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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
Wedding help - too late for toddler, OOT
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Re: Wedding help - too late for toddler, OOT
The "That's an early bedtime" comments are irking me a little bit. A 6-8 pm bedtime is what is recommended at this age. Some kids like an earlier bedtime and some kids a later one. I highly doubt OP is forcing her child to go to bed earlier than she wants. She's respecting her child's natural sleep rhythms.
OP, regarding your original post, I would opt for bringing a sitter if you can afford that. Since she wouldn't be attending the wedding, I don't see why it would be a problem to have her along.
I'd try to find someone to bring with you to watch LO or your niece. Or see if anyone else attending the wedding needs a sitter or is bringing a sitter, you could share the cost. Or if there is a teenager who is coming to the wedding alone without a date and might not have fun at the reception anyway offer to pay them to watch LO in the hotel for the night. If it was an extended family member I would say to skip it, but since it is BIL I think you guys should be there.
I have the same situation where I'm in a wedding that is 3 hours away this summer. FI most likely won't be going bc of work. I was going to have my mom come with me and watch DD, but I think I've decided to just leave DD and FI at home and go by myself. It's 2 and a half days and I don't think it's necessary to have her go on that long car ride. I have a different situation though since I have other options of people to watch her.
If it were *me* I would not want to bring a potentially cranky and tired toddler to an adult only wedding. If other kids were going to be there that would be one thing. But if an exception was made for us - no way.
This is what I'd try to do - in order of preference.
1. Leave your LO at home with a family member and have a nice night/weekend away with DH.
2. Hire a sitter at the venue. Contact the hotel, Sitter City, etc.
3. Bring LO and stay in the hotel so that you would see family and be part of at least some of the events.
I'm glad I'm not the only one! Besides them being totally unhelpful, there is nothing wrong with a child who goes to bed early.
I only just made it back here. I'm sure no one is tracking this, but thank you for the positive responses with lots of options. For reasons I won't go into, a lot of them aren't options in our situation, but we're still deciding and I feel better about ALL of the possibilities now. Thanks for sticking up about that early bedtime thing, too. We have a great sleeper who sleeps 12 hours a night without a fuss, plus does well with her naps. I think part of that is the early bedtime!