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One baby BFs and the other does not--advice needed

sail123sail123 member
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My boys were in the NICU for 2 weeks and have been getting pumped breastmilk for over 6 weeks. One of my boys has figured out how to BF but my other little guy is having trouble. I've worked with a LC, who says it is because he is tongue tied. 

Aside from the logistical issues with this (i.e. I still have to pump), I'm worried that it is "unfair" that I BF one baby and get that bonding experience with him.

Has anyone else been in this position? Should I just abandon BFing all together and pump for both? 

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Re: One baby BFs and the other does not--advice needed

  • babydontforgetbabydontforget
    One of my boys was tongue tied and our pediatrician clipped his frenulum. Has your LC mentioned that possibility, and are you open to it?
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  • MADforever2009MADforever2009 member

    i knew i would be facing this because cleft lip kids cant breast feed effectively.  i was wanting to still BF the other but the work behind it all was insane. Yeah you could try to pump one boob while baby is one the other but its stressful.  i did abandon BF and EP for 2.5 months and then quit that too cause the boys were eating every two hours therefore i was pumping every 2-3 hours and i was at home by myself.  I felt guilty at first and still sometimes think i could have done it (my supply was good) but im SOOOO much happier now, i feel like i get to 'hang' with the boys instead of worrying about getting them down to nap so i can pump for the next feeding.

    Many women on here EP and it is very possible and I'm sure you could figure out how to make BF work its just work but it can be done.

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  • sail123sail123 member
    Thanks ladies. My pediatrician wants to see if the tie will snap on its own but now that this is impeding BFing I'm going to talk to him about it again. 
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  • Soon2bMrs.NeilDSoon2bMrs.NeilD
    I have a friend who did this very thing with her twins. The little girl wouldn't latch on so she pumped for her and BF the little boy. The twins are now 18 momths old and she's just now starting to ween them. Good luck to you!
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