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October 2011 Moms
AshleyEric609
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"The only surprise left in life."
AshleyEric609
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Am I the only one who thinks it's still a surprise even if I find out at 20wks? I mean...I still don't know what I'm having until they tell me. So even at 20 weeks it's STILL a surprise.
People bother me. Sorry, just a little vent.
Oh, and this comes from the post below but also from some random Target lady who said the same to me on Saturday.
EDIT: Oh, and I in no way mean this as a stab at Team Green ladies. Everyone is allowed their own choices and I respect your decision to wait. In fact, I'm kind of jealous. Hah.
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Re: "The only surprise left in life."
BFP #1 - 11/16/10 CP 12/1/10
Our team green turned into team pink!
BFP #2 17dpo - 47, 19dpo - 114 Chart
I get so tired of seeing posts like this. Who cares what other people decide? I want to know. Some people don't.
Some people! Grr. I just say "Well, I'm glad we get to find out, I want to be prepared." If they kept pushing I'd not be so nice probably. I hate being told what to do with my pregnancy when its something that isn't harmful or something I didn't ask their opinion about.
Hahahha! See, that's a great response! And seriously, I envy your will power!
I agree with all you said 100%. I was surprised to find out DH was a boy, and thoroughly enjoyed planning around his boy-ness for 20 weeks. And you know what, I had never seen his sweet little face - THAT is the ultimate joyful surprise!! To find out what your baby looks like.
And yes - NO offense to the team green ladies at all!! I give you props - I'm just not that patient LOL
You took the words right out of my mouth sister!! It soooooooo annoys me when people are like "but then you have a surprise to look forward to!" I'm sorry- I *personally* would rather rind out the surprise sooner, and then prepare.
This entire having a baby thing is continuously amazing. I don't care when I find out (sooner, later, whenever). I'm just happy to be having a baby and enjoying the experience. I have no idea why other people have to be so negative. Let an expecting mother do what she wants to do with her own surprises/body/breasts etc.
Sometimes folks just need to STFU. Seriously.
Honestly, I don't like surprises. At all. It's taken DH some time to reeeeally understand and get that I don't like surprises.
So if someone says that to me, I say YUCK, I hate surprises.
DMoney will be a kickass big sister
I am team green, and I posted in the other thread. I don't think any less of people that find out, I actually only know 3 other people (that recently had babies) that didn't find out. It's definitely the norm to find out, and the baby is still as special! It's funny that you are getting heat, because if you decide to wait- people always get mad and frustrated at you because you don't want to find out. I guess it's a lose/lose situation- you will never make everyone happy.
Oh, and I do try to write encouraging posts for people that are wanting to wait until birth, because so many people tell you reasons not to wait (I still think the clothes reason is a really lame one). My husband and I had a great experience waiting with our son, but we know we are the minority.
Team Green member speaking: There were a few reasons why we decided to NOT to find out:
One - we don't care what the sex is....so why worry about clothes and everything before the baby is born. We are having no problem coming up with nursery stuff and clothes that are gender neutral.....and I keep hearing that people don't want everything green and yellow......we don't have any green or yellow....we used white as our main color until we know what it is...it goes with everything!
Two - After having many friends find out what they are having, and having many family members NOT know what they are having....I know that Team Green people have WAY more excitement surrounding them on the day of birth than Team Blue or Team Pink. Not to say that people weren't excited if the couple knew the sex of the baby already, but it was just so much more different and "on the edge of your seat" when you are talking to everyone and anxiously waiting on delivery day for a Team Green-er to announce what the sex was. Thats just how it was with my friends and family (could be totally different for yours).
Three - I would rather have the doctor say "It's a _______!" and hand me my baby......then hear "It's a _______!" and then leave the clinic empty handed.
I don't judge people that want to find out what they are having....it is THEIR pregnancy and their baby after all. Since almost all of my friends have found out, I do still get excited on the day they find out what they are having, but not as excited as I do when a Team Green-er finally gets to find out what they are having. It's just very different to me I guess.....maybe not to others.
I agree about not finding out though, I do think if you want to wait its pretty cool! Just not for me
To each his own!
This!
It always shocks me how irritated people get by it! Seriously. My BFF thought last time that DH and I knew the sex and were just not telling her. Conspiracy theory much? As if I have the energy to keep that big of a secret myself??
