Changing it Up: FFTC!

LegallyBlonde217 · March 2011

faydre:

confession 2 : there are some AW's that really annoy me.

UGH, yes!!!!!

psychgirl33 · March 2011

faydre:

confession 1 : I know i complain about disliking CD1 posts all the time, but I really feel like posting one today, because it's the start of cycle 12.

confession 2 : there are some AW's that really annoy me.

I wouldn't be bothered by a CD1 post from you! And I'd say I'm sorry and boo to cycle 12 for you and boo to CD1!

The only CD1 posts that bother me are if it's they've hardly ever posted or if they do it every month or something like that.

Ricola · March 2011

Megaloo05:
MySweetBaboo:
Ricola:
Megaloo05:

I have two confessions and one im sure yall are going to flame me even though it says FLAME FREE.......
1. There are a couple people on here that ALWAYS start the flaming of posters and then the rest of the followers jump in. IMO we are all (for the most part) internet strangers. Is it really worth your time and stress to be such a b!tch??? No not really but if you get your kicks over being one then whatever. Okay now go ahead a flame away. i couldn't care less.
2. Im jealous of all the BFPs lately on the board. there are a TON and I wan't it to finally be me.
Wo are you talking about in your 1st confession? Names?
Yes, please!
If you have been on the board long enough, then you probably know. Im not going to name names. Im not scared or a coward so don't start that either.

Are you kidding me? If I have been on the board long enough?

brookelynpaisley · March 2011

KdgTeacher:
brookelynpaisley:

I confess that I want all 200 of my sister's wedding guests to RSVP (venue capacity: 170) just so she has to deal with it and so I can say "I told you not to do that." And I hate that she's made me promise not to tell my mom they over-invited. I'm super tempted to let it slip and watch the fireworks.

Also, I want to rip my crazy evil aunt's (dad's sister) head off. She has been off-balance mentally for years and has something against my mom, for no good reason. She's cussed me out, along with my cousins, sister, and obviously my mother. I haven't seen her in about 15 years. She called my parents' house yesterday, and my 93-year-old grandmother (mom's mom) answered the phone. Aunt Crazy said vicious and vile things to my grandma about my mom. I can't believe the fvcking nerve of this woman to tell an elderly woman such hateful things about her own daughter. I could seriously beat Aunt Cray Cray senseless for it. If she has the audacity to show up at my sister's wedding (uninvited), I just might. And I confess that I may have told DH to make sure his handgun is in the car at the wedding (it's not at a fire arms-prohibited site) just in case.

I'm not flaming, but offering some advice. I know you're going for worst case scenario, but that could end very badly. If you are truly worried you need to look into hiring real security.

I understand. I wouldn't actually physically confront my aunt. Just want to. I'm just very angry right now for my mom. My parents are looking into a restraining order and hiring a security guard. The rational, unangry side of me knows better than to take anything into my own hands, rest assured.

Dwinalsinlove · March 2011

LegalPawn:
I confess that I am probably going to drink an entire bottle of wine myself tonight. And, as mean as it sounds, I don't really care that my newly KU best friend who is visiting from IL won't be able to partake with me.

I don't think it sounds mean at all. Drink up Legal. ((Hugs))

KdgTeacher · March 2011

brookelynpaisley:
KdgTeacher:
brookelynpaisley:

I confess that I want all 200 of my sister's wedding guests to RSVP (venue capacity: 170) just so she has to deal with it and so I can say "I told you not to do that." And I hate that she's made me promise not to tell my mom they over-invited. I'm super tempted to let it slip and watch the fireworks.

Also, I want to rip my crazy evil aunt's (dad's sister) head off. She has been off-balance mentally for years and has something against my mom, for no good reason. She's cussed me out, along with my cousins, sister, and obviously my mother. I haven't seen her in about 15 years. She called my parents' house yesterday, and my 93-year-old grandmother (mom's mom) answered the phone. Aunt Crazy said vicious and vile things to my grandma about my mom. I can't believe the fvcking nerve of this woman to tell an elderly woman such hateful things about her own daughter. I could seriously beat Aunt Cray Cray senseless for it. If she has the audacity to show up at my sister's wedding (uninvited), I just might. And I confess that I may have told DH to make sure his handgun is in the car at the wedding (it's not at a fire arms-prohibited site) just in case.

