Are you going to introduce the pacifier?

Dexter2011 · March 2011

When I had DS the lactation consultant suggested not to give him the pacifier.

With that said, are any of you going to introduce the pacifier?

NJMom050911 · March 2011

Yes but not sure at what point yet.

kerrbear72 · March 2011

Nope and people keep giving them to me.

So if you are, send me your address and I'll send you the 50 I have so far and I haven't even had my shower yet

Lisa Frank · March 2011

Oh heck yes. My DS wouldn't take one (I seriously have every brand at home in a Ziploc baggie) and he used me as his pacifier until he found his thumb at about 6 months. That was rough! Now that he is a thumb sucker, we're finding that a hard habit to break. I think I'll start with the paci in the hospital this time to see if she takes it. I will be ecstatic if she does!!

bride2be.austin · March 2011

yes! i have heard the opposite from my friends lactation consultant. she said it helps them jump start the suck mechanism.

but we will only be using it to "sooth" - not to go to sleep...to be relied on..etc.

mellydawn84 · March 2011

We've received a few from our showers so I'm not sure either. I've heard both sides of it, but I think I will put off for a little bit. I agree with PP that if we do use it, it will be to soothe and *hopefully* not be relied on.

pandi02a · March 2011

Yes, but not right away. It's easier to take a pacifier away, once they're older, than to take their thumb.

elisbu · March 2011

At the hosptial!

I love binky babies! Flame away!!

mzsparklepdx · March 2011

I'm sure we'll try it but not immediately. I've read you should wait a month until BF is firmly established.

kerrbear72 · March 2011

pandi02a:
Yes, but not right away. It's easier to take a pacifier away, once they're older, than to take their thumb.

But not all non-pacifier babies suck their thumbs.

I guess I just don't get the point of them. Is it basically just to keep them quiet since they supposedly are soothed by sucking random objects?

summerbride11 · March 2011

Yes, definitely. Babies go through an oral fixation stage. Sometimes, they are not hungry but just need to suck on something to sooth themselves.

Lisa Frank · March 2011

kerrbear72:
pandi02a:
Yes, but not right away. It's easier to take a pacifier away, once they're older, than to take their thumb.
But not all non-pacifier babies suck their thumbs.
I guess I just don't get the point of them. Is it basically just to keep them quiet since they supposedly are soothed by sucking random objects?

Babies have a NEED to suck. So it's either going to be you or the paci. I suggest the paci

ETA: I couldn't leave my house without my DS crying and freaking out. If he had taken a paci, I wouldn't have had that problem. I remember being in BRU, he was screaming, I had *just* fed him and he wasn't dirty/wet. I had to go into the bathroom just to let him suck for a few minutes and then he was totally fine. I so wished he would have taken the paci. Ugh.

kristennd · March 2011

Most of my books say that they can help prevent SIDS, so I don't have anything against them.

SC1977 · March 2011

I will once we have the latch situation figured out. I'm super paranoid of SIDS, so if pacifiers may help prevent it I'm all about them.

cjgiannotti · March 2011

Yes, but only after BFing has been established.

disneyfan0511 · March 2011

Yes, we'll be using one as long as we find one that works!

kerrbear72 · March 2011

Lisa Frank:
kerrbear72:
pandi02a:
Yes, but not right away. It's easier to take a pacifier away, once they're older, than to take their thumb.
But not all non-pacifier babies suck their thumbs.
I guess I just don't get the point of them. Is it basically just to keep them quiet since they supposedly are soothed by sucking random objects?
Babies have a NEED to suck. So it's either going to be you or the paci. I suggest the paci
ETA: I couldn't leave my house without my DS crying and freaking out. If he had taken a paci, I wouldn't have had that problem. I remember being in BRU, he was screaming, I had *just* fed him and he wasn't dirty/wet. I had to go into the bathroom just to let him suck for a few minutes and then he was totally fine. I so wished he would have taken the paci. Ugh.

Hm, interesting. Yep, I'm clueless. None of my family or friends have used them.

meghanchrisaz · March 2011

Yes, I will introduce a binkie. DD1 used one for way too long, but we finally were able to get her to stop. DD2 is a thumb sucker and I have no clue how we are going to put a stop to that.

michelerenee78 · March 2011

I plan to, but not sure when. I don't want LO to become dependent on it.

ToBeMrsC6907 · March 2011

We tried- but DS never took one.

The nurse in the hospital basically said unless they are a preemie, or have latch/feeding issues, you can use the pacifier and not have to worry about potential nipple confusion. It never posed a problem for us- DS was NEVER confused as to which was the real-deal, LOL. He never wanted that fake silicone replacement! I literally tried probably 5 or 6 different brands and shapes, and he would never take one. He was always a boob-man, same thing even with bottles- eventually if he was hungry enough, he'd take some (from anyone other than me) but he always preferred the breast.

