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August 2011 Moms
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Stolen from July Board: I Judge...
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I have some free time on my hands today & was perusing the July board when I spotted this gem. Now, this is meant to be FF.
I judge:
...parents who I see outdoors with their little ones without proper clothing on when it's cold out. Put a hat, warm coat, & blanket over that lil' peanut in the stroller for crying outloud!
...parents/people who smoke around LOs.
...people who don't listen to all sides of an argument and are narrow-minded. Some people are so set in their views and opinions that it's like talking to a wall sometimes. It can be infuriating!
...people who are on unemployment that don't bother to look for another job. I bust my butt hard to make a living for my family, not yours. Stop being lazy & get out there! (sorry, I know of 2 people like this- 1 who was on it for almost 2yrs & finally got a job because the benefits ran out, and the other who was having fun staying at home watching tv, internet surfing, etc. She finally got a job after passing up 3 opportunities) *grrr*
I'm sure I can think of some more, but I'm interested what you have to say. Anyone else???
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Re: Stolen from July Board: I Judge...
I saw this on July and wanted to steal it, too!
I judge:
...people who seem to place higher value on their pets than on their own children. I got a Christmas card this year, and the picture on the card showed Santa with the dog in his lap and the little boy standing beside him... awkward. I love my dog and all, but wow.
... people who smoke in their cars in the winter with the windows down and kids in the car.
And I totally agree with all of yours!
I judge...
...people who pierce their children's ears as infants.
...people who take their children out in public in only a diaper.
...mothers who have never been in a steady relationship and have several children with several different fathers.
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I also judge people who, no matter their party affiliation, vote only for candidates who run under "their" party regardless of whether they know what they stand for.
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Point taken. They still annoy the beh-jeezus (sp? if there even is a proper spelling...) out of me.
Agree!! I judge people who judge a group as a whole. Seriously-if I weren't friends with certain people because of their political affiliations, or judged an entire group of people by their "party"- I hope I would side-eye myself. I'm so sick of hearing "crazy democrats" or "crazy republicans". I doubt you would get away with that in public if someone judged a particular race out loud or something. It's the same thing.
Obviously I live in DC, where this is a hot topic 24/7.
Smokers of all kind. You smoke, we are not friends. And you are not holding my kid.
Forum "cool kids" who are really just mean girls. But everyone is scared of them and agrees with them.
Parents who complain about their 2 year old in the bed when they preached bed-sharing when the child was an infant.... your fault there. I have three relatives like this.
Wow
I know. I was wondering how long this post would remain flame free
Oh, simmer down... theres no drama here. I have many friends who are republicans and it is fine- we just don't talk politics. But this is an honest post about initial judgements people make and that is one of mine.. but im working on it and aware its not the "right" thing to do.
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Ha- I'm not worked up- don't worry!
just wan't expecting that as an answer to the normal judging of people's parenting! No dramz here Uwannalala!
As an English major in college I agree, but as a pregnant person who can't seem to type the words I am thinking I am more tolerant of this nowadays at least. Plus, my spell check doesn't seem to work on here.
I judge -
bad manners...people who walk up to my desk and see I'm eating and just start talking without even commenting, "I see your eating, sorry to disturb you"
-people who chew their gum loud
-people who go out to dinner/lunch with me and are texting on their blackberries the whole time
-people who tell me why they think I am having a boy/girl and then go on to explain their decision was based on how I'm gaining my weight...thanks
-people who do the bare minimum at work and make my life harder and harder..
the list could go on and on
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haha.. maybe I understood the question wrong. I get bored at work and start talking crazy LOL.
Dangit why couldn't I just answer something about kids only wearing diapers or something?
I'm completely anti-drama and it makes me uncomfortable LOL so Just ignore me...
This list gets smaller the older I get
-parents who allow their kids to crawl around the car without seat belts when the are is moving.