I'm not flaming, but offering some advice. I know you're going for worst case scenario, but that could end very badly. If you are truly worried you need to look into hiring real security.

I understand. I wouldn't actually physically confront my aunt. Just want to. I'm just very angry right now for my mom. My parents are looking into a restraining order and hiring a security guard. The rational, unangry side of me knows better than to take anything into my own hands, rest assured.

I understand. FWIW, we hired an off duty city police officer to sit in his car during our wedding. We gave him $20/hr and it was so nice to have the piece of mind. Might be worth looking into

faydre · March 2011

Ricola:
Megaloo05:
MySweetBaboo:
Ricola:
Megaloo05:

I have two confessions and one im sure yall are going to flame me even though it says FLAME FREE.......

1. There are a couple people on here that ALWAYS start the flaming of posters and then the rest of the followers jump in. IMO we are all (for the most part) internet strangers. Is it really worth your time and stress to be such a b!tch??? No not really but if you get your kicks over being one then whatever. Okay now go ahead a flame away. i couldn't care less.

2. Im jealous of all the BFPs lately on the board. there are a TON and I wan't it to finally be me.

Wo are you talking about in your 1st confession? Names?

Yes, please!

If you have been on the board long enough, then you probably know. Im not going to name names. Im not scared or a coward so don't start that either.

Are you kidding me? If I have been on the board long enough?

woah, that was ridiculous. ((Hugs ricola))

OP -- you're an idiot.

brookelynpaisley · March 2011

Megaloo05:
MySweetBaboo:
Ricola:
Megaloo05:

I have two confessions and one im sure yall are going to flame me even though it says FLAME FREE.......

1. There are a couple people on here that ALWAYS start the flaming of posters and then the rest of the followers jump in. IMO we are all (for the most part) internet strangers. Is it really worth your time and stress to be such a b!tch??? No not really but if you get your kicks over being one then whatever. Okay now go ahead a flame away. i couldn't care less.

2. Im jealous of all the BFPs lately on the board. there are a TON and I wan't it to finally be me.

Wo are you talking about in your 1st confession? Names?

Yes, please!

If you have been on the board long enough, then you probably know. Im not going to name names. Im not scared or a coward so don't start that either.

Buwahahahahahah!! ::breathe:: hahahahahahahahah!!

Says the girl with 530 posts.

MySweetBaboo · March 2011

Ricola:
Megaloo05:
MySweetBaboo:
Ricola:
Megaloo05:

I have two confessions and one im sure yall are going to flame me even though it says FLAME FREE.......

1. There are a couple people on here that ALWAYS start the flaming of posters and then the rest of the followers jump in. IMO we are all (for the most part) internet strangers. Is it really worth your time and stress to be such a b!tch??? No not really but if you get your kicks over being one then whatever. Okay now go ahead a flame away. i couldn't care less.

2. Im jealous of all the BFPs lately on the board. there are a TON and I wan't it to finally be me.

Wo are you talking about in your 1st confession? Names?

Yes, please!

If you have been on the board long enough, then you probably know. Im not going to name names. Im not scared or a coward so don't start that either.

Are you kidding me? If I have been on the board long enough?

I have been on this board too long and to my knowledge most of the flamers and followers have graduated.

I have noticed however, that you (megaloo) yourself is a follower in the newest revolt of flaming for no reason or maybe it's just to +1. Perhaps your confession was about yourself?

MySweetBaboo · March 2011

brookelynpaisley:
Megaloo05:
MySweetBaboo:
Ricola:
Megaloo05:

I have two confessions and one im sure yall are going to flame me even though it says FLAME FREE.......

