How many children do you and DH want??

nanmyers09 · March 2011

i would really like 2, DH said he would like more - but i've always had this "middle child syndrome" thought with a third child so thought if we have a third, i'd have fourth but who knows - plus when i was 6 and went to Disney World i had to ride the rides my by myself - so if the family is an even number - no issue there Big Smile

DH would like the second child fairly close to the first - he and his brother were 16 months apart...

JenniferAnnes · March 2011

We have talked about 3...but we'd both be okay with only having 2. We'll see!

Codi-Bailey · March 2011

We both want three. We'd go for four if it seems right. When I was having bad m/s, I kept telling him this is the only one, so we shall see!

chrissy&j · March 2011

When we were first married we thought 3 or 4, but since trying for the last 2 1/2 years and having some trouble, we're happy with just 1 or 2, or frankly, whatever we are blessed enough to have! Good luck!

julygal · March 2011

We are done after 3. My sister who is the middle child keeps telling me that I can't do that to DS and I have to have a 4th, but my response to her is then I have 2 middle children and double the middle child syndrome. I want a bigger family but I also know I am reaching my limit.

nanmyers09 · March 2011

yeah a big part of me is like "lets see how this ONE goes before thinking of more"

MsCrispy · March 2011

We both want 2. This is my first. So unless we have twins next time around, then 2 will be it.

PurplePanda83 · March 2011

chrissy&j:
When we were first married we thought 3 or 4, but since trying for the last 2 1/2 years and having some trouble, we're happy with just 1 or 2, or frankly, whatever we are blessed enough to have! Good luck!

This. I really hope we can have more than one (I was an only child, so I always wanted at least 2 kids) but right now I'm just thrilled we're finally having one!

chw57 · March 2011

If we stay here (where cost of living is insane) we'll probably only be able to afford 2. Ideally, though, we want 4

amandaloren · March 2011

We were thinking 2 or 3...As of right now I don't want more then 3 though.

TheFannins729 · March 2011

this is it for us. dh is getting snipped early next year.

BlondeBride123 · March 2011

I was blessed with 2 stepsons (10 & 12 yrs) when I married DH and they live with us. We knew we wanted at least one together. This will probably be it for us. I don't think we will actively try for another one, but if we are blessed with another, then so be it!

macdidlyicious · March 2011

none.

just kidding! probably 2.

Amanda&EricB · March 2011

For as long as I can remember, I've wanted a large family. Six or more kids. But now I think I'll be happy with 2. Actually I'll be fine with one but I know I always loved having my brother to play with and stuff so I think we'll go for 2.

browneyes_24b · March 2011

Realistically: 2. That's the number DH and I have talked about since day one. Sometimes we contemplate more than two, but not realistically.

Especially since I have been considerably more sick this time. If it's true that you only get more and more sick with each pregnancy then, no thank you. I will be happy to be done with morning sickness for good!

Ali22 · March 2011

Probably 2. I use to think 3 but it has been so hard staying pregnant (3 m/c's), I am not sure I can mentally handle trying for a 3rd.

Geekchick921 · March 2011

We have always talked about 4. After this baby, I am closing up shop for awhile. I want to avoid being pregnant for most of medical school. The earliest I would want to have another baby would be 4th year (which is a joke, schedule-wise), but maybe not until my first year or two of residency. They are reducing the work-hour limits substantially this year so by the time I'm a resident it won't be as bad as it has been in the past. 2 kids in my 20s. 2 in my 30s. I want to be done having kids before I'm 35, and I'm 26 now.

sassy1 · March 2011

We're hoping for 2.

melissajoy1985 · March 2011

My husband was pretty set on 2 at the beginning and I was at 4... after being so tired, emotional, and sick he said are you sure you want to do this 4 times lol... I told him that he should hope for twins a couple of times lol.... now that I am starting to feel better I am back on my 4 track but I'm thinking we'll probably stop at 3.... I plan on being an at home mom after the second one so we'll see how everything works out!

ejs04414 · March 2011

We've talked about 3 or 4. I think it depends what genders we have! LOL! Although I had pretty bad MS at the beginning and I can't imagine going through that 4 times. UGH Ick!

TinaL99 · March 2011

We're done after this one. I'm having my tubes tied during my repeat c/s. We've always wanted 2 kids. They will be 17 1/2 months apart. We're happy with the spacing and being done with diapers, sleepless nights, etc. sooner than later.

KimberlyBunk · March 2011

We have always talked about 3 or 4, but also have plans to adopt one someday. If we adopt it won't be an infant that is high in demand but an older child or one with disabilities. I can't decide if we want 3 pregnancies (unless twins suprise us) or 3 kids by the time we are done. We are kind of going with the flow for now I suppose.

