Size issues - does this bother you?

Temp23782687501318 · March 2011

I see a lot of women that get so offended when people comment on how big they are. That never bothers me. I don't see it as an insult. They aren't saying I'm fat. They are saying that I'm big because I'm pregnant. I actually take a sense of pride when people comment about how big I'm getting. It feels like I'm doing something right. Is there anyone that feels like me on this?

kimbo1216 · March 2011

It depends on my mood and how they word it. If they say "You are big," then it's everything I can do to not be offended. If they say "Your belly is getting so big," then I'm not offended at all. I actually like it when people comment on my belly. I want it to be obvious that I'm pregnant and not just fat.

mrsbookworm · March 2011

I think it depends on who it's coming from, my mood, the circumstances, etc. Today a colleague/friend said, "You're big!" in front of another colleague/friend. I'm in a good mood today so it didn't bother me. Monday I probably would've gotten teary eyed and excused myself.

Telly21182 · March 2011

It all depends on how they say it. Normally people just say something like "oh look at that baby bump growing" and then I like it but when they say that I am getting big sometimes I get irritated

However, in December, before telling extended family and friends, my MIL kept insisting that I was showing "so much" and I wanted to strangle her because a.) I was down a size in jeans and b.) when someone is trying to hide their pregnancy for another two weeks they don't want to hear that they're showing and think that everyone already knows they're pregnant.

absoluteremix · March 2011

I agree with everyone else so far in that it depends on my mood that day and the circumstances. I had run into an old neighbor one day who hadn't seen me in a while (but knew I was pregnant) and he hugged me and said "Hey fatty!". Um, sorry but that is rude. I would probably let a really good friend call me "fatty" and not get too offended but this wasn't even really a friend...just an old neighbor that we got along with.

susieandmarty · March 2011

it depends on who says it and how - today someone told me (after I said it was a girl) well that explains why you are carrying everywhere. I think i am carrying low and in front only, so no - comments like this do not make me feel good. When people say - you are all belly - I feel like a million bucks!

prncsstp · March 2011

Well, here's a question for your question OP: How "big" were you prior to getting pregnant? I think that makes a difference in people's opinions on how to react when someone tells them that they are getting big...

I am 5'4 - at my best (in college), i was 130lbs... When I got pregnant I was 155 lbs... if it were up to me, I wouldnt have wanted to gain any more weight at all! I have issues with my weight - because I didnt really like the way i looked pre-pregnancy.

So I like when I can see, and people tell me that I am all belly. I dont like when people refer to pregnant women as "fat ladies" or anything like that.

However, I think if I was still 130lbs, I would be relishing/glowing in my pregnant belly!

cvl105 · March 2011

Nope, doesn't bother me either. And I get annoyed at all the posts complaining about it.

And in response to PPs post...I used to be a very thin girl. size 4/6 all my life, through college. I was a size 10/12 before getting pregnant....and I still don't care. I think it's more personality than it is your "starting size".

Temp23782687501318 · March 2011

prncsstp:

Well, here's a question for your question OP: How "big" were you prior to getting pregnant? I think that makes a difference in people's opinions on how to react when someone tells them that they are getting big...

I am 5'4 - at my best (in college), i was 130lbs... When I got pregnant I was 155 lbs... if it were up to me, I wouldnt have wanted to gain any more weight at all! I have issues with my weight - because I didnt really like the way i looked pre-pregnancy.

So I like when I can see, and people tell me that I am all belly. I dont like when people refer to pregnant women as "fat ladies" or anything like that.

However, I think if I was still 130lbs, I would be relishing/glowing in my pregnant belly!

I was carrying a little bit of weight, but I wasn't obese by any means. That really makes no difference to me. With my DS, I was thin before I was pregnant. I still didn't mind when I gained weight. It just doesn't bother me because I know it's for a greater purpose.

MommaA117 · March 2011

sorta. I know that I am NOT big though so maybe thats why? I always pictured myself being the basketball belly so when I hear other parts are filling up too it irritates me. lol

earl&pearl · March 2011

Eh, it depends on the day. But it annoys me more when women complain about when people tell them that they're small.

sillyhilly · March 2011

I don't mind the "you're getting big" when it's stating the obvious. But it sure as hell gets annoying when people INSIST that I'm WAY too big to not be due until June, that the doctor must have my dates wrong, that I must be hiding two in there etc. Or when other moms say "don't feel bad I gained 50lbs with mine" as though it's the same thing. Newsflash, I'm up 10lbs and still look this way- it's called 3 kids in 4 years.

RobinSparkles81 · March 2011

I don't mind when people say things like "look at your big beautiful belly"...but i dislike it when people say "I don't think I was that big when I was 9 months!"...not because I feel fat but because it makes me scared that by the time I am 9months I won't be able to walk!

terenner · March 2011

You know everyone feels differently about weight gain, so I don't think there is anything wrong with people getting sensitive about it some times. Some people have had a lot of weight struggles throughout their lives and even when you know you are doing it for the baby and everything it can be difficult to watch your body change. I haven't had a lot of weight struggles overall but coming right out of wedding mode when I was in really good shape, thin, working out all the time, feeling really great, the pounds have been a little hard to swallow. Especially when my Dr told me to slow down and be more careful when I thought I had been doing alright, exercising and eating well.