1. There are a couple people on here that ALWAYS start the flaming of posters and then the rest of the followers jump in. IMO we are all (for the most part) internet strangers. Is it really worth your time and stress to be such a b!tch??? No not really but if you get your kicks over being one then whatever. Okay now go ahead a flame away. i couldn't care less.

2. Im jealous of all the BFPs lately on the board. there are a TON and I wan't it to finally be me.

Wo are you talking about in your 1st confession? Names?

Yes, please!

If you have been on the board long enough, then you probably know. Im not going to name names. Im not scared or a coward so don't start that either.

Buwahahahahahah!! ::breathe:: hahahahahahahahah!!

Says the girl with 530 posts.

i about peed in my pants. Funny, cuz I was like, and who are you? I think I have seen maybe a handful of posts from this chick.

psychgirl33 · March 2011

LegalPawn:
I confess that I am probably going to drink an entire bottle of wine myself tonight. And, as mean as it sounds, I don't really care that my newly KU best friend who is visiting from IL won't be able to partake with me.

I don't think it sounds mean and I wouldn't think it was if I were your BF either!

rsrs807 · March 2011

Ricola:
Megaloo05:

I have two confessions and one im sure yall are going to flame me even though it says FLAME FREE.......

1. There are a couple people on here that ALWAYS start the flaming of posters and then the rest of the followers jump in. IMO we are all (for the most part) internet strangers. Is it really worth your time and stress to be such a b!tch??? No not really but if you get your kicks over being one then whatever. Okay now go ahead a flame away. i couldn't care less.

2. Im jealous of all the BFPs lately on the board. there are a TON and I wan't it to finally be me.

Wo are you talking about in your 1st confession? Names?

Yes, names. This happened last week too - people got all "some people do X." Just name names. It seems childish otherwise. Either you have a problem with some posters or you don't.

And LOL that people think FFC are ever flame-free.

My FFC: I'm supposed to take the dog for a run after work today, but I think I might not and tell DH I did.

also, this same dog is likely going to invade our wine rack today and destroy the two lonely bottles of wine on it. This enrages me bc I want a glass of wine when I get home.

I guess I should take him for a run, huh?

Here's another one - IF I do get pregnant this cycle, my EDD would be right between my brother's bday and his daughter's bday. While this doesn't bother me, I know there's a part of my SIL that will be really ticked (although she would never say it) because she likes having her family (my brother and niece) at the center of the larger family. I think she'd kind of grit her teeth. But she's a bigger person than me so she would never ever let on that it was an issue - but I know her well enough to know that it would be. And there's a part of me that is so amused at that thought..............

GraceInCA · March 2011

My confession is that most of the time when I see it I feel bad for you, but once in a while when you post in someone's thread something cruel/ridiculous/angry I experience schadenfreude. Then I feel guilty for enjoying your mini-meltdown, and I post something nice to the OP because I try and counter your bitchiness with some kind words. It won't kill you to either ignore the posts you don't like, or simply post a kind word and move on, but you seem to be incapable. You have to get that dig in. You can't let it go. You have no idea if someone's BFP is a beepbeep or MUD, but you will never give them the benefit of the doubt. Or just move on. You have to say something.

I wonder why you even want to have children, if every tiny thing bothers you. If you can't even skip over a post or thread you find annoying or stupid, you're going to be a lousy mother. And don't kid yourself, there are many lousy mothers out there. You're not going to magically turn into a happy, well-adjusted human being just by giving birth. If life is this miserable now it's only going to be more difficult.

I alternate between enjoying your crazy (because it makes me realize how happy and normal and blessed I am in comparison), and feeling really bad for you and the people who have to deal with you every day. You are fascinating, if nothing else.