ToBeMrsC6907 · March 2011

All that being said, yes we will definitely try/offer to this LO so long as there are no issues with BFing.

DonnaMartinGraduates · March 2011

Yep, if he wants it he can have it. DS preferred the Soothie he got at the hospital but once we lost that one (actually I think the dog chewed it up) we had to keep getting the Soothie type binkies. He didn't use it much past 6 months though...

rickandcaitlin · March 2011

No paci's here. Neither of my boys took one or ever sucked on anything. The hospital I has DS#2 at didnt even have them to offer parents. I dont get the point of them. I think a baby should be able to self sooth not have to constantly suck on something. But I am a CIO, non co-sleeping mom. Flame away!

kammmmay · March 2011

bride2be.austin:
yes! i have heard the opposite from my friends lactation consultant. she said it helps them jump start the suck mechanism.
but we will only be using it to "sooth" - not to go to sleep...to be relied on..etc.

This is what I've heard too. I've also read that it reduces the risk of SIDS, so I will definitely be using one if she will take it, but I don't want to become dependent on it.

MaybeBaby2 · March 2011

Definitely, but as needed. I don't have any hang ups about pacifiers as DD took hers with no problem and then when we got rid of it, it was over.

We'll see about the whole BF'ing and paci situation.

Lisa Frank · March 2011

rickandcaitlin:
No paci's here. Neither of my boys took one or ever sucked on anything. The hospital I has DS#2 at didnt even have them to offer parents. I dont get the point of them. I think a baby should be able to self sooth not have to constantly suck on something. But I am a CIO, non co-sleeping mom. Flame away!

Self soothing at 2 weeks old?? Yeah, right.

sparkymcgeee · March 2011

Yes. But if she doesn't want it then I'm not going to force it. I'm also not going to keep trying. I'm also not going to freak out if she doesn't have it with her at all times.

I wanted to flame a girl I saw on 0-3 because her post was "1 month and FINALLY taking a paci." I'm sorry but why force your child to become dependent on a pacifier? That doesn't make sense to me.

Lisa Frank · March 2011

meimsx:
Yes. But if she doesn't want it then I'm not going to force it. I'm also not going to keep trying. I'm also not going to freak out if she doesn't have it with her at all times.
I wanted to flame a girl I saw on 0-3 because her post was "1 month and FINALLY taking a paci." I'm sorry but why force your child to become dependent on a pacifier? That doesn't make sense to me.

You'll understand when you have a 1month old that needs to suck, but can't and freaks at every opportunity. Smile

Soontobemrspaulding · March 2011

if she will take it ABSOLUTELY! I see how helpful they can be with soothing and I really don't see why not. I have never seen an adult with a paci addiction so it's not like they will do it for life

pinkflipflops44 · March 2011

hellls yeah.

MaybeBaby2 · March 2011

Lisa Frank:
meimsx:
Yes. But if she doesn't want it then I'm not going to force it. I'm also not going to keep trying. I'm also not going to freak out if she doesn't have it with her at all times.
I wanted to flame a girl I saw on 0-3 because her post was "1 month and FINALLY taking a paci." I'm sorry but why force your child to become dependent on a pacifier? That doesn't make sense to me.
You'll understand when you have a 1month old that needs to suck, but can't and freaks at every opportunity.

So true.

croberts22 · March 2011

Probably about the same time we introduce bottles, about a month after birth. In the bfing class they recommending waiting about that long for bottles to avoid nipple confusion. I'd wait longer, but I want DH to get a chance to feed LO before he deploys.

iris427 · March 2011

Lisa Frank:
rickandcaitlin:
No paci's here. Neither of my boys took one or ever sucked on anything. The hospital I has DS#2 at didnt even have them to offer parents. I dont get the point of them. I think a baby should be able to self sooth not have to constantly suck on something. But I am a CIO, non co-sleeping mom. Flame away!
Self soothing at 2 weeks old?? Yeah, right.

Yeah, good luck with that.

sparkymcgeee · March 2011

MaybeBaby2:
Lisa Frank:
meimsx:
Yes. But if she doesn't want it then I'm not going to force it. I'm also not going to keep trying. I'm also not going to freak out if she doesn't have it with her at all times.
I wanted to flame a girl I saw on 0-3 because her post was "1 month and FINALLY taking a paci." I'm sorry but why force your child to become dependent on a pacifier? That doesn't make sense to me.
You'll understand when you have a 1month old that needs to suck, but can't and freaks at every opportunity.
So true.

