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May 2011 Moms
sparkymcgeee
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Since today actually is Thursday. Unpopular Opinion!
sparkymcgeee
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I still 
ya Heather.
I think this might be an unpopular opinion every week but its really personal to me this week. Just because my baby would be "fine" if she were born this early does not mean its a guarantee or that I want her to born now. I'm sick of my MIL and even mother being ok with me giving birth right now. Encouragement to make it to 38+ weeks is more comforting and helpful to me than telling me what to do when I am having contractions and telling me Elizabeth will be fine.
You ladies are the only ones (besides DH) who have given me that encouragement. So thank you for that. I appreciate it.
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Re: Since today actually is Thursday. Unpopular Opinion!
No sweat, Chica - that's what we're here for!
My UO: stop calling me tubby, fatty, 3 ring circus, buddha. I get that I'm supposed to get big for the pregnancy - It takes a lot of room to bake up a baby. But please, refrain from telling me "WOW you are SO pregnant - you are huge compared to last week!". Those comments are only acceptable from my dog.
Oh my gosh! I finally understand what you guys were talking about. On Sunday I was at church and my dad called over a friend of his and said, "hey, did you see her? She's bigger than me now." My dad is a pretty big guy. I just gave him this face
. Everyone else just laughed. He did then say, "at least yours will go away."
I love my dad and I know he was just joking but geez.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
1) People who complain about their Medicaid. Look, you get what you pay/don't pay for. Doctors don't have to accept Medicaid, especially when the reimbursements rates are low and the risks are very high. Stop paying for your iPhone and buy real insurance if it means that much to you. Otherwise, stop complaining and thank me for my tax dollars.
[Before you flame me: My brother and SIL are on Medicaid and I handle Medicaid issues, so it's not like I don't know anything about how it works].
2) Budgets. What part of "constitutionally mandated to have a balanced budget" do you not understand? When education and health and human services are 95% of the state's budget and there's a $4.6 b deficit... how do you expect to NOT cut those two areas? Raise taxes, right? Ok, you find me a majority of a populous state like FL where people want to do that.
3) Cocky women in their first tri. My roommate is recently KU and she kept telling me how much she was going to have a great first tri and would NEVER be as sick as I was. Funny, she threw up 3 times last night and woke me up at around 2AM with her "great first tri."
To make up for the bad karma that is this post...
1) Thank you to my DH who bought me a Kindle and a Ninentendo DS. Best gifts ever and I would never have thought to buy them!
2) Thank you to the internet for the Margaritaville frozen drink maker I found for 90% off.
I am the oppoist of meimsx. I want her out.
I'm not uncomfortable, I don't ache or hurt. I want to see her! I want to see her face, her hair, her ears, her toes.
Of course I want her to be as healthy as she can be, so April 18th is 37 weeks, but if I knew 100% that she would be healthy at say 35 weeks, I would want her then.
1) I am all for cuts. I am a teacher, I know they need to be made, but lets be smart about where we make them. Don't increase class size, why not cut the superintendents pay?? Or cut some of the admin position who were all walking around cutting up when I went to fill out my maternity leave paper work on Tuesday?
They suggested all teachers takea 2% pay cut, to save other teaching positions, which I would do, as soon as everyone above me takes their 2% pay cut too!!
2) I have an old college 'friend' who is about 6 weeks pregnant. Last week she was bragging to another friend about how she hasn't gained any weight yet!! Hahaha, I hope she gains 70 lbs!
Haha! How much does that 6 week old baby weigh?! I bet she will gain 70 lbs due to thinking she can just eat everything she wants and not gain anything except "baby weight"!
My UO I guess is I think you earn sympathy.
For instance dont complain your water was shut off since you didnt pay the bill yet you have the money to support your pack a day smoking habit and to go out to dinner a couple nights a week. I dont feel sorry for you at all, you were responsible for the choices you made so you deserve the consequences.
I think its ridiculous how wrapped up in the royal wedding the world is. Really who gives a flying flip? They are not the leaders of my country and even if they were I dont care who they marry, means nothing to me. Im just so sick of seeing it everywhere and all my coworkers wanna talk about it.
I feel sad for people who invest so much effort into their jobs. I do my job and I do it well but when 430 rolls around, work is the farthest thing from my mind. I dont go home and stress about my projects or try to get stuff done while Im at home. Home is the place for me and my family, I have enough to do while Im there without adding the stress of a place that already takes up the majority of my life.
This is me too. I want to see him so badly but of course being healthy is more important. Whenever it is that he can come out and not have to stay at the hospital is when I want him to come.
::Do you hear me, Dominic? Come out and play and cuddle as soon as you're ready!::
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I love you for this!! It's so hard as a teacher to 'forget' about work(because it's little human lives that you're dealing with) but the closer I get to having this baby, the more I want to leave at 3:30 and not even think about it till the next morning!
It has become a contest at my school to see who stays the latest= must be the best teacher. I am losing....by a lot!!!