KdgTeacher · March 2011

GraceInCA:

My confession is that most of the time when I see it I feel bad for you, but once in a while when you post in someone's thread something cruel/ridiculous/angry I experience schadenfreude. Then I feel guilty for enjoying your mini-meltdown, and I post something nice to the OP because I try and counter your bitchiness with some kind words. It won't kill you to either ignore the posts you don't like, or simply post a kind word and move on, but you seem to be incapable. You have to get that dig in. You can't let it go. You have no idea if someone's BFP is a beepbeep or MUD, but you will never give them the benefit of the doubt. Or just move on. You have to say something.

I wonder why you even want to have children, if every tiny thing bothers you. If you can't even skip over a post or thread you find annoying or stupid, you're going to be a lousy mother. And don't kid yourself, there are many lousy mothers out there. You're not going to magically turn into a happy, well-adjusted human being just by giving birth. If life is this miserable now it's only going to be more difficult.

I alternate between enjoying your crazy (because it makes me realize how happy and normal and blessed I am in comparison), and feeling really bad for you and the people who have to deal with you every day. You are fascinating, if nothing else.

Who are you talking to?

Pocky873 · March 2011

GraceInCA:

My confession is that most of the time when I see it I feel bad for you, but once in a while when you post in someone's thread something cruel/ridiculous/angry I experience schadenfreude. Then I feel guilty for enjoying your mini-meltdown, and I post something nice to the OP because I try and counter your bitchiness with some kind words. It won't kill you to either ignore the posts you don't like, or simply post a kind word and move on, but you seem to be incapable. You have to get that dig in. You can't let it go. You have no idea if someone's BFP is a beepbeep or MUD, but you will never give them the benefit of the doubt. Or just move on. You have to say something.

I wonder why you even want to have children, if every tiny thing bothers you. If you can't even skip over a post or thread you find annoying or stupid, you're going to be a lousy mother. And don't kid yourself, there are many lousy mothers out there. You're not going to magically turn into a happy, well-adjusted human being just by giving birth. If life is this miserable now it's only going to be more difficult.

I alternate between enjoying your crazy (because it makes me realize how happy and normal and blessed I am in comparison), and feeling really bad for you and the people who have to deal with you every day. You are fascinating, if nothing else.

Wow...you must reveal who you're talking about!!

psychgirl33 · March 2011

GraceInCA:
My confession is that most of the time when I see it I feel bad for you, but once in a while when you post in someone's thread something cruel/ridiculous/angry I experience schadenfreude. Then I feel guilty for enjoying your mini-meltdown, and I post something nice to the OP because I try and counter your bitchiness with some kind words. It won't kill you to either ignore the posts you don't like, or simply post a kind word and move on, but you seem to be incapable. You have to get that dig in. You can't let it go. You have no idea if someone's BFP is a beepbeep or MUD, but you will never give them the benefit of the doubt. Or just move on. You have to say something.

I wonder why you even want to have children, if every tiny thing bothers you. If you can't even skip over a post or thread you find annoying or stupid, you're going to be a lousy mother. And don't kid yourself, there are many lousy mothers out there. You're not going to magically turn into a happy, well-adjusted human being just by giving birth. If life is this miserable now it's only going to be more difficult.

I alternate between enjoying your crazy (because it makes me realize how happy and normal and blessed I am in comparison), and feeling really bad for you and the people who have to deal with you every day. You are fascinating, if nothing else.

Is this aimed at someone in particular?

mrsfowler1016 · March 2011

GraceInCA:
My confession is that most of the time when I see it I feel bad for you, but once in a while when you post in someone's thread something cruel/ridiculous/angry I experience schadenfreude. Then I feel guilty for enjoying your mini-meltdown, and I post something nice to the OP because I try and counter your bitchiness with some kind words. It won't kill you to either ignore the posts you don't like, or simply post a kind word and move on, but you seem to be incapable. You have to get that dig in. You can't let it go. You have no idea if someone's BFP is a beepbeep or MUD, but you will never give them the benefit of the doubt. Or just move on. You have to say something.

