Cart Before Horse (Delivery room ?)

mrsfowler1016 · March 2011

I was talking to my mom today about TTC and she stated she'd be devastated if she wasn't in the delivery room with me and DH. I haven't given this much thought because of the trouble we're having conceiving anyway. My MIL says the same thing and DH is a complete momma's boy. I was in the room with my sister when she delivered my niece and she expects to be granted the same favor.

So the question is....who will you have in YOUR delivery room with you? And are you having the same dilemma?

I'm thinking just DH and me. No need for added stress during this amazing time And no need for anyone other than him to see me screaming and sweating like a pig. Wink

CarolinaGirl82 · March 2011

Right now, I think I just want me and my husband. But I do reserve the right to change my mind down the road Maaaaaaybe my mom.

ETA: As for the dilemma portion, I do think my mom might be hurt if I don't want her there, but she respects me and my decisions. No way on God's green earth will my MIL or anyone else be in there!

Milliways · March 2011

We aren't going to tell anyone I have gone into labor until after I deliver.

Mrs.Slick · March 2011

I have a similar issue. I think I'm going to make an executive decision and have it only be dh.

KayteandRob · March 2011

after having WAY too many people in the delivery room when DD was born, we've decided it will just be us. and DD is obviously welcome to be there as well if she's comfortable. but everyone else can wait in the waiting room, tyvm Smile

Amomtomanyluvs · March 2011

This is how it went for my kids:

DD #1: my mom, my dad (yes my dad and I am glad he was there), my ex DH (obviously not my ex then).

DS#1: My mom, my good friend, my ex DH

DS#2: My mom, my other good friend was supposed to be but she left, my ex DH

This one will be my mother again (it has become a tradition lol) and my DH, and possibly a friend during just the labor...and then leave during delivery. Honestly I would not mind it just being my DH during delivery this time but it is my last child, so I could not do that to my mom.

BBB3002 · March 2011

With my first, it was just DH and I but I had some complications and the whole time I kept wishing my mom was in there, and they wouldnt let her in. So the second time I had her there and I also invited my MIL, but she thought she was catching a cold so she stayed in the waiting room. My second delivery was fine

mrshartfield · March 2011

Ummm prob my DH and my mom. My baby sister asked if she could be in there too & I guess that would be fine for as long as she can stand it-lol. But that's it- def not my MIL. We don't have that kind of relationship.

sarahmargaret8 · March 2011

My mom and dad have passed away so I am very close with my MIL. I deff want her in there with me and DH. I also thought I might have my mom's bff come in. She is a very close friend of mine and will be our future childrens "grandma" well step in grandma.

My SIL has said she would really like to be there but if she is I want her taking pictures (then I dont have to hire someone and have another body in the room lol)

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Megaloo05 · March 2011

DH & I have had this discussion. I want him, my mom, and if my sister wants. She allowed me in her delivery with her children and I have no problems with her being in there, but its her decision. I don't want my dad or DH dad in there and I really don't want my MIL in there either and DH said she probably wont want to be in there either.

greeneyed_bride · March 2011

DH will be delivering the baby (he's a doctor), so I'll need one friend there to hold my hand. My mom can be there if she wants to be. My MIL will not be there even if she offers us $1 million. Wink

Ladybug720 · March 2011

My H and my mom. Mom has witnessed all of my births

outrunthemoon · March 2011

My FI & my mother. I don't think I'd want anyone else. Maybe my dad...maybe.

siple1am · March 2011

My DH and my mom! Thats it, maybe my SIL, but shes awesome!

CarolinaGirl82 · March 2011

MrsMooney:
We have talked about this a lot an it's just going to be me and DH in the delivery room when I'm giving birth to my phantom baby. I think it is a really intimate moment that I want to share with him, and it will give us a little bit of time to bond as a new family before everyone else sees the new LO.

This very much sums up how I feel about just having DH in there. It's our moment and our creation (um, eventually) and I don't want an entourage in there for our first experience as a family.

cheese.fiend · March 2011

During labor, I'll want my DH, my mom, and my dad (we are very close)... I don't know if I'll want both my parents to stay for the actual delivery or just have DH... we'll see when the time comes! I DEFINITELY do not want my MIL anywhere near me during L/D... We don't have a bad relationship but she just drives me NUTS! Too much stress! I've told DH this and he understands, bless him!

JSRICH · March 2011

Obviously nothing is set in stone because there isn't even a baby yet but only DH and my mom. MIL has passed, and no sisters on either side.

KdgTeacher · March 2011

I'd like a doula and MH. Truth be told, I'd like to not even call anyone until after the baby is a few hours old.

mrsfowler1016 · March 2011

cheese.fiend:
During labor, I'd my DH, my mom, and my dad (we are very close)... I don't know if I'll want both my parents to stay for the actual delivery or just have DH... we'll see when the time comes! I DEFINITELY do not want my MIL anywhere near me during L/D... We don't have a bad relationship but she just drives me NUTS! Too much stress! I've told DH this and he understands, bless him!

My MIL is SO clingy! She calls us 4-5 times (A PIECE) daily. If he doesn't answer, she calls me. If I don't answer..then automatically we are dead somewhere in a ditch and she must post all over FB that prayers are needed. It's crazy. She means well though.

