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WWYD? - Being gone semi-overnight question
In a couple weeks, I am scheduled for surgery. It will most likely be outpatient and I will most likely be gone no more than 10 to 12 hours.
The problem is the time. We will have to leave around 4:15am to get to the hospital by scheduled time. My Mom was planning on coming to spend the night to help with our girls.
My biggest obstacle is the fact that Iris has a hard time taking a bottle from anyone but DH (we keep trying though!) plus she still nurses off and on through the night and even a bottle from DH wouldn't substitute for that. So I anticipate a really rough time for my Mom in those early morning hours and I feel guilty about that.
I'm debating what to do. I really don't want to take Iris with us but I'm wondering if that would be the best decision. Is that a stupid idea?
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Re: WWYD? - Being gone semi-overnight question
Have you spoken with the hospital? Do they have a policy regarding the age of overnight "guests" staying with the patient?
I completely understand your guilt over the night time wakings. I am leaving for 5 days and Sam is still waking 2 to 4 times a night. I feel a lot of guilt that my IL's are going to have to get up and prepare a bottle that often so I completely understand your feelings there. But I would imagine your mom is prepared to get up since she knows she is going to be taking care of an infant. Night wakings sort of come with the territory, kwim?
From what I understand, I'll have a room but will not be an overnight patient unless there are complications.
Yeah, I understand that it comes with the territory. I just don't want to scare off my favorite babysitter!
The act Iris puts on while fighting off the bottle is something else.
I know it will be okay but it helped to type out. Even if she goes a whole day without milk, it will be okay just not ideal since I won't be able to nurse for 24 hours after surgery and she'll be looking for comfort when I come home. I am dreading this far more than the surgery itself.
From what I understand, I'll have a room but will not be an overnight patient unless there are complications.
Yeah, I understand that it comes with the territory. I just don't want to scare off my favorite babysitter!
The act Iris puts on while fighting off the bottle is something else.
I know it will be okay but it helped to type out. Even if she goes a whole day without milk, it will be okay just not ideal since I won't be able to nurse for 24 hours after surgery and she'll be looking for comfort when I come home. I am dreading this far more than the surgery itself.
I know you probably want your DH with you at the hospital during your surgery, but is it possible for him to stay home with the kids (and feed Iris) and your mom to take you for your surgery and bring you home?
In my opinion, I think it would be very uncomfortable for your DH to have an infant with him at the hospital while you are having surgery...I am also wary of taking kids to the hospital if they don't NEED to be there, kwim? I would get irritated whenever my SIL would drag my nieces and nephew to the hospital to visit someone and they almost always ended up sick a week or so later. But, again, that's just my opinion.
Good luck with your decision and hope you have a speedy recovery!
Yeah, it wouldn't be ideal for many reasons to take her. I wouldn't want to risk her picking something up there. I thought about asking my Mom to take me instead of DH but she doesn't like driving on the highway and the hospital is about 30 miles (mostly highway) from our house.
Got it! Sorry, I got confused on the timing there. So you'll be gone roughly 12 hours and then won't be able to nurse for another 24 hours after that, right? So a total of about 36 hours? How many times doe Iris nurse a day? She is home with DH during the day, right?
That's tough when they don't want to take a bottle. As long as the adults are armed with knowledge, patience, and a sense of humor they'll get through it. Hopefully your recovery won't get sidetracked because you are worried and anxious about her. Good luck!