I wonder why you even want to have children, if every tiny thing bothers you. If you can't even skip over a post or thread you find annoying or stupid, you're going to be a lousy mother. And don't kid yourself, there are many lousy mothers out there. You're not going to magically turn into a happy, well-adjusted human being just by giving birth. If life is this miserable now it's only going to be more difficult.

I alternate between enjoying your crazy (because it makes me realize how happy and normal and blessed I am in comparison), and feeling really bad for you and the people who have to deal with you every day. You are fascinating, if nothing else.

OH. MY. GOD.

lilpumpkin0729 · March 2011

I hate the fact that my arch-enemy (BIL's wife) has all of a sudden decided that she wants to TTC #2 next month. We were pregnant with #1 at the same time ( 2 weeks apart) and she said some pretty nasty things..i.e. "I guess we have to share everything" , "I hope your baby has Autism."

So the fact that we may be pregnant again at the same time just gets under my skin. It is like she always has to be in competition with us. She even got upset that my DS was rolling over before her DD. Seriously!!

CarolinaGirl82 · March 2011

My other FFFC is that I'm so over this endless argument between the "flamers" and the "defenders of the flamed".

CarolinaGirl82 · March 2011

lilpumpkin0729:
"I hope your baby has Autism."

OH MY GOD! Who says that??? That's awful...

psychgirl33 · March 2011

lilpumpkin0729:
I hate the fact that my arch-enemy (BIL's wife) has all of a sudden decided that she wants to TTC #2 next month. We were pregnant with #1 at the same time ( 2 weeks apart) and she said some pretty nasty things..i.e. "I guess we have to share everything" , "I hope your baby has Autism."

So the fact that we may be pregnant again at the same time just gets under my skin. It is like she always has to be in competition with us. She even got upset that my DS was rolling over before her DD. Seriously!!

My first instinct was "your SIL is your arch enemy? that sounds a little dramatic." But whoa, yeah, that's evil! I think I'd want to avoid her all the time, not just while KU!

rsrs807 · March 2011

CarolinaGirl82:
My other FFFC is that I'm so over this endless argument between the "flamers" and the "defenders of the flamed".

Seriously.

MySweetBaboo · March 2011

lilpumpkin0729:

I hate the fact that my arch-enemy (BIL's wife) has all of a sudden decided that she wants to TTC #2 next month. We were pregnant with #1 at the same time ( 2 weeks apart) and she said some pretty nasty things..i.e. "I guess we have to share everything" , "I hope your baby has Autism."

So the fact that we may be pregnant again at the same time just gets under my skin. It is like she always has to be in competition with us. She even got upset that my DS was rolling over before her DD. Seriously!!

Hugs, like I said, I hope you beat her again!! She is all kinds of special!

MissusTexas · March 2011

GraceInCA:
My confession is that most of the time when I see it I feel bad for you, but once in a while when you post in someone's thread something cruel/ridiculous/angry I experience schadenfreude. Then I feel guilty for enjoying your mini-meltdown, and I post something nice to the OP because I try and counter your bitchiness with some kind words. It won't kill you to either ignore the posts you don't like, or simply post a kind word and move on, but you seem to be incapable. You have to get that dig in. You can't let it go. You have no idea if someone's BFP is a beepbeep or MUD, but you will never give them the benefit of the doubt. Or just move on. You have to say something.

I wonder why you even want to have children, if every tiny thing bothers you. If you can't even skip over a post or thread you find annoying or stupid, you're going to be a lousy mother. And don't kid yourself, there are many lousy mothers out there. You're not going to magically turn into a happy, well-adjusted human being just by giving birth. If life is this miserable now it's only going to be more difficult.

I alternate between enjoying your crazy (because it makes me realize how happy and normal and blessed I am in comparison), and feeling really bad for you and the people who have to deal with you every day. You are fascinating, if nothing else.

