and DS will shake rattles for her, show her his toys, etc. I also put the baby in her bouncy seat and sing songs/play hand games like "itsy bitsy spider" that they can both watch.

    GL!

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  • roundtheworldgirlroundtheworldgirl member

    I don't know how old your kids are, but for me, it started getting easier about a month ago.  DD1 is 18.5 months and DD2 is 6 months.  The key was getting more sleep.  We moved DD2 out of our bedroom and did a little sleep training.  She started waking just once at night.  Now that I am getting more sleep, everything is easier to deal with. 

    About feeling like you're giving them each adequate attention - yeah, it's hard.  And honestly, you will probably never feel like you are dividing your time evenly.  But I think that is inevitable.  One of your kids will often have a more pressing need for you than the other, and you'll have to tend to him/her.  I think in the long run it all evens out.  Give yourself a break and take things one day at a time.

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  • LDQAM516LDQAM516 member
    For me...it started getting "easier" at 6 months...and got better and better as each month past...I can now say it is truly "easy" and our youngest is 17 months...although a new set of issues arise when they are this age...like fighting over toys, constantly!!
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  • jkelly41jkelly41 member

    imageLDQAM516:
    For me...it started getting "easier" at 6 months...and got better and better as each month past...I can now say it is truly "easy" and our youngest is 17 months...although a new set of issues arise when they are this age...like fighting over toys, constantly!!

    This.  I think our "easy" period is ending the more mobile DD gets.  I think I have two of the most stubborn, persistent children I've ever met! 

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  • lkf041lkf041 member

    imageLDQAM516:
    For me...it started getting "easier" at 6 months...and got better and better as each month past...I can now say it is truly "easy" and our youngest is 17 months...although a new set of issues arise when they are this age...like fighting over toys, constantly!!

    I could have typed this exactly!

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  • Scout1218Scout1218 member

    I'm not really sure if "easier" is the word to describe it, it just seems like a different set of challenges present themselves as LO grows. 

    For example, it got better when DS could sit unsupported (around 4.5 months) because he could play with toys in front of him.  THEN he started to push them away and wanted to get them, and wasn't crawling, so that made him consistently mad.  He started crawling around 6.5 months, so he's no longer mad about not getting toys, but he is into EVERYTHING.  I have to watch him like a hawk because he is about the orneriest baby I've known!!  I know the next big milestone is cruising/walking, and I don't even want to think about that!!

    It does get better, but I'm not sure if it gets easier.

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  • cotnercotner
    It gets better for awhile, then once you think you have this 2u2 thing under control all hell breaks loose.  2 toddlers is far worse for me than a toddler and a baby.  They play together which is very helpful, but most of the time they have 2 very different ideas of what we should be doing.  Going out is not even an option with both kids unless DH is with us.  Neither of my LOs will sit in a cart, and they both want to take off in opposite directions.  At home we can keep things under control, it's the stores and out to eat that will just have to wait a couple years. 
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  • TelycoTelyco

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    It gets better for awhile, then once you think you have this 2u2 thing under control all hell breaks loose.  2 toddlers is far worse for me than a toddler and a baby.  They play together which is very helpful, but most of the time they have 2 very different ideas of what we should be doing.  Going out is not even an option with both kids unless DH is with us.  Neither of my LOs will sit in a cart, and they both want to take off in opposite directions.  At home we can keep things under control, it's the stores and out to eat that will just have to wait a couple years. 

    Thank God - I was starting to feel like a freak.

    THIS.

    I felt everything was easy until recently...DD is just starting to want to explore more and not sit in a cart and my DS just wants to RUN whenever we go anywhere. I can only take them to places with enclosed, child proof kid areas or another mom's house, etc. Music class, storytime, swim...anything like that is (or would be) a FAIL of epic proportions.

    The ages of 6mo - 14mo is the easiest. I'm waiting on when it gets easier again...but I'm not expecting it to be anytime soon. Maybe another year or two :)

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  • MamatoJacksonMamatoJackson
    Thanks for the insight... more welcome!  Ours are 14 months and 2 months.  
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