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Babies: 6 - 9 Months
LO meets strangers when w/ babysitter
We have a sitter/nanny-type (not a true nanny) that watches LO during the day while DH and I are at work and sometimes during evenings if we have a date night planned. Lately, strangers have been coming up to us when we are with our daughter and saying "Hi Zoe. I met Zoe at XYZ" or "I saw Zoe at XYZ, you must be her parents." This is king of weird to me. The sitter has a car seat base in her car but it was purchased with the intent that LO would only be in the car with her when she needed to pick up her own grandkids from school. Now i'm finding out that the sitter is out about town w/ LO during the day and LO is meeting all these people I don't know (we live on an island so it's like a small town atmosphere). I'm not really sure how I feel about this. Thoughts? Suggestions? I don't mind if the sitter has to run an errand but when is it too much?
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Re: LO meets strangers when w/ babysitter
I would be more upset that she hasn't mentioned it to you at all.
i'm jealous that you live in a tropical paradise.
otherwise- i think she should let you know that she's out & about- but it wouldn't bother me that people are "meeting" her.
look at the birds | bless this food
Doesn't she keep a log of what she does all day with your child? You should know where she is with your child at all times. What about naps, eatting etc. I find it very difficult to run all over the place with DD because of her scheudle.
Get rid of her immediately. Trust me on this one. One red flag is only the beginning to many many many more problems.
Thank you for making me feel like i'm not crazy that this bothers me. DH is a little more casual about it. Yes, she does have a schedule and informs me of naps, meals, poops, etc. but like you I wonder how she can stick to this schedule and not be at the house. It's hard for on the weekends to stick to the schedule.
I've never heard of a babysitter having to keep a log before. I think that's a little much.
I would just reitterate the rules to her nanny, and if she can't adhere to them...THEN find a new one.
Why is she hiding the fact that she's going out of the house with LO?
IDK, just that question alone makes me think she's being a bit shady, and that's unacceptable when it comes to caring for an infant. If you want to give her a second chance, buy a nanny cam and get her to promise that she'll inform you of all of LO's whereabouts.
This - I probably have serious trust issues - but I even make DH (SAHD) keep a log!
Maybe I'm in the extreme here but I'd be pretty ticked if she was out running around with your LO and not saying anything about where she was going. What if something happened and you didn't know they were out somewhere? I get nervous when the sitter takes the twins for a walk but at least she asks permission and I know where they are going.
She should at least be letting you know when she leaves the house and where they are going. It's just respectful.
My parents took our boys' to a restaurant the other morning and the waitress said, "omg are those McKenna's twins? I've seen them on FB."
My page is set to private & I have no clue who this chick is.. so obviously she was lurking with a mutual friend of mine. It really gives me the creeps.
If you are uncomfortable with the sitter taking LO all over the place, tell her how you feel.
Trust your gut. DH did the same thing to me. I have thought something was fishy since December, but he is so laid back about everything I thought I was just crazy. It ended up a total mess of a situation and if I had a rewind button I would have gotten rid of her the first time a red flag went up. I can't tell you what to do but I can tell you from experience what I have learned.
If I didn't know better I would have thought that I wrote this.
I had 5 people last week tell me "oh! Your baby is so cute I saw him with his babysitter at (insert random place).
The thing that kills me is that she takes him over to see the mother of the child she used to babysit but she has a hard time getting over to my husband's grandmother's even though I've asked her to take him there repeatedly.
She's super nice, he loves her and I don't mind her running the occasional errand, but it get irritating.
What about telling her that you would prefer to know ahead of time when she will be taking LO out, where they are going and what time they will leave and come back. I think I would feel like I have a little more control over the situation instead of finding out after the fact that my kid was all over town from random people.
It's very common for a nanny/sitter to log what she does with your child all day. When diapers were changed, what activites were done, etc. It is mostly incase something were to happen and you needed to know how her day went. But it is also comforting to know what they did all day.
I just have a regular old notebook but there are tons of forms on the internet that you can print out.
They do kind of the same thing at daycare I think.
Yeah, our sitter keeps a log every day.
Hmm, this is kind of tough. We have a nanny who takes our LO out all day, everyday. She meets all of kinds of people since they are out in our neighborhood BUT I live in a city and they are always just walking. I am totally fine with this set up. The thing that bothers me about your schedule is that she's being secretive. You need to flat out ask her what's going on.
We don't do a log. I find that unnecessary. She tells me what I need to know.
If she is hiding it then thats weird, but I'm basically in the mindset of BKHeightsGirl. Maybe because I'm a New Yorker too? I personally would prefer my baby sitter to take my son out. But if she is being secretive then that is weird.