MySweetBaboo · March 2011

psychgirl33:
lilpumpkin0729:

I hate the fact that my arch-enemy (BIL's wife) has all of a sudden decided that she wants to TTC #2 next month. We were pregnant with #1 at the same time ( 2 weeks apart) and she said some pretty nasty things..i.e. "I guess we have to share everything" , "I hope your baby has Autism."

So the fact that we may be pregnant again at the same time just gets under my skin. It is like she always has to be in competition with us. She even got upset that my DS was rolling over before her DD. Seriously!!

My first instinct was "your SIL is your arch enemy? that sounds a little dramatic." But whoa, yeah, that's evil! I think I'd want to avoid her all the time, not just while KU!

LOL! I can attest that this is all true!! Her SIL is evil!

huskymomma94 · March 2011

LOL!!

Jlr07 · March 2011

FFC- I AM one of those people who thinks something might be wrong with each passing month. Partly because I've always been a hypochondriac, partly because I'm tired of waiting for my BFP, and partly because I have health issues.

I don't think it's about wishing IF on ourselves, it's about wanting to at least have a reason for why it's harder for us to concieve than our BFF who got pregnant 'on accident the first month she stopped taking BCP'.

At least, that's what it is for me

Pocky873 · March 2011

lilpumpkin0729:

I hate the fact that my arch-enemy (BIL's wife) has all of a sudden decided that she wants to TTC #2 next month. We were pregnant with #1 at the same time ( 2 weeks apart) and she said some pretty nasty things..i.e. "I guess we have to share everything" , "I hope your baby has Autism."

So the fact that we may be pregnant again at the same time just gets under my skin. It is like she always has to be in competition with us. She even got upset that my DS was rolling over before her DD. Seriously!!

Holy crap, klassy much? That's a horrible thing to say.

CoDaisy · March 2011

NicoleWright8:
I use instant mashed potatoes . Mainly because making real mashed potatoes is a lot of work when I'm just cooking for DH and I and I'm lazy like that.

I do this ALL the time! DH's favorite food is mashed potatoes, the real ones, so when he wants real ones he usually makes them. I think he isn't sure if I actually know how to make real potatoes (probably because my mom made the box kind for Thanksgiving last time we were there!). Oh well. If it gets him to cook, I am not going to correct him. ;-)

MySweetBaboo · March 2011

GraceInCA:

My confession is that most of the time when I see it I feel bad for you, but once in a while when you post in someone's thread something cruel/ridiculous/angry I experience schadenfreude. Then I feel guilty for enjoying your mini-meltdown, and I post something nice to the OP because I try and counter your bitchiness with some kind words. It won't kill you to either ignore the posts you don't like, or simply post a kind word and move on, but you seem to be incapable. You have to get that dig in. You can't let it go. You have no idea if someone's BFP is a beepbeep or MUD, but you will never give them the benefit of the doubt. Or just move on. You have to say something.

I wonder why you even want to have children, if every tiny thing bothers you. If you can't even skip over a post or thread you find annoying or stupid, you're going to be a lousy mother. And don't kid yourself, there are many lousy mothers out there. You're not going to magically turn into a happy, well-adjusted human being just by giving birth. If life is this miserable now it's only going to be more difficult.

I alternate between enjoying your crazy (because it makes me realize how happy and normal and blessed I am in comparison), and feeling really bad for you and the people who have to deal with you every day. You are fascinating, if nothing else.

psychgirl33 · March 2011

MySweetBaboo:
psychgirl33:
lilpumpkin0729:

I hate the fact that my arch-enemy (BIL's wife) has all of a sudden decided that she wants to TTC #2 next month. We were pregnant with #1 at the same time ( 2 weeks apart) and she said some pretty nasty things..i.e. "I guess we have to share everything" , "I hope your baby has Autism."

So the fact that we may be pregnant again at the same time just gets under my skin. It is like she always has to be in competition with us. She even got upset that my DS was rolling over before her DD. Seriously!!

My first instinct was "your SIL is your arch enemy? that sounds a little dramatic." But whoa, yeah, that's evil! I think I'd want to avoid her all the time, not just while KU!

