gender reveal outing.. should we pay?

krispy6372 · March 2011

So tomorrow we invited the family out to reveal the baby's gender. I suggested we all go to the local pizza place for a casual get together. All together there are 17 people coming (my husband's family is huge). Do you think it's implicit in inviting everyone out that we are paying for the food? My husband seems to think so, but yikes! with that many people, that's gonna be quite a bill. Any thoughts?

BonitaKaz · March 2011

If this is a something that you put together for people to find out your baby's gender, then, yes, you should pay.

To me it's like going to any other party/get together, where you would provide the food.

mooninlv · March 2011

i think you should plan on paying, since you invited everyone. but, since it's family, if people offer to pay, or chip in a bit, i would let them.

catahoulatte · March 2011

BonitaKaz:

If this is a something that you put together for people to find out your baby's gender, then, yes, you should pay.

To me it's like going to any other party/get together, where you would provide the food.

I agree.

aliciabee · March 2011

I think if you said who would like to join us for dinner it's not implied that you would pay. If you said something like we'd like to take you out, or come out with us then yes, it is implied you'd pay.

JKGymnast · March 2011

Sorry -- posting on the wrong board... My bad.

poppy33 · March 2011

It seems to me if it's a casual family dinner and you said "hey, want to get together" I would pay my own way and not expect you to pay for me. I don't know even if you said "hey want to get together we're going to reveal the gender" I'd still pay my own way. I think I'm not the norm though, I usually expect to pay when going out to a restaurant for a gathering. Even if someone said "hey you want to come out to dinner with us" I would expect I'm paying my own way.

There are very few times I would think someone else would pay - rehearsal dinner.

MrsMiller1002 · March 2011

If you we're the one who initiated it and said "we're planing a casual get together, we'd like for you to come" then yes of course you should pay.

I'm sure people will chip in anyway.

Themetastic · March 2011

Eh, it depends on how close you guys are. Don't say anything & see what happens when you reach for the check. Play it by ear.

laurenbncha# · March 2011

Yes.

megd06 · March 2011

BonitaKaz:

If this is a something that you put together for people to find out your baby's gender, then, yes, you should pay.

To me it's like going to any other party/get together, where you would provide the food.

agreed...unless you specified that everyone pays for their own food, it's your responsibility.

krispy6372 · March 2011

thanks everyone for the input. guess we'll be footing the bill! I still think it's borderline as to whether we should - (If someone else had invited me to the same gathering, I would expect to pay my own way), All for a good cause though!

MrsCase1 · March 2011

i personally NEVER assume someone is treating me, even if they invite me. that said, i feel like i am in the minority so i think people will assume you are paying. i agree with the other poster who suggested that if people offer to chip in, you let them. good thing you chose pizza and not say a sit-down place!

lob · March 2011

I think I would buy a couple of big pizza at least, and maybe 2 pitchers of soda. I wouldn't buy tons and tons of alcoholic beverages or tons of appetizers. I'd let people buy the extra food, drinks they wanted.

WhitePicketFence · March 2011

Yes, you should be responsible for paying.

MiaMyPuggle · March 2011

17 people...that's like 5 pizzas...get some coupons and you will be OK....ask for pitchers of soda (ginger ale or sprite, of course!)

ashleyhuney · March 2011

lob:
I think I would buy a couple of big pizza at least, and maybe 2 pitchers of soda. I wouldn't buy tons and tons of alcoholic beverages or tons of appetizers. I'd let people buy the extra food, drinks they wanted.

Ditto. I wouldn't necessarily start taking orders from people, that could get expensive! Buy 4 or 5 pizzas and some pitchers of soda. If people want drinks and appetizers they can get it themselves, or just have the pizza and soda.

krispy6372 · March 2011

hmm yeah well some of my hubby's family are pretty big boys so I'm thinking we'll need at least 6 or 7 pizzas! but that's a great idea about ordering the pizzas and some pitchers of pop. If anyone wants anything else they can order it on their own. Can't wait for the celebration! Only 25 hours to go...

abell77 · March 2011

Yes, you should pay. They wouldn't otherwise be gathering for pizza if you hadn't asked them.

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