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May 2011 Moms
KelsnEm
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MIL...grrrr
KelsnEm
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My husband is talking to his mom on the phone right now in the other room and she's driving my nuts from here! We used to get along so well, and ever since I got pregnant, our relationship has changed. All of a sudden I can't do anything right and she's so blunt about it. I can hear that right now she's arguing about the fact that we aren't come home for Easter. I'll be 38 weeks-obviously my fault. She is insisting that our baby will be a month late because her kids were. I can hear my DH explaining that I even though she was late, that doesn't mean that I will and besides, the dr. won't let you go past 2 weeks without inducing. I know that she's fighting that and that we shouldn't let our dr. do that because it's dangerous. I guess if she went 4 weeks late, that's the only way it should be...
Anyway, I really hope this doesn't continue. I'd like our relationship to be what it used to be. I guess I'll just keep my fingers crossed.
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Re: MIL...grrrr
Hang in there... I understand the whole Easter issue. I'll be about 38 weeks around Eastertime too, and DH and I already told my parents that we won't be attending any gatherings at that time. My family lives about 35-40 minutes away, but I just figure that at that point in time, I might not really feel up to socializing and everything.
Try not to stress out over any of the drama. The most important thing to do right now is stay calm and relaxed.
YOU being late just bc she was? That's some narcissistic perspective right there! And totally dumb. That's like saying she had a toe fungus once, so you should too! Not related at all!
Just let her *** and moan and she'll get over it. I wouldn't feel bad ONE bit about not traveling!
Uh-oh...I think our MILs could be twins...
I know what you're going through! Sorry to hear about Easter tension. Hopefully you can just stick to your guns and let it roll off your back! In the end you know what's best for you and your baby. I really do hope things will go back to normal for you!
Every time DH speaks to his folks on the phone any more, I just have him tell them I'm resting or not feeling well or something. Although the downside to that is he's a one-man game of Telephone and things get accidentally garbled in both directions.
Today's suggestion was a skype shower. Hopefully the fact that etiquette says no way will be enough to cut that one off. It's just killing them that I won't do a shower. I did throw out the suggestion of a grandmother's tea, since the whole group would be her friends (whom I've never met) anyway.
Ugh!! I feel your pain. MIL is having a FIT that we won't drive to Utah (we live in California) the weekend after Easter to celebrate with everyone. She doesn't seem to get the concept that I will be very uncomfortable in the car for that long, not to mention it's like ten hours away if something happens. Her response? "We have hospitals here too, you know?" I realize that, but I'm still not going!!
They induce you when you are two weeks late because it is dangerous for the baby to stay in there longer - the placenta begins to degrade and the baby stops getting oxygen and nutrients. So, ya, being induced may come with certain risks, but they are a lot less than letting your baby go without air and food.
Sucks you are dealing with that. I have a crazy MIL too, I feel your pain.