LOL! I can attest that this is all true!! Her SIL is evil!

Sounds like it! Anyone who would say that has some serious issues! Whoa!

lilpumpkin0729 · March 2011

I will never forget or forgive that statement. And the fact that my DS was born blind and I never heard her say " I feel really guilty about what I said and I am so sorry that your DS was born blind". If the roles were reversed I wouldn't be able to live with myself. Of course...I would never say anything like that.

Also, she had the nerve to whine in the delivery room after her DD was born that she had a cone head...after all that I had been through with DD's birth, I wanted to slap her in the face!! Cone head...seriously...why don't we trade!!!

Ricola · March 2011

Jlr07:
FFC- I AM one of those people who thinks something might be wrong with each passing month. Partly because I've always been a hypochondriac, partly because I'm tired of waiting for my BFP, and partly because I have health issues.
I don't think it's about wishing IF on ourselves, it's about wanting to at least have a reason for why it's harder for us to concieve than our BFF who got pregnant 'on accident the first month she stopped taking BCP'.
At least, that's what it is for me

Yes, I understand all of it. But saying it is "harder for you" to conceive when you have been trying for only 3 months (like a poster the other day) or even 6 is ridiculous, there is no way around it.

Ricola · March 2011

MySweetBaboo:
GraceInCA:

My confession is that most of the time when I see it I feel bad for you, but once in a while when you post in someone's thread something cruel/ridiculous/angry I experience schadenfreude. Then I feel guilty for enjoying your mini-meltdown, and I post something nice to the OP because I try and counter your bitchiness with some kind words. It won't kill you to either ignore the posts you don't like, or simply post a kind word and move on, but you seem to be incapable. You have to get that dig in. You can't let it go. You have no idea if someone's BFP is a beepbeep or MUD, but you will never give them the benefit of the doubt. Or just move on. You have to say something.
I wonder why you even want to have children, if every tiny thing bothers you. If you can't even skip over a post or thread you find annoying or stupid, you're going to be a lousy mother. And don't kid yourself, there are many lousy mothers out there. You're not going to magically turn into a happy, well-adjusted human being just by giving birth. If life is this miserable now it's only going to be more difficult.
I alternate between enjoying your crazy (because it makes me realize how happy and normal and blessed I am in comparison), and feeling really bad for you and the people who have to deal with you every day. You are fascinating, if nothing else.

Heehee, nice picture!

punkymama · March 2011

Jlr07:

FFC- I AM one of those people who thinks something might be wrong with each passing month. Partly because I've always been a hypochondriac, partly because I'm tired of waiting for my BFP, and partly because I have health issues.

I don't think it's about wishing IF on ourselves, it's about wanting to at least have a reason for why it's harder for us to concieve than our BFF who got pregnant 'on accident the first month she stopped taking BCP'.

At least, that's what it is for me

I am not trying to be b!tchy by saying this.

A good majority of women with IF have a diagnosis of "unknown fertility" so you may or may not have a reason for why it's harder to conceive than someone else. It just does take longer for some of us.

I wouldn't torture myself by comparing me to my BFF who got pregnant rigth away. Like brooklynp usually says, shes says it better but the jist is, their BFP or baby doesn't take away from you getting your baby.

brookelynpaisley · March 2011

psychgirl33:
lilpumpkin0729:

I hate the fact that my arch-enemy (BIL's wife) has all of a sudden decided that she wants to TTC #2 next month. We were pregnant with #1 at the same time ( 2 weeks apart) and she said some pretty nasty things..i.e. "I guess we have to share everything" , "I hope your baby has Autism."

So the fact that we may be pregnant again at the same time just gets under my skin. It is like she always has to be in competition with us. She even got upset that my DS was rolling over before her DD. Seriously!!

My first instinct was "your SIL is your arch enemy? that sounds a little dramatic." But whoa, yeah, that's evil! I think I'd want to avoid her all the time, not just while KU!