I asked DH after we found out I was pregnant how far apart he wanted our kids to be and he said to maybe start trying when this one is 6 months...how about NO! Props to people who have kids close together, but I don't know how you do it! I am struggling with first trimester grossness and can't imagine having to take care of an infant..or a toddler for that matter, so maybe this will be it!

amandabt · March 2011

We're going to start with one and see how it goes, but ideally, we would like 2 or 3. If we don't have a boy the first 2 times around, I have a feeling DH will want to go for a third. We shall see.

nanmyers09 · March 2011

macdidlyicious:
none.

just kidding! probably 2.

haha - the bottom of my screen stopped at your saying none...i was like 'WWWHAAAAAA" i think y'all went past your wishes...heehee

nanmyers09 · March 2011

Geekchick921:
We have always talked about 4. After this baby, I am closing up shop for awhile. I want to avoid being pregnant for most of medical school. The earliest I would want to have another baby would be 4th year (which is a joke, schedule-wise), but maybe not until my first year or two of residency. They are reducing the work-hour limits substantially this year so by the time I'm a resident it won't be as bad as it has been in the past. 2 kids in my 20s. 2 in my 30s. I want to be done having kids before I'm 35, and I'm 26 now.

sounds like you got a plan!!!

nanmyers09 · March 2011

KimberlyBunk:
We have always talked about 3 or 4, but also have plans to adopt one someday. If we adopt it won't be an infant that is high in demand but an older child or one with disabilities. I can't decide if we want 3 pregnancies (unless twins suprise us) or 3 kids by the time we are done. We are kind of going with the flow for now I suppose.
I asked DH after we found out I was pregnant how far apart he wanted our kids to be and he said to maybe start trying when this one is 6 months...how about NO! Props to people who have kids close together, but I don't know how you do it! I am struggling with first trimester grossness and can't imagine having to take care of an infant..or a toddler for that matter, so maybe this will be it!

granted i don't know if its because this is my first child but i was extremely blessed with no m/s and only like 2 days without energy...but from reading posts about how sick some of y'all are i CANNOT imagine taking care of an infant AND going through all the sickness...changing poopy diapers - i'd be throwing up on my child! i've heard the second child brings more sickness so i'm thinking my time might come with the second!

nanmyers09 · March 2011

MrsMichelleB:
Obviously at least 3. We are open to 4 because I make a strong case to him about someone going on amusement rides by themselves. Pairs are generally better.

it was sad - i hated it, always wound up bringing a friend on vacations later in my childhood

Geekchick921 · March 2011

nanmyers09:

Geekchick921:
We have always talked about 4. After this baby, I am closing up shop for awhile. I want to avoid being pregnant for most of medical school. The earliest I would want to have another baby would be 4th year (which is a joke, schedule-wise), but maybe not until my first year or two of residency. They are reducing the work-hour limits substantially this year so by the time I'm a resident it won't be as bad as it has been in the past. 2 kids in my 20s. 2 in my 30s. I want to be done having kids before I'm 35, and I'm 26 now.

sounds like you got a plan!!!

LOL, yeah. We'll see how it all works out. This baby is already a little stinker. Took several months more to conceive him/her than we anticipated. I was hoping to give birth before school started, not 2 months into it.

spower5 · March 2011

We want 1. I never thought about the amusement park rides. we'll have to allow our little DS or DD to bring a friend!

NicDes · March 2011

We had always said two. That is until my youngest DS was 4 months old and I knew I wasn't done. It took a long time for DH to be comfortable with having a 3rd so we are done after this one.

dianamcu · March 2011

2

No middle child for me! I am one...argh. I definitely wouldn't have 4.

laurasuzanne2006 · March 2011

At least 2. Maybe 3, i would be open to 4. Not sure if DH would be though..lol. We are young enough where we still have plenty of time to decide.

elynds · March 2011

3. I grew up in a family with 3 kids and always loved it (FWIW, so did my 2 younger brothers - no middle child syndrome). When we went to amusement parks one of us always rode with one of our parents and the other parent rode alone. I'd be happy with 4 too, but I like that with 3 you can fit in a normal sized car as a family.

nanmyers09 · March 2011

elynds:
3. I grew up in a family with 3 kids and always loved it (FWIW, so did my 2 younger brothers - no middle child syndrome). When we went to amusement parks one of us always rode with one of our parents and the other parent rode alone. I'd be happy with 4 too, but I like that with 3 you can fit in a normal sized car as a family.

that is true!!! i didn't think about the car situation...lol

tblauvelt · March 2011

Ideally, we want one of each. I wouldn't mind if we stretched to 3 children, but no more than that even if it's all 3 boys or all 3 girls.

lajolla09.30.06 · March 2011

My husband and I are both middle children with two siblings and we have always agreed we wanted 3. The twins threw us for a loop because we didn't want four kids. We had to decide to chance it (risk a second set) and go for another or stop with two. We decided to just go for it and luckily got just one this time. This is our last baby for sure. I can not do the morning sickness and constant barfing again.

sarahleigh23 · March 2011

We