I love my daddy and wish so much he could be in there with me, however my mom and him are divorced and completely despise each other. He was in the room for my sister's 2 deliveries and my mom was extremely hurt by this. So I feel impelled to have her there. Who knows. My phantom delivery is already causing conflicts. haha!

meganruns · March 2011

I plan on only have MH in the delivery room. Nobody else needs to see me in that state! And for that matter, no video cameras either. Maybe after, but definitely not during labor.

AXO85 · March 2011

My SIL just had a baby boy and had my MIL, her mom, and 3 sisters in the room. My MIL is expecting to be in the room already! We arn't even pregnant!

I will probably just want DH. I just feel like that is a lot for every one to see. I think I would like to be the most comfortable.

mystery1137 · March 2011

My DH and my mom. The hospital I will deliver at has a 3 person limit, which is actually helpful. My sister had my dad in the room when she had her daughter, so I'm afraid he might be hurt if I don't ask him. DH doesn't do too well with 'gross' stuff, so I want my mom there in case he needs to step out or something. I'm not too worried about it now though...

SmittyPants · March 2011

My DH and the doctor. If my lady bits are going to look like the opening to the Lincoln Tunnel, my mother in law is welcome to sit in the waiting room far from photo snapping range thankyouverymuch.

rsrs807 · March 2011

Ideally just my H and me. But I think my mom and aunt will want to be there,but I dunno how I feel about that. I know H would say no to it haha. So I guess we will see.

laura_j · March 2011

Only the essentials. Myself, DH, Doctor and nurse. I am very modest and there is no way I'd want a whole audience. Also if we ask my mom, then you need to ask his mom. I am really close with my grandmother so she'd be offended if they got to come in and she didn't.

I have a gigantic fear of pooping mid push or something equally gross, so that my be part of the reason why I only want the bare minimum present during delivery.

politelypink · March 2011

It would just be DH and I. I'm rather private and wouldn't want anyone else to see that.

johnson617 · March 2011

Just me and DH..and of course the necessary doctors and nurses. I love my family but I really want this to be about DH and I!

elandric · March 2011

I love these.

We don't live close to those family members that would even be interested in coming to the hospital. As far as them traveling to be a part of it, it wouldn't even cross my parents mind AT ALL. I'm not sure what my in laws would do, but I would prefer to have just DH and I in the delivery room. I could completely change my mind when it comes time to make that decision.

picklesx · March 2011

I won't have anyone in there but DH. I don't really understand why people want the entire family there to watch a human being emerge from their vagina. No one in my family needs to see that, and I don't want anyone to see it. I don't even want DH to see it.

PrimReaper · March 2011

It was and always will be just DH and myself....and our Doula if we use one. There is no way I'm letting his mom or mine, or his sister or anyone else see me in all my grunting, sweating, writhing, swine-like glory. Labor is not pretty.

ghdst1 · March 2011

With LO I had my husband and his mother (my MIL) in the labor room while i was in labor but not during the birthing process. We discussed this beforehand and I told her I was not comfortable with her being there during the birth. She was fine with it. There are a lot of people in the room when you are giving birth and at the hospital I was at they only allowed 2 people of your choice while you were pushing. During the labor you were allowed 4 people at a time.

LME06 · March 2011

DH has told me numerous times that he wants only us 2 in the room. My mom isn't fond of this, and honestly, I think I'll probably want her in there. Furthermore, my in-laws would drive her up a wall in the waiting room, and I don't know if I can do that to her!

jbelle · March 2011

I have no children yet, but DH will be the only one with me (at the hospital at all; visits beginning after delivery, dependent on the time of day). We both agree on this, and fortunately, so does everyone in our families.

Honestly, a small part of me wants not even DH to not be there: I am not pleasant in pain! Being around strangers I'll never see again sounds ideal, LOL.

purplepolish · March 2011

Definitely only DH will be there.

tigerhearted · March 2011

Well I'd like to have my husband, my best friend, and my MIL. But my best friend is half a state away and works 60hr weeks. And since I do NOT want my mom in the room, well having MIL in there while not allowing my own mom in would pretty much destroy my mom.

So. It will probably just be me and the hubby. XD

VelvetElegance · March 2011

My plan so far is to have DH and my mom, but we'll see how everything goes. My mother and I tend to have an on again/off again relationship.

lynn0926 · March 2011

Just me & DH

foxxy1 · March 2011

At first I was going to have just my DH but I'm thinking it's going to be DH and my mom.

sekura · March 2011

tigerhearted:
Well I'd like to have my husband, my best friend, and my MIL. But my best friend is half a state away and works 60hr weeks. And since I do NOT want my mom in the room, well having MIL in there while not allowing my own mom in would pretty much destroy my mom.
So. It will probably just be me and the hubby. XD

I'm similar. I'd love to have DH and my MIL, who is a saint and one of my most favorite people in the world. But that would be a snub to my mom, and I really don't want her there--I've never felt like I've even known her. (And she raised me!) So it'll just be DH.

HazelBee22 · March 2011

I love reading about everyone's plans!

Ideally I would love for my mom to be there, but she needs to take care of my daddy so she wouldn't be able to make it. I would be open to having MIL there, but it's entirely up to her. We have a wonderful relationship, I can't wait to make her a grandma.

It will probably be just DH and I. That is just fine with me.

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