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I need an attitude adjustment
This time of year, DH has a lot of stuff that he does with the guys. I know it. I agreed to it years ago. He has missed 2 family weddings to do it before, he left when DS was 10 days old to go 2 years ago. This time I am super resentful. He went out on Tuesday for his "book club" (guys sitting in a bar, don't read a book), This morning, he left for 4 days in Miami for his fantasy baseball draft, and on Friday, he is going to the Master's in Augusta.
I missed my book club this month because we were in FL visiting his dad and taking the kids to Disney. I have theater group coming up, but have to get a babysitter for it. My mom had surgery on Monday and I haven't made it to visit her. She wasn't up for visitors really until today, but it is cold and rainy and I would have to drive for 1.5 hours and could only stay for 30 minutes because DD has swim today. We have no plans this weekend because everyone is going out of town for spring break next week. Oh, and the topper is we have people working on the house all the time because we have raccoons in the attic and they are doing a bunch of work to get them out, fix the damage they have done, and keep them from coming back, so no naps for DS, and 3 men I don't know in and out all day.
I know I am just being a whiner because I am jealous. I have a two day girls trip planned for August, so I will get to do something. I am just feeling sort of stuck.
Flog me into a better attitude please.
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Re: I need an attitude adjustment
I hear ya. My H doesn't do evenings out at the bar or weekends away - he just works a crazy amount of hours.
Just in the last year I've learned to plan things how I want - visiting family, parties, etc - and if he can come along, great. If not, we'll be just fine without him. (That sounds harsh, but its not - its not like he's choosing play over family, it's him doing what is necessary for us). The only non-negotiables are our own kids' parties, and family vacation. If there is something I want to do, I don't even usually ask H if he will be around. I plan for someone to watch the kids, and if we can cancel (usually my niece or SIL or MIL) last minute because he's home, then great.
So, I say, get a sitter for this weekend and enjoy some time off. Even if it's only an hour at Target. Totally worth it.
No help here.
DH has been to Florida twice in the last month- once to see his mom and once for business. I've been stuck here in lousy weather with the kids. It snowed 5 inches last night. The business trips have plenty of time for relaxation... I don't think 18 holes of golf with the local PGA pro is too horrible to contemplate.
I get 3 hours to myself once every two weeks and he usually calls me at least once during those 3 hours. Woo hoo.
DS - December 2006
DD - December 2008
Well, my DH NEVER goes out. Other than a short business trip once every couple months, he stays home all the time and it gets to me in the winter. I have a book club as well and the occasional night out, so I do things, but I wish that he had another outlet besides our family. He just loves being home and while I appreciate that he isn't out and about all the time, it would be nice to have a little more space, especially in the winter.