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Visitation woes

sapphire angelsapphire angel member
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I feel horrible sending LO with her dad. He only bothers to come once a month and every time she is getting to be less willing to go near him. This time she refused to come out from behind me so I had to carry her to the car with her refusing to even look in his direction or let him hold her hand. She started screaming as we approached his truck.  Before the hysterics didn't start until she was already in the car seat and realized I wasn't getting into the car.

Is there anything I can do to make this easier for LO? I obviously can't tell Ex to take a hike we don't need him around since he seems determined to play weekend daddy. He has come just short of outright saying his mother is making him come visit. In which case, if he does ever say that I plan on calling his mom to tell her she is welcome to visit without him. She is the only reason I think LO eventually calms down and it is usually her that brings LO back up to my apartment. It then takes almost 2 days before LO starts acting completely normal, as in she runs and hides when someone knocks on the door for about 2 days after every visit.

I will not let Ex have visitation in my apartment. I am not comfortable with that even if LO would be more friendly to his presence. Every where in town that would be appropriate for Ex to take LO, LO has been before with me several times before so the places are not unfamiliar to her (park, zoo, museums, the few restaurants that are cheap enough for his once a month visit, etc...). 

I know the day is very far away, but at what age does the court generally let LO decide whether or not she still sees her dad? Do they even allow LO to have a say eventually?

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  • Mrs.Keith2BMrs.Keith2B member
    A court won't let a child decide which parent they live with. Their input is taken into consideration, but all of the other factors have to coincide with what the child wants in order for it to be enfored. For example, if the child wants to live with their father, but the DB lives on a couch at his mom's house, it's highly unlikely the courts would grant that change in custody. Does that help?
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  • sapphire angelsapphire angel member

    imageMrs.Keith2B:
    For example, if the child wants to live with their father, but the DB lives on a couch at his mom's house, it's highly unlikely the courts would grant that change in custody. Does that help?
     

    Yes because he lives in an air mattress in the living room of his parents house.

    I'm also frustrated because this visit is the second time he has brought LO back with a fever over 102.0. He doesn't mention it at all nor does he give her tylenol which is right there in the diaper bag. I know he may not be the brightest star out there but seriously, she was burning hot to the touch and couldn't walk upright for more than 2 steps when she got home.

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