I didn't know that non-cartoon characters had arch enemies OP, your SIL sounds heinous.

punkymama · March 2011

GraceInCA:

My confession is that most of the time when I see it I feel bad for you, but once in a while when you post in someone's thread something cruel/ridiculous/angry I experience schadenfreude. Then I feel guilty for enjoying your mini-meltdown, and I post something nice to the OP because I try and counter your bitchiness with some kind words. It won't kill you to either ignore the posts you don't like, or simply post a kind word and move on, but you seem to be incapable. You have to get that dig in. You can't let it go. You have no idea if someone's BFP is a beepbeep or MUD, but you will never give them the benefit of the doubt. Or just move on. You have to say something.

I wonder why you even want to have children, if every tiny thing bothers you. If you can't even skip over a post or thread you find annoying or stupid, you're going to be a lousy mother. And don't kid yourself, there are many lousy mothers out there. You're not going to magically turn into a happy, well-adjusted human being just by giving birth. If life is this miserable now it's only going to be more difficult.

I alternate between enjoying your crazy (because it makes me realize how happy and normal and blessed I am in comparison), and feeling really bad for you and the people who have to deal with you every day. You are fascinating, if nothing else.

Come on GraceinCA, are you really going to not come back and let us know who this is meant for after you took the time to write all of this?!

brookelynpaisley · March 2011

GraceInCA:

My confession is that most of the time when I see it I feel bad for you, but once in a while when you post in someone's thread something cruel/ridiculous/angry I experience schadenfreude. Then I feel guilty for enjoying your mini-meltdown, and I post something nice to the OP because I try and counter your bitchiness with some kind words. It won't kill you to either ignore the posts you don't like, or simply post a kind word and move on, but you seem to be incapable. You have to get that dig in. You can't let it go. You have no idea if someone's BFP is a beepbeep or MUD, but you will never give them the benefit of the doubt. Or just move on. You have to say something.

I wonder why you even want to have children, if every tiny thing bothers you. If you can't even skip over a post or thread you find annoying or stupid, you're going to be a lousy mother. And don't kid yourself, there are many lousy mothers out there. You're not going to magically turn into a happy, well-adjusted human being just by giving birth. If life is this miserable now it's only going to be more difficult.

I alternate between enjoying your crazy (because it makes me realize how happy and normal and blessed I am in comparison), and feeling really bad for you and the people who have to deal with you every day. You are fascinating, if nothing else.

Did you miss everything in this thread about just sacking up and naming names?

Jlr07 · March 2011

Ricola:
Jlr07:

FFC- I AM one of those people who thinks something might be wrong with each passing month. Partly because I've always been a hypochondriac, partly because I'm tired of waiting for my BFP, and partly because I have health issues.

I don't think it's about wishing IF on ourselves, it's about wanting to at least have a reason for why it's harder for us to concieve than our BFF who got pregnant 'on accident the first month she stopped taking BCP'.

At least, that's what it is for me

Yes, I understand all of it. But saying it is "harder for you" to conceive when you have been trying for only 3 months (like a poster the other day) or even 6 is ridiculous, there is no way around it.

I'll definitely concede that it's probably not LOGICAL by any means. It's harder to accept that it isn't going to happen right away, and for some it would be easier if there was a defined REASON, or a medicine that could be taken, or a different position they could try Stick out tongue .

I always think of the 'definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results'. Sometimes that's what TTC feels like.

salt78 · March 2011

lilpumpkin0729:
I hate the fact that my arch-enemy (BIL's wife) has all of a sudden decided that she wants to TTC #2 next month. We were pregnant with #1 at the same time ( 2 weeks apart) and she said some pretty nasty things..i.e. "I guess we have to share everything" , "I hope your baby has Autism."

So the fact that we may be pregnant again at the same time just gets under my skin. It is like she always has to be in competition with us. She even got upset that my DS was rolling over before her DD. Seriously!!

You are a bigger person than me, because I would have punched her in the face.

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