strange shower rsvp?

Aquabee21 · March 2011

my friend and MIL are hosting my shower but at our house b/c it's more convenient for guests than either of theirs. My MIL keeps freaking out a bit on the details and calling DH frequently to ask questions.

Latest ? from MIL- "can you get more chairs? b/c I don't think you'll have enough to fit everyone." DH- "how many people are expected to come?" MIL- "well, I don't know, it could be 30 or more. Only about 4 people said they couldn't make it"

So apparently my friend who made the invites put on them "RVSP if you can't come". Which means that there may be lots of people invited that don't plan on coming but have forgotten to rsvp about it- so we have to prepare for them to show up. It seems a little backwards to me. Feel bad for MIL who is buying all the food and may end up having lots of leftovers.

yzgal247 · March 2011

My sister always does her invites this way too. She says RSVP with regrets only or somehting like that. She has a lot of parties and never seems to have a problem with it.

augustjam16 · March 2011

I do this for pretty much any party we have. I would assume that anyone that didn't reply is coming. I find it easier than having every single person invited call and let you know if they're coming or not. And as an invited guest, I appreciate the decline only rsvp. Then I don't need to bother with a phone call. To me its not strange at all.

pam1005 · March 2011

yzgal247:
My sister always does her invites this way too. She says RSVP with regrets only or somehting like that. She has a lot of parties and never seems to have a problem with it.

This is what I do too. I find that my numbers are more accurate if I do it that way for some reason.

Aquabee21 · March 2011

I guess I've just never seen it done that way. And I can't imagine that many women are going to come, I would have guessed 20 tops. Will be totally blessed if they do, but didn't expect it at all. I guess we'll find out on Saturday though. Just wish it wasn't one more thing my MIL is going to freak out about though- she overthinks everything.

mcwhittaker · March 2011

I can't say i've ever gotten an invitation to anything that asked me to only RSVP if i'm not going.

It doesn't make any sense to me, but then again, I'm from a little older generation. Facebook event's don't count as party invitations either in my book.

lyndsaynicole · March 2011

"Regrets Only" is how my mom did my first baby shower invites. Her numbers were way more accurate for that shower than for the one my friends threw for me today. They had to contact people because no one was RSVPing.

aprilsarahjune · March 2011

I went to a bridal shower where the "regrets only" rsvp worked out terribly. The bride was a high school cheerleading coach and a lot of her invited guests were the high school girls. Those girls completely misunderstood and most did not come. It was set up in an intimate room at a restaurant with places for everyone, so it was obvious that many people did not come. I think adults -- especially your closest friends and family -- will understand it though. I hope it works out!

Mrs.Saxy · March 2011

lots of people down here (Louisiana) do RSVP regrets only and it works the best. If we do RSVP for everyone I rarely get phone calls and tons of people show up.

EJChapman123 · March 2011

That is "regrets only" RSVP and it isn't that terribly uncommon. I would say the standard RSVP is more common, but people should be able to handle it. My shower invites actually went out this way (but it is not until next Sunday, so I can't comment on accuracy)

pandi02a · March 2011

To me that is normal. I would say most invites I get are of the "Regrets Only" variety. I would be expecting all of the people you invited minus the ones who called and said they aren't coming.

Why would you invite more people than you want there? If I want 30 people I invite 30 people.

kacelle · March 2011

"Regrets only" is very common with shower invitations, at least in my area. On the few occasions that I've requested RSVPs either way, I never get calls from people planning to attend (but they all show up!).

MaybeBaby2 · March 2011

'Regrets only' is a very normal way to receive RSVPs. Nothing odd with that.

Aquabee21 · March 2011

pandi02a:
Why would you invite more people than you want there? If I want 30 people I invite 30 people.

It's not that I don't want the 30 people. I'm thrilled about it. But I honestly didn't expect to have that many people able to come, everyone's so busy and we live farther out. (I guess that's my lower self esteem talking too).

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