I get that. I've been a nanny to newborns and it sucks when there is nothing you can do to stop the crying and it goes on for hours. I do get that. I just don't want to force my child to become dependent on a pacifier when she doesn't want it/ has no interest in it. Even when crying for hours. I think its more detrimental in the long run when trying to wean at 3 because they HAVE to have it.

But if she wants it then I have no problem letting her have it.

iris427 · March 2011

I'm kind of indifferent here. We introduced a paci to Iris in the hospital. It never interfered with her ability to breastfeed. But she just didn't like it. She wanted to suck on me. So I let her and it was a rough first couple months. There were definitely times when I wished she would take a paci and there have been times when I'm glad she didn't learn to depend on them. So I guess I'm just going to play it by ear this time around.

iris427 · March 2011

meimsx:
MaybeBaby2:
Lisa Frank:
meimsx:
Yes. But if she doesn't want it then I'm not going to force it. I'm also not going to keep trying. I'm also not going to freak out if she doesn't have it with her at all times.
I wanted to flame a girl I saw on 0-3 because her post was "1 month and FINALLY taking a paci." I'm sorry but why force your child to become dependent on a pacifier? That doesn't make sense to me.
You'll understand when you have a 1month old that needs to suck, but can't and freaks at every opportunity.
So true.
I get that. I've been a nanny to newborns and it sucks when there is nothing you can do to stop the crying and it goes on for hours. I do get that. I just don't want to force my child to become dependent on a pacifier when she doesn't want it/ has no interest in it. Even when crying for hours. I think its more detrimental in the long run when trying to wean at 3 because they HAVE to have it.
But if she wants it then I have no problem letting her have it.

It's different when you're the mother and you're the one taking care of them round the clock though. And when you have a baby who wants to spend literally hours sucking on your nipples day and night, it's rough.

sparkymcgeee · March 2011

iris427:
I'm kind of indifferent here. We introduced a paci to Iris in the hospital. It never interfered with her ability to breastfeed. But she just didn't like it. She wanted to suck on me. So I let her and it was a rough first couple months. There were definitely times when I wished she would take a paci and there have been times when I'm glad she didn't learn to depend on them. So I guess I'm just going to play it by ear this time around.

This is the scenario that I'm talking about. If my baby has no interest then I'm not going to force it. Will it be harder on me? Yes. Will it be easier on me when they are 2 or 3 years old and I would have to deal with weaning? Yes.

MissMommyMac · March 2011

No I am not planning on using a pacifier, and I didn't use one for DD either.

Lisa Frank · March 2011

meimsx:
iris427:
I'm kind of indifferent here. We introduced a paci to Iris in the hospital. It never interfered with her ability to breastfeed. But she just didn't like it. She wanted to suck on me. So I let her and it was a rough first couple months. There were definitely times when I wished she would take a paci and there have been times when I'm glad she didn't learn to depend on them. So I guess I'm just going to play it by ear this time around.

This is the scenario that I'm talking about. If my baby has no interest then I'm not going to force it. Will it be harder on me? Yes. Will it be easier on me when they are 2 or 3 years old and I would have to deal with weaning? Yes.

Or you wean them at 6 months to a year and don't struggle at all. I've had a few friends go that route and they had no issues at all getting their LO's to stop using it.

sparkymcgeee · March 2011

Lisa Frank:
meimsx:
iris427:
I'm kind of indifferent here. We introduced a paci to Iris in the hospital. It never interfered with her ability to breastfeed. But she just didn't like it. She wanted to suck on me. So I let her and it was a rough first couple months. There were definitely times when I wished she would take a paci and there have been times when I'm glad she didn't learn to depend on them. So I guess I'm just going to play it by ear this time around.

This is the scenario that I'm talking about. If my baby has no interest then I'm not going to force it. Will it be harder on me? Yes. Will it be easier on me when they are 2 or 3 years old and I would have to deal with weaning? Yes.
Or you wean them at 6 months to a year and don't struggle at all. I've had a few friends go that route and they had no issues at all getting their LO's to stop using it.

That would be fantastic but I feel the later you force it on them the harder that would be. I'm not a mom so you guys are probably right and I'm totally off. I just don't want to force the issue.

musicamh · March 2011

MaybeBaby2:
Lisa Frank:
meimsx:

Yes. But if she doesn't want it then I'm not going to force it. I'm also not going to keep trying. I'm also not going to freak out if she doesn't have it with her at all times.

I wanted to flame a girl I saw on 0-3 because her post was "1 month and FINALLY taking a paci." I'm sorry but why force your child to become dependent on a pacifier? That doesn't make sense to me.

You'll understand when you have a 1month old that needs to suck, but can't and freaks at every opportunity.

So true.

So. So. True.

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