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Not too happy, but made a decision on living arrangements.

DHYGchica3DHYGchica3
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After a long (very uncomfortable) talk with DH (he tends to ignore things he's unhappy about and not want to talk about it)... we decided what we are going to do with our living situation, which has been my #1 biggest stress factor.

We decided to move into my grandparent's house with my parents. The first floor has a very large "parlor" type room that we will put french doors on and use as our bedroom and nursery, it will even be large enough for a sitting area.

It's not ideal, but it will save us a lot of money. We will be paying less than half what we pay now for rent, and all we have to do is buy new appliances that we will be able to take with us when we finally find a place we really like.

It might also be nice to not feel so alone all the time while DH is at work (he works 2nd).

I'm relieved we have a plan, but apprehensive of having to give up some of our independence.

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  • katie4253katie4253 member
    It is good you've been able to make a decision.   Hopefully it will alleviate some stress (ultimately) especially with all you have on your plate right now.  At least this decision won't be cluttering your mind.
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  • ohglowohglow

    Wow... I'm sure that was a hard decision to make. I don't know about your situation but I'm sure this was the route chosen for a reason. You are a stronger woman that I am. There's no way I could live with parents and grandparents!

    There are a lot of positives that you listed. If often pays off to sacrifice rather than stretching yourself financially.

    Now that the decision has been made, you can move on and start nesting!

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  • aozmommaaozmomma member
    I think that was a great decision! Not that you care what I think ;) but, whew, that has to feel good to have it settled. It sounds like it's a neat house (parlor room)!
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  • DHYGchica3DHYGchica3
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    Wow... I'm sure that was a hard decision to make. I don't know about your situation but I'm sure this was the route chosen for a reason. You are a stronger woman that I am. There's no way I could live with parents and grandparents!

    There are a lot of positives that you listed. If often pays off to sacrifice rather than stretching yourself financially.

    Now that the decision has been made, you can move on and start nesting!

    We've been looking for a house with no luck. Our lease is up in less than 2 months, there is nothing for rent in our price range that is in a decent area (all the rents have gone up around here).

    My grandfather is the only living grandparent and he moved out of the house since it's too large for just him (it's a 4 bedroom 9 room house). My mom is in the process of losing her job (they are outsourcing her department), so they are selling their house.

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  • brittneymjohnson87brittneymjohnson87
    I feel your pain, when I found out about LO, I had to move back in with my mom. The father decided to not be involved, so I did it mostly for the emotional support. You will save a lot and have an awesome support system when your hubby is working! It could be lots of fun and never boring. :) Good luck!!
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  • abrazzabrazz member
    We are in a similar situation.  We are living with my parents while we sell our house back in TN.  We moved home so we could have some support other than just each other and also so DH could go to college full time and not have to work.  I will say that I was pretty depressed at first and felt embarassed to say that we live my parents.  Now that we have been here almost a year a feel much better and am so happy that DD gets so much love from her Mimi and Pops.  I hope it works out well for you guys :) 

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  • amygoableamygoable member
    I lived with my parents during my first pregnancy and for a month or so before my son came home from the NICU. It was really helpful when I was on bed rest, and definitely nice to have some company during the day. We moved into a house before DS came home, and though the independence has been really great, I sometimes miss having people around! Good luck, and I hope it turns out well!
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  • DHYGchica3DHYGchica3

    I'm trying to keep positive about it. DH is not too happy about it, but it's better than having no plan and being unprepared. I figure it will give us more time to look for a home and not have to settle on the first one we find.

    Its nice to have a place to finally start nesting in. I've started thinking of how we are going to set up the room. We will probably go there tomorrow and start cleaning out the room, pick out paint, and price french doors. Next weekend I hope to paint and pick out a crib and dresser. 

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  • Kimmy9jKimmy9j member

    Not sure where in New England you are but regardless of where the housing prices are HUGE.

     

    renting or buying you are going to pay pay pay.

     We are buying my mothers house for the "family discount" and its still a fortune. 

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  • MilMom2BMilMom2B
    I read your earlier post about the situation and was really wondering what you guys would decide to do. It seemed like such a dilemma. It sounds like although not the 100% perfect ideal that this arrangement is probably best for now. I have a lot of friends that bought the first house they could because of situations like yours and later really regretted not having spent more time. Plus, what all the PPs said about finances, emotional support, etc. I think you're smart for trying to stay positive about the decision, keep your chin up. :) Best of luck to you and hubby (and the LO).
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  • lansingteacherbridelansingteacherbride member
    It sounds like you made a wise financial decision.  Sometimes those suck, but in the long run your financial bottom line will be happy for it! I do think one of the unintended benefits will be that your little one will feel closer/bond more with  your parents.  Try and stay focused on the positive versus the loss of independence.
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  • ShelleybellShelleybell member
    Hugs to you!!! I am sure this was not an easy decision to make, but at least the decision is done.
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  • lovesliliesloveslilies

    It's so good you guys have a plan and a place to start preparing for baby.  DH and I have no idea where we are going to be living or where I am going to be working when LO is here (we are currently in two different states).  I feel your pain of not being able to prepare and the stress!  It sounds like you guys will have a big enough space to escape to when you need time by yourself.  Good luck!

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