-people who smoke in the car with their kids
-on a work level, parents who refuse to get their kids mental help who REALLY need it (like I hear voices that tell me to kill animals)
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Big sisters Alex and Layla
I judge the parents who judge others that don't do things exactly like them and assume that their way is best and everyone else is wrong.
I agree with the person who said loud gum chewers but add loud food eaters.
I judge
-those that think having a baby will fix their marital problems. Or people who pressure their spouse into having a baby when it's obvious he/she isn't ready yet.
-people that think their dog is just important as a child. I have a friend who is constantly comparing her dog to my child. Um, so not the same.
-smokers! My sister is a smoker and she gets really mad about the rules I have for her to be around my daughter. Sorry but if I don't smoke, there's no reason kid needs to be exposed to it.
I judge: (more so annoyed by..)
-People who drag their feet when wearing sandals.. or any footwear for that matter.. makes me wonder if they are really that lazy..
-People who don't teach their kids manners..
-People who beg for handouts on Facebook.. brag about receiving aid.. then refuse to go look for a job..
Right now I'm totally judging DH's aunt right now. She's a nice enough lady but as a mom... not so great right now. She has two sons, one is 15 and the other is autistic (I think he's 17 or 18). I knw it must be really hard to raise an autistic child but she seems to have gotten to the point where she doesn't care anymore. She openly rolls her eyes at him and mocks him in front of other people. He went to his first prom last weekend and she could have cared less. She didn't plan on taking any pictures of him in his tux until the family forced the issue and she didn't give him any money. My FIL ended up giving him $50 just in case he needed to pay for drinks or pictures or anything. Instead she spent the whole time complaining that she had to drive her son and his date to the dance. She complained because his date has her license but didn't want to drive. Because you know every 17 year old girl wants to drive to her own prom in her dress. She also doesn't seem to care that her 15 year old comes home drunk, she was joking around about it at a family party on sunday.
Also she is a single mom becuase the boys father was a douche(not her fault), but she lives well above her means. She is only an aid at one of the public schools yet one of her sons goes to private school, they both play hockey which is wicked expensive and they have all the latest tech gadgets and nicest clothes. Yet she expects the family to pay for everything for her and them (hence FIL giving her son $50).
yuck! ITA
I judge parents that constantly post (what color poop their child has/ how much snot is coming out of the kids nose/etc) on facebook. Milestones are great but if you shouldn't say it at a dinner table then you shouldn't post it on facebook.
Btw I totally love the blog STFU Parents
I also judge parents that let their child sit in a wet or dirty diaper for all day. I personally know someone who has bragged about letting their child stay in a soiled diaper for over 8hours because the kid never cried about it!
I seriously was like W.T.F.!
in texas everybody smokes with their kids in the car. i find it even worse when they only slightly crack the window. i'd rather the kid be cold than have to marinate in smoke. when my husband and i got here we were flabbergasted to see so many people still smoke, let alone with their kids in the car.
I judge people who misuse:
Their/they're
Its/it's
Your/you're
I just can't help it!
I do this sometimes. Very rarely, but it happens. Never know when you need to run to the store and don't have a sitter handy.
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This isn't exactly all true. First, of course we are all paying for unemployment since it is paid, as a tax, by employers. Where do you think that money comes from? If you're buying something at Target I can guarantee you that built into the mark-up for their products is a little bit to cover the unemployment taxes Target pays for each of their employees. Additionally, it's not as though the money my employer sends to the state goes into an account with my name on it and it's for me to use if I were to ever lose my job. Each state, along with the federal government, collects unemployment funds and then doles them out to the unemployed. The state and feds set the limits on how long each person can receive funds and how much they can get each month. So, although unemployment taxes have been paid on my behalf since I got my first job at the age of 15, it's not as though if I lost my job tomorrow I could just go and collect on the 24 years of unemployment taxes paid by my various employers.
