Appropriate Wording - No Baby Clothes

kellydw · March 2011

Hey Ladies, I am wondering if there is any appropriate wording to ask people not to purchase baby clothes. This is the first grandchild/niece for my family and my mom and 3 sisters are going crazy shopping. We need no baby clothes. Is there any appropiate way to ask people not to buy clothes to include on the BRUS registry? I was thinking along the lines, "Thanks to Baby X's shopaholic aunts, she has an extensive wardrobe and does not need any clothes. Is that rude? I am not trying to be ungrateful but she will never be able to wear all of these clothes.

AnneShirleyBlythe · March 2011

There is no polite way to request/decline certain gifts in an invitation.

alm0309 · March 2011

That is rude. You should just return any clothes that you get and do not need.

Kdonn15 · March 2011

Yes, it would be rude. People will want to buy you what they want not what you dictate. In my experience when people find out the gender of their LO their baby showers are usually centered around clothing for that child because that is what most consider "fun items" to buy.

Your best bet is to let it go and hope gift receipts are included so you can return items.

Ceridwen21 · March 2011

Yep, it's rude to mention it in the invitations. I would, however, drop a hint to the host about your preference so that if anyone asks her, she can pass along the message that you are registered and already have plenty of clothes. I know that as a guest, I wouldn't buy clothes in this case.

KERJF · March 2011

I am with everyone else.

I have had a few people ask me what we "really need" (I just tell them anyone on our registry is great - otherwise it wouldnt be there, lol) - and if we didnt want/need clothing I would probably mention it there.

BLM10 · March 2011

There is no appropriate wording for this. Tell anyone who asks what you need that anything on the registry is great, and return any clothes that you get if you can't use them.

bulldog_mama · March 2011

Are they buying only newborn or 0-3 months? How about having your hostess casually spread the word about bigger sized clothing like 6-9 months, or 12-24 months? Or when people ask what you need you tell them "We are registered at BRU and are pretty set for clothing for the first 6 months" or something worded maybe a little better but along those lines Smile

That way at least your not dicating what people buy you, but hopefully they get the hint that you could use larger sized clothing.

Temp38995750004016 · March 2011

There's really no way to say it without seeming rude. If it makes you feel any better, at my first shower we only got one outfit (Janie & jack) plus another tshirt and a sleep sack that were given with other items from our registry. All the other gifts were from our registry.

kellydw · March 2011

That's what I thought, plus I think everyone that will be invited knows or will know that my sisters are going crazy shopping. I plan on not putting it on the registry that it is a girl and registering for gender neutral items. Hopefully, that will confuse people if it really is a girl.

jiffy-pop · March 2011

I would just spread it by word of mouth that you don't need clothes. Not on the invite.

pammeelala · March 2011

You can also include that info on the registry itself. Many places, even BRU, have little areas where you can specifically leave info for your friends and family. That way you can share the info without putting it on the invitations because the registry is where it's expected to share what you do or do not wwant

jenkanne · March 2011

If you are concerned about what people will purchase, get a registry and ask the inviters to share where you are registerd with the invitees.

stephanie_shoe · March 2011

feffy11:
If you keep it gender neutral, I'm sure you won't get as many clothes.

Don't count on that! We're not finding out the sex of the baby so most people bought us one girl outfit, and one boy outfit! We also received very FEW gift receipts, The ones that provided a gift receipt are for the items we're actually keeping! It will be interesting to see how the returning goes...

New_MrsP · March 2011

stephanie_shoe:
feffy11:
If you keep it gender neutral, I'm sure you won't get as many clothes.

Don't count on that! We're not finding out the sex of the baby so most people bought us one girl outfit, and one boy outfit! We also received very FEW gift receipts, The ones that provided a gift receipt are for the items we're actually keeping! It will be interesting to see how the returning goes...

Yours is a case where I think re-gifting the opposite sex clothes would be okay.

SandK042 · March 2011

stephanie_shoe:

Don't count on that! We're not finding out the sex of the baby so most people bought us one girl outfit, and one boy outfit! We also received very FEW gift receipts, The ones that provided a gift receipt are for the items we're actually keeping! It will be interesting to see how the returning goes...

Unfortunately, I'm starting to see this already. A big factor in deciding to go Team Green was to control my mom and my sister's shopping. SO didn't work, they're just buying boy AND girl clothes.

But at least they know they're responsible for returning the "wrong" ones. Why would you give someone outfits clearly intended for a specific gender, and not provide a gift receipt? Good luck to you!!

cesehorn · March 2011

I think the only "appropriate" way to get around this would be to have something like a "pampers" party. Or include like a "bring your favorite baby toy for the new mom" type of thing.

AllyInMaine · March 2011

I think it can be seen as rude... but you might be able to find a cute poem that says "We have all of the clothes we need..." or something similar. I'm having a shower for #2 (a girl) and my BFF is hosting and wanted to use a poem that said "We have almost everything we need... Big Brother likes to share," or something similar so people remember that we don't need a swing, carseat, etc.

Expecting Great Things · March 2011

It's better to return things to the store than to tell people what they should or shouldn't buy. Sorry!

laurenmayala · March 2011

What a waste! It makes no sense to buy an item that will surely not be used.

Temp38995750004016 · March 2011

Out of 30 guests, I got one outfit, one tshirt and one sleep sack. The rest were all registry gifts (I had registered for the sleep sack).

daynablevins · June 2011

I was also looking for a cute poem to include on my registry stating that we didn't need clothes....I def. do not think that it is rude it is simply telling your guests that you already have a closet full...which my baby does and im not due till november. I have started passing it around to family and close friends that i really do not need clothing and posted pics on my facebook of her very full closet!!!! Hopefully they will get the hint that this is our first baby and there are many things that are actually important other than clothes!!! I am very grateful for all the gifts of clothing we have recieved so far....but at the same time there are so many other things that we are going to need!!!

rothcomilitaryclothing · July 2011

kids will so cute and lovely in military accessories and clothing

iluvmylab · July 2011

Yes it's rude. Don't tell people what they can and cannot buy. A registry is one thing, but people will get you what the want and you should accept it graciously- it's called a "gift" for that reason. If you don't use the clothes, try to return them, donate them, or take them to a consignment shop so others can get some use out of them.

willows mama · July 2011

rothcomilitaryclothing:

kids will so cute and lovely in military accessories and clothing

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