Turtle143 · March 2011

It bugs me when my family say it on purpose like to tease me or make me feel bad or something. It's silly I know because everyone else says I'm pretty small for how far along I am. It just irks me that people like my aunt or brother would go as far to annoy me as to tell me I might be having twins. I just have to keep reminding myself that they aren't used to seeing me this big.

kas80 · March 2011

I only get annoyed when people insist that the drs are wrong and there just HAVE to be two in there. Even more so, when they repeatedly say it. No, the drs are not wrong. We have done enough ultrasounds that I think we would be quite aware if there were two, nor am I really that large. Either people are trying to be cute and just come off as rude or they are just clueless and should just not comment.

Also, it annoys me that these comments mostly come from people I have worked with for over 5 years whom have never once before talked to me but now that I am pregnant they feel the need to say something every time they see me... and that's what they pick to say.

My friends and/or husband can comment on my being whale-like all they want to, it doesn't bother me at all because that's what is supposed to be happening. I think it's kind of like the same rule on touching the belly. The inner circle has a different set of rules then the community at large.

denall · March 2011

I wish people thought I was pregnant. Friends and family know, and see my nice round albeit not so big bump AS a baby bump. I went shopping at a store that I hadn't been since I found out I was pregnant with my mom, and the owner recognized us (it is a plus size clothing store). My mom who was so excited was like "Im going to be a grandmother!". The woman looked at me "Oh wow, really? How far along?" I told her I only had 3 months left (give or take) and she said "I would never have known you were pregnant actually." I guess to her I just looked like my usual fat self. When my stomach is quite obviously nice and round, not flabby like pre-pregnancy. So that bothered me more.

kate05 · March 2011

Like PPs I am fine with it most of the time except when people go on and on. I went to get the oil changed in my car and a random woman asked me when I was due. I told her June 1st and she said "No. You are too big for June. You will go in April.". I told her that I hoped not since that would mean my baby was very premature and she told me that the baby would not be premature since obviously my date was wrong. I got up and left before I said anything to her. That made me feel like a beluga whale.

MrsJuicy2B · March 2011

I think it depends on the tone and intent of the person making the comment. I've gotten some comments from people (older female coworkers) who genuinely want me to get fat. It's not about the baby to them, but about me no longer being attractive. Fortunately, I keep those encounters to a minimum and choose to be around people who are more supportive. For the most part, I love my new body and as long as my husband still thinks I'm cute, I don't really care what others think.

Birdies08 · March 2011

earl&pearl:
Eh, it depends on the day. But it annoys me more when women complain about when people tell them that they're small.

I have to admit that it bothers me when people tell me I don't look pregnant, which I guess is not the same thing as saying I look small. I take it to mean that I just look like I've put on 20 pounds for fun instead of for growing a baby.

Plus, some people seem put off by it. I had a relative say, "Oh, you're pregnant? You sure are hiding it well," while making a sour face. She later went on to comment about how was anybody supposed to know, etc.I had other family members tell me to stick my stomach out in pictures so you can see it better. It makes me wish I had a cute basketball belly like so many ladies on here.

I just don't think people need to comment on a pregnant woman's size either way.

JuneBugsMommy · March 2011

I agree with you! I've been skinny my whole life so when people say I'm getting big I know they don't mean I'm getting fat! I also have only gained belly so I guess since I don't 'feel' fat I don't take offense to the comments. I love my baby bump!

march2008 · March 2011

To me, the attention makes me uncomfortable and I feel awkward when someone comments on my body, whether pregnant or not.

Turtle143 · March 2011

kas80:
I only get annoyed when people insist that the drs are wrong and there just HAVE to be two in there. Even more so, when they repeatedly say it. No, the drs are not wrong. We have done enough ultrasounds that I think we would be quite aware if there were two, nor am I really that large. Either people are trying to be cute and just come off as rude or they are just clueless and should just not comment.
Also, it annoys me that these comments mostly come from people I have worked with for over 5 years whom have never once before talked to me but now that I am pregnant they feel the need to say something every time they see me... and that's what they pick to say.
My friends and/or husband can comment on my being whale-like all they want to, it doesn't bother me at all because that's what is supposed to be happening. I think it's kind of like the same rule on touching the belly. The inner circle has a different set of rules then the community at large.

LOL sounds like my brother!! I hate it when he says that. But I know he's just trying to give me a hard time, just like when we were growing up! I'm a real tiny person so I just have to tell myself that he can't be serious!

gymnst1013 · March 2011

It doesn't bother me in the slightest. We are PREGNANT! Of course we are big! That's what happens when you grow a human being.

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