Honestly though, those of us on team green get annoying comments too. I am always asked how I can possibly bond with my unborn baby not knowing if it's a boy or a girl. How could someone who hasn't been team green even know? I didn't start to feel any kind of bond with DS until the time I could feel him regularly anyhow (which was after I would have been able to find out what sex he was). It's hard to feel a connection with anything you only know is there b/c it is making you feel fat, sick and exhausted.
haha. even though i'm team green for this one, i was team blue for my first child, and i loved knowing. with this one, i just want to be able to say i experienced it both ways. with one, i found out, with the other a surprise, i think people think you'll be less excited if you find out - but TO EACH HER OWN! ya know? i don't harass my friends that are finding out or have found out the gender of theirs, but they sure are bugging me about the fact that i don't want to. whats it to them? i have no clue!!
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haha! i'm loving that mom and mother in law are all "bummed", not annoying, but just bummed, that they can't find out. check that, my mom is being annoying, and i keep telling her to GET OVER IT!!!
I'm on the fence. We were team green with DS and it was wonderful. This time, I almost want to know if I'm having another boy? or a girl? I have all of DS's clothing stored in tubs. If it is a boy...we will re-use as much as we can. If it is a girl, I need to start purging this summer in preparation to buy for a GIRL!
I am still leaning toward waiting and then selling off our stuff after the birth.
Lets me just put this out there - i am not going to give you any lame excuses for wanting to find out. i dont want to know what i am having so i can plan, bond etc - i want to know what i am having because i am impatient. I really just wanna know what is growing in there. it's exciting to me to be able to say "There is a little dude hanging out in my uterus!"
i still got my surprise at delivery with my son - his face was a surprise. His time of birth, date of birth, hands, feet, amount of hair, weight, length were all surprise. the way he curled up on my chest was a surprise. No matter which way you choose - delivery is still such a special experience. there are a lot of surprises so just because you know if your baby is a boy or a girl doesnt mean its going to be "boring". and who gives a sh*t if other people are on the edge of their seats finding out? this is about you, your husband and your kid.
When will I die? Surprise!
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Married since 06/19/2004|Anna born 11/19/2006|Charles born 11/1/11
Double undergrad graduation May 2011| Me: Psychology, DH: Communication| A long journey!
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For some reason, after reading this, the image in my head is of a newborn baby that has bow wrapped around the goods haha. Like, its born now go open your present! Oh its a ____ Lol.
That reminds me... there are more surprises than just the sex of the baby... the baby's eye color, hair color, whether it's curly or straight or if there's no hair at all or a lot of hair, what does his/her face look like... is she/he big or petite, short or tall. There are a thousand surprises at birth without just counting the sex thing.
Married since 06/19/2004|Anna born 11/19/2006|Charles born 11/1/11
Double undergrad graduation May 2011| Me: Psychology, DH: Communication| A long journey!
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We're Team Green and excited to be so. I feel like the moment of learning the baby's sex at birth will be even more exciting than learning from an ultrasound, and I also agree with a PP that I feel a bit more excitement about friends' births who don't know what they're having. But I understand why most people choose to find out and ultimately, it's not a big deal, right? I'm really just playing a little game with myself and this pregnancy, like waiting to open a letter that you suspect will contain awesome news to prolong the excitement.
And I've already gotten criticism, too. "How will you plan the nursery? How will you bond with the baby? Why are you torturing me like this?" (that last from my MIL).
One thing I've learned even in this short time is that when it comes to YOUR pregnancy, everyone has an opinion and isn't shy about sharing it.
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I am selfish. I only want to come up with one name. I dont want to be disappointed if we come up with an awesome boy name and a mediocre girl name and then have a girl. you know what I mean?
Wow, so my request to not be flamed was pretty much ignored - I was honest, and frankly I think the real sign of immaturity (or the need to "grow up" as you put it) is someone who can't express their opinion without getting personal.
Of course I will be grateful for anything that anyone who feels so generous might give. Obviously not everything is gender coded, that's why neutral options are available, however, if people know the gender they are more likely to buy gendered things than neutral things. For green reasons, I would like to have things that can be used on a second child regardless of gender, and for personal reasons, I think it's nice to not push kids into stereotypical gender designations; if the boy loves sports and the girl loves princesses, or vice versa
then fine, but I'm not going to push it on them. That's all I'm saying.
I hope you and your kid feel better soon.
This deal is unfair. She is pregnant and has an 8 month old...if she never posted when grumpy and sleep deprived, I am pretty sure she would never post at all.
I have had several people tell me this same thing and I get frustrated everytime because we have already decided that we want to know. Though we have nothing against anyone who waits. Like many of the women on here, we aren't patient at all
The way I look at the pregnancy is like a week. Monday is the beginning of the week or when you find out you are pregnant and Friday is the day everyone looks forward to in a week and the day the baby is born. Wednesday is like the hump day and a little extra gift to keep you excited for Friday! Not that you couldn't get to Friday without knowing, but just something I thought of. I can't wait to know the sex of my child and decorate the nursery all girly or very boy!!!