Kelly, Mom to Christopher Shannon 9.27.06, Catherine Quinn 2.24.09, Trey Barton lost on 12.28.09, Therese Barton lost on 6.10.10, Joseph Sullivan 7.23.11, and our latest, Victoria Maren 11.15.12
Secondary infertility success with IVF, then two losses, one at 14 weeks and one at 10 weeks, then success with IUI and then just pure, crazy luck. Expecting our fifth in May as the result of a FET.
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...people who can't speak using proper English or write using proper grammar or punctuation. Was it REALLY that hard to pay attention when you spent an hour each day in English class, for years??
...people who don't respect other people's regional, cultural, ethnic or otherwise diverse opinions and practices.
I actually never claimed that we weren't paying into unemployment...just that the people collecting it pre-paid for their benefit, or there would be nothing for them to collect. So yes, we all pay into it so that if/when WE need it, it's there. It's like any insurance, really. Obviously there are going to be those that can't collect all the money that was paid on their behalf (many never collect ANY of the money paid on their behalf) and those that collect more than the money paid on their behalf...but that's really splitting hairs.
My point is that unemployment benefits are generally earned by their collectors. It's not a hand out. It's like if you and I belong to the same health insurance company and we're both paying $xx/month for the insurance and then you have a major catastrophe and need a million dollar surgery, and I do not ever need more than preventative care - do we say that you're getting a hand out? You and I paid the same amount for our insurance, but you actually collected more than you put in, and I collected less. But you still earned your care by buying and paying for the insurance.
My pet peeve is people who think of unemployment as a welfare-like handout. It is not. It is insurance.
Andplusalso, given the rate of unemployment in this Country, people who claim people are just sitting around collecting unemployment and not taking these easily and readily available jobs get the side-eye from me. I know, I know...we all "know someone"...but the idea that this is common in the grand scheme of things is pretty far-fetched, IMHO.
I used to think the same thing, but then I had a baby that REFUSED to sleep before 10pm. If we put her down any earlier she would turn it into a nap and then be up all night. She's still like that, so we are the parents out at 9 pm with a one year old. She has gradually been moving her bedtime up on her own but as long as she gets the sleep she needs I don't force it too much. Of course that does mean our mornings start a little later which is totally fine by me.
Bad baby names. If the majority of those who you tell your name to give you a WTF face, that means that everyone who your kid tells his name to (including future employers) will be doing the same.
I judge SAHM's that are on facebook all day.
I have a couple SAHM's on my friend list. Whenever I sign on at work they seem to be on. They constantly update their status, etc. When I'm home with DD the last thing I'm worried about is facebook.
People who drive hummers. I feel like they just scream, "heeeey look at me!!"
I also can't help but judge those family stickers on back of cars. I actually despise them. Extra annoying points if the stickers include names of kids or their hobbies.
Love & luck to my 3TC girls. Congrats to Omega-The boys are here!
If there's one thing I've learned while waiting my turn,
it's that in each life some rain falls but you also get some sun.
After 2 years & 2 losses, our little man arrived 8-2011.
I judge....
*teen moms who expect their parents to babysit on friday and saturday nights while they go out and get hammered.
*parents who walk 20 feet away from their 2-7 year olds in malls
*parents who are excessive swearing in front of their children
*parents who TELL their kids to say things like "you're a ***" and then laugh and have the kids do it for anyone who will listen.
There is SOOOO much more, but I'll stop there. hhhaa
This, except not just hummers. People who drive huge SUVs period. Unless you have 6 children, drive over a mountain every day, or haul large amounts of equipment for your job, huge SUVs are unnecessary, wasteful of limited resources, and bad for the environment.
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DS1 born 08.02.11
DS2 born 12.05.13
Unless I see a yellow hummer. Those are the worst!
Seriously, Linds is correct. Substitute the word "side-eye" for judge if it helps.
Love & luck to my 3TC girls. Congrats to Omega-The boys are here!
If there's one thing I've learned while waiting my turn,
it's that in each life some rain falls but you also get some sun.
After 2 years & 2 losses, our little man arrived 8-2011.
Yup, same here! I've tried to move the bed time earlier, but as you said, it turns into a "nap."