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May 2011 Moms
fancynewbeesly
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Overly protective DH?
fancynewbeesly
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Does anyone else have an overly protective DH? This is my first pregnancy and has been smooth sailing for the most part. I didn't have any problems conceiving--we were only trying for about 3 months or so. And I skipped all of the major pregnancy symptoms. So, in my mind there shouldn't be any reason why he is so overprotective. Now, that I started getting BH--not that frequently, but a few times during the day--every time I get one he is ready to call the doctor or rush me to L&D to get checked out.
Anyone else have overly protective spouses?
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Re: Overly protective DH?
Are you taking any prenatal classes? Some information might help him chill out.
My DH isn't overprotective, but he pretty much trusts me to know what's going on with this whole baby project.
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This. My DH will freak out until I explain to him why it's fine.
I haven't had any BH contractions or anything, but DH gets really overprotective about silly things. For instance, it was 71 degrees at the beach the other day with a nice light breeze (cold for us Florida residents) and he was upset that I was "cooking the baby". I told him I wasn't, but he googled it and of course, became convinced this was somehow the same thing as my body temperature rising (meanwhile our house thermo is set at 74 so whatev....)
Vent over...
Yes, mine is too. He actually takes notes at my ob appts! I try to bring stuff up at my appt that he is worried about so he can hear the doc saying it's ok. Next appt, I will be bringing up baths. He is terrified I am going to overheat baby but I can't bear thinking about a tub of water that is my body temp. I need a little heat to relax.
Other than that, I try to be patient. He is a cancer survivor so I try to be understanding when he freaks about microwaves, using the cell without the headset and plastic containers in my lunch. It is hard to argue with some of these freak outs when long term evidence isn't available yet. I don't mind using the oven to heat up leftovers. It just takes longer.
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DH has become Dr. Google, which has chilled him out a bit. He was much worse in the beginning.
He does get funny about weird things though. He yelled at me the other day for carrying grocery bags inside. "Why are you carrying the heavy bags?!!" Umm... I'm carrying like two super light bags, don't worry!
'Are you taking any prenatal classes? Some information might help him chill out.'
This. We took prenatal classes together and have both read a ton about pregnancy/childbirth. Sometimes I think he knows more than I do. He doesn't freak out over silly things at all. Maybe you should have him buy a book and educate himself a bit more.
This. The only thing he really nags me on is making sure I'm eating "real food" and not just cereal and desserts
My hubby is pretty understanding that I get what is going on with my own body and if there is a serious problem I'll let him know. My sister in law however told me yeaterday I wasn't allowed to sit on a bar stool because I might "fall off." lol.
This. If I'm not worried about something, DH isn't worried.
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BFP #3 10/6/12, EDD 6/16/12., Matilda born 6/17/13.
Yes, mine is completely paranoid. I'm glad he is super involved and all, but it got old really quick right after the BFP.
I've found that it's helped a lot to encourage him to read about pregnancy and also taking our childbirth and related classes. Also, if he expresses an adamant concern over something he will come along to a prenatal appointment and discuss it with my OB. That usually relaxes him a little.
Good luck!