I am so tired of hearing my sister and her husband argue about what to name their baby. He insists that it be one certain name and will not listen to anything else. She hates the name that he wants and has given up the name she loves and says that they should meet in the middle, they won't use her name and they won't use his name. He refuses. I am all for the daddy being involved in naming the baby when they are being reasonable but, F@!k that! If I were her I would have to pull the, " I'm carrying this baby and I am delivering this baby so I am naming the baby" card and just name it! It's so annoying to me!
I could not agree more. It's amazing what districts (and the state too) put for non-classroom costs that just confound me. I also agree about the pay cuts for everyone, not just a few "lucky" folks.
My best-friend's husband was a complete asssss when it came to naming their son. He was exactly like that too. He had to have his way or no way at all. But that is how he is in life anyway, and why I could never marry him. Finally, with everyone in the world telling him how stupid his name was, he settled for the initials spelling the name he wanted. He claimed he would always call the kid that. No one has ever called him that.
I THINK I LOVE YOU!!!!!
I'll reiterate mine from yesterday:
I know the internet is vast (and made of cats), but people who post replies that add absolutely nothing to the conversation are wasting precious bandwidth and, more importantly, my time. Do people respond like this in real life? I mean, if your friend says "I've been diagnosed with (insert exotic sounding disease here)." Do you really respond with "I have no idea what that is, but I stubbed my toe once."
My whole take on the baby naming thing is the baby is going to carry on the fathers last name (even if its a girl - thats still a lot of years), so I think the mother should have naming rights. Granted I am happy to hear what my husband likes, but I definitely have the final say.
My UO is that I hate people that name their kids after themselves. We know its your kid, even if they don't have your exact name. A co-worker of mine had been on team green and the husband wanted the baby to have his first name as a middle name, even if it was a girl. She went along with this whole plan and now they have a girl with the middle name Sean.
This is me too, only I am uncomfortable and miserable and tired and in pain. I told my DH to go sleep in another room because I keep him awake all night with my tossing and turning. I do see a light at the end of the tunnel though- at the most, only 32 more days until he's here!!
Couldn't agree more. I went to hs with a Marisa who married a guy named Jason -they named their daughter Jaysa. Yikes!
I've been extremely irritable for the last few days, so my UO this week is pretty petty (and frankly none of my business), but I'm going with it anyway.
It really irritates me that my brother and SIL use cars as status symbols. They just finished paying for my brother's truck (a huge, diesel-guzzler), and yesterday I found out that he wants to sell it so that he can buy a different truck. I asked why, and he said "because I can't afford diesel for this one anymore." OK. So, I ask what he plans to get instead, and he points me to a different truck that (according to the official EPA sticker on the brand new version of this vehicle) gets 12MPG city and 16MPG highway. His current truck isn't much worse than this, though it is diesel, which is more expensive (I think, right?).
If you're just itching for something new because you can't go more than 36 months without having a new toy, then just own it already. It's obvious, if this is the new choice he's going with, that his main driver is NOT fuel economy.
And, even though my SIL just got a new (to her) Infinity last year, while they've been out cruising around looking for a new truck, she spotted a used Volvo XC90 that she says "has her name on it."
They just trade cars like they're cell phones and it irritates me.
I went to visit my DH's family this past week for my baby shower, and I kept getting remarks on how I shouldn't eat that sandwich or drink that DECAF coffee and I need to chill on the sweets.
BLAH BLAH BLAH. I will do what I want, my baby isn't going to have 6 fingers and 3 eyes because I eat what I want to. Leave me alone!
My UO, people are getting really ridiculous about what can be considered dangerous for baby.
People have been having babies for many years, and we have made it this far. Chill out! I'm going to be careful with my baby but I'm not going to have a freak out over every little thing.
UGH! Those combined names make me want to vomit! My SIL had a baby in February and wanted a name similar to hers, so my other SIL (who's 16) came up with Vienna. We just call the baby sausage.
1) If I don't know you, I don't care about your birth story. Seeing me in the baby section of target picking up gifts (granted, while knocked up) for a friend is not an open invitation to tell me about your 3rd degree tear or how many hours you thought your ass was going to explode before your kid came out. If I had a pocket full of f***s, not a single one would be given. Please go away
2) Your nursery is not a reflection of how much you love your child and honestly, just admit you're doing it for you. It isn't "for the baby". The baby doesn't care. The baby can't see more than a foot in front of its face and it will be too busy sleeping, crapping and eating to really give all that much of a damn about whether or not a wall decal or set of hanging letters matches the exact shade of periwinkle you had everything professionally dyed. Just admit it, you really want to show off. It's ok, lots of people do it! But own it, damn you. Also? stop "stressing" that your sticker/letter/lamp/rug isn't in yet. First World Problems. As an extension of this, your husband or fiancee is not a heartless monster for not playing step and fetch to your nursery needs. Your baby could probably have a mobile made of crinkled up balls of tin foil and be just as content
3) If you're being a ***? It's because you're a ***. It's not because you're pregnant. That's like saying you're only racist when you're drunk. No, you're just more likely to say what you're thinking when you have an excuse to remove inhibitions. I do it anyway, I'm not going to blame a small human who doesn't even have the life skills to hold their head up without support for the fact that if you walk by three machines to ask me to make copies for you I'll usually respond with "from this angle, your arms don't LOOK broken so I'm going to have to pass this time"
I had to explain this to DH last week. I said, "I know the baby doesn't care about this room and I know I'm only doing it for me but I really wish all of the furniture matched. I look at this room as my sanctuary from the rest of the world that I can just enjoy my baby in."
