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February 2011 Moms
TiffanyTheMom
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NBR: If you could change one thing about your wedding day...
TiffanyTheMom
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What would it be?
For me, it'd have to be my mom. (Which covers my 2 issues, lol!) First, since I was living in Japan, I couldn't call and invite people with the time difference, so I gave her a list of numbers to call, the address of the church and reception site, and she said she would make sure they all got called. She didn't call anyone. I had no idea until I walked into the church to come down the aisle and saw my side of the church absolutely bare, expect for my parents and 4 friends. When I asked her later where everyone was, she told me I NEVER gave her contacts! I was fuming.
Also, she made my veil. She asked to do it, so I let her. It looked awful. She just took a piece of the material, cut it all funky (it wasn't even straight) and hot glued it onto a comb. I was really upset because it wasn't just awful- it looked NOTHING like the picture she'd sent me in an email claiming that's what it would looked like. (She was 'going to' put on little crystals to make it sparkle, and it was supposed to be long, like to my knees... yeah, it hit my shoulders.) It didn't even stay in my hair. Which, by the way, was awful too. I wanted a cute high chignon, but MIL payed some country bumpkin hair dresser to do my hair, and all she 'knew how to do' was curls piled on top of my head in a rat's nest. It fell out right as we entered the reception site, and I had to take my older sister in the bathroom to try to fix it. It completely fell out, and she just put my hair in braids. Hot, right?
Anyway... I'm just curious if anyone else's big day could have done with a few changes as well if you had a chance to change it?
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Re: NBR: If you could change one thing about your wedding day...
I'd have a different photographer... ours wasn't nearly as artistic about everything as I would have liked and didn't attempt anything really fun with the pictures. The woman who is doing Sofia's photos, if I would have known her at the time, would have done my wedding instead of the man who did. She was much cheaper too.
I also would have let my uncle cater like he had wanted to. My parents bailed on paying the caterer and we had to use most of our wedding money to pay them off before they sent me to collections. My uncle would have done it for much less and we would have had the money to fence our yard like we had planned.
Otherwise my wedding day was amazing.
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honestly?
I think I would cut corners in other places. I wish we would have spent more on our photographer. I only spent like 1K on her and she wasn't the best.
Also I wish we would have video taped the speeches. Those were great.
I only had 2 ushers and I would have liked to have more but I didn't want my BIL's to have to "work" at our wedding.
The musician at the church wanted to charge us $250.00 to play the organ but we had a pianist and singer instead...I with I would have had her play the organ when we cam down the aisle.
I think that's it.
Ps-Loved my dress....
speaking of that, off to write a new post!
Different photographer (he was a friend though).
DH and I were suppose to have people following us around while we got ready. DH had his guy....and my girl never took a single picture while I was getting my hair done. She just sat there and then she was suppose to follow me back to my house and the church buuuut she never showed up. DH got some great getting ready shots and I never had any, irritated me.
I look back and I should have said something but I didn't want to get upset over it since it was my wedding day.
The photographer also never got pictures of my dress and it had intricate detail so a picture of me in it doesn't do it justice. He also took pictures of DH and me separately before we were married so I didn't have my rings on. Yeah, didn't realize that at first...kind of looks funny with a woman dressed in bridal gear without a ring on, IMO.
I loved our wedding, it turned out pretty much exactly how I wanted. However, my weding pictures were a different story. I knew BILs were a pain, but I thought they might have a little respect for our day. One BIL decided it would be funny to have his white shirt sticking out of his pants zipper in half of the photos (until the photographer noticed it) and they other BIL decided to cross his eyes in the pictures. I just wish I would have known they were going to be so rude because I would have saved all the time we spent on those pictures for more pictures of just DH and I.
I would have not done so much myself. Granted we saved at least $10,000 it was super stressful the few days before the wedding so much so that I couldnt even enjoy my rehearsal dinner because I just wanted to get home and finish the table numbers, etc. I did the flowers, made the table runners, made all the name cards, table numbers, we did the alcohol and drinks ourselves, all the lighting set up and my mom made the cake. We also set up everything ourselves including the dance floor with some of our friends which were awesome and so helpful but I would have rather spent the few hours before my ceremony relaxing instead of sweating running around all crazy and then having to get my hair re-done (it was humid and like 110 degrees).Also I would have not had my mother make our cake. She used to be a cake decorator when I was younger so I didn't think it would be an issue but she really had no clue how to do what we had wanted, which was a modern cake with fondant and damask stenciled details. She was so upset she couldn't get it right that she was stressing me out and i ended up finishing the cake myself. It ended up fine in the end but I would have rather not been worried about it at all.
But in the end it showed us who our true friends were, and we were so grateful for everything they did to help us set up and break down everything. Also I love that our friends did our pictures and one of our best friends married us.
I would have paid for the reception to be longer. We got married on a boat, and then cruised around the river for the reception. By the time the ceremony was finished, first dance, champagne toast, and everyone ate, we literally had an hour of just reception before the boat pulled back into port. It was $600 an hour to rent the boat so I thought it would be worth it to cut costs there, but instead I just felt like all of the other money we spent was kind of wasted since it was all over so quickly.
Oh, I also would have a different officiant. The guy we had came highly recommended by the cruise company, but he was kind of terrible. He insisted I write him a check for his fee right before I walked down the aisle, he ad-libbed a whole bunch of advertising about how great the town was and how people should stay in town and hang out after the cruise (while DH and I were standing there, waiting for him to start our vows), and he totally messed up our recessional by interrupting and insisting we pose for pics before walking down the aisle. LOL
We didn't have a real reception. We went back to my parents with about 30 of our family and friends for cake and coffee. We didn't have a first dance or anything. Our friends did their speeches and stuff but it really sucked.
We put the wedding together ourselves at age 18 and paid for it ourselves. Now that I look back on it, I would still marry dh but I would have waited about a year to save up more money for it. I wasn't pregnant or anything (although we did get pregnant on our honeymoon) but I didn't want to move in with him without being married because my dad would have been super disappointed. Infact, I packed some of my clothes to take to the hotel while still wearing my wedding dress... it was really weird not to stay at my parents house. We stayed with his parents for a couple weeks while we did some repairs on our house.