He said, "She'll have matching furniture eventually. Its just not important right now." He's totally right but I don't think he realized I wanted the room for me. Not for her until I told him that.
Also, last night I was talking to my friend and I mentioned that we finished buying all of the necessities for the baby and it was such a relief. I then told her that there were some things for the nursery I still wanted to get but the baby doesn't care if I don't have her framed prints on the wall. She cares if she has a crib mattress.
So in other words, I agree with you. Its not the end of the world if your nursery isn't "perfect." Its nice for you but your baby doesn't care.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
My UOs-
1. I hate jungle nursery themes. If I have to see one picture of jungle/monkey nursery stuff I'm going to puke.
2. I judge women who are posting that they are going to lie to work and tell them that they are on modified bedrest or whatever. If you don't feel like you can do what they are asking, be honest and tell your boss that. Don't lie and say that your doctor told you to. If you really feel like you can't do your job then man up and take a personal leave of absense or quit. I can say that because that is what I did. You want to lie about it though? I judge you and all of the women who actually do have medical issue should be judging you too.
Totally agree. Sometimes I see pictures of a nursery and all I can think is "Well that will be cute for a year or two." Especially when it is painted funky.
That is actually my biggest complaint when Extreme Makeover does a children's room. The kid may like trucks today but I know for a fact that in a few years that room will be embarassing for them.
This is my ILs' dog's name. So I do too.
BFP #1 9/7/10, EDD 5/14/11, Violet born 5/27/11.
BFP #2 4/9/12, EDD 12/16/12, M/C Rory 4/24/12.
BFP #3 10/6/12, EDD 6/16/12., Matilda born 6/17/13.
I have to disagree with this one. I am not saying it's okay because I'm pregnant, but I much more sensitive these days. I get WAY more excited over certain things (like a new CD on my MP3 Player...I can't wait to go for a walk!!!) and I get WAY more upset over certain things ( like DH taking a day off work when we need the money and he needs the hours for his internship).
Both of these would have made me excited/upset pre-pregnancy, but the hormones are causing an extreme swing of emotions.
I always think the same thing when watching that show. Usually the girls rooms are a little better about it, but most of the remodels are not something they can grow with.
I'm totally doing the nursery for me. We haven't done any decorating to our house since we moved in because we wanted to buy other stuff for the house. The bright walls in our nursery has been like a breath of fresh air from the boring beige that is the rest of our house. I'm also drawing and painting my own mural to give me something to do inside while its cold and rainy outside. I'm keeping things simple. Hopefully she will grow into it or we can use it for our second child, but if not, I had fun working on it.
This is me. Everything said here is totally me. I am stuck at home on bedrest for another week from tomorrow (until 36 weeks which is next Friday). I have had some really bad days since being on bedrest, which has only been 2 weeks. I am such a baby, and have ended up crying numerous days. I am so anxious to meet baby girl and touch her and hold her. I want her out NOW. But I want her to be healthy. That is more important to me.
I hate etiquette. All of this stuff that goes with getting married and having babies and the parties and thank you's surrounding them is BS.
Do what you want to do, don't worry about what some stuck up southern woman wrote in a book about the proper thing to do.
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Be that as it may, pregnancy does not give people a free pass for being a complete brat to other people in public/work/home.
I've seen some "god I went off on my xyz posts and it's because I'm pregnant!" posts that made me side eye because no..own it. You went off because you were pissed, and if you hurt someone in the process you don't get to go "aww I'm sorry, I'm just pregnant is all!"
ITA! I just do not understand lying about something like this.
I also judge people who post about "southerners" as if it's a disease. We aren't all uneducated, illiterate, inbred, snobby, inept weaklings any more than all people from wherever you live are narrow-minded arseholes.
Please, if you are talking about my post above, get over it. I have lived in the north and the south and effing Germany. People are all the same. It just painted a better picture to say a southern lady because I could see Blanche Devereaux making a big deal about things. As much as you hate it there are stereotypes of every area of the country and I think most people are smart enough to know that not every person who lives somewhere will be the same.
If you weren't talking about my post than carry on.
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Guess I won't be posting a picture of my nursery : ( lol. DH is obsessed with monkey things.
I agree. People care way too much about what other people think. I have a friend that complains all the time, sometimes for hours, about how she wants to ditch one of her bridesmaids because shes a complete B!@&#. Even her finance thinks she needs to replace her, but she just can't build up the courage to do it. She tells everyone how it makes her sick thinking about this girl and wants nothing to do with her after the wedding. I've straight up told her to grow a pair and just do it, but she thinks her other bridesmaids will be offended and revolt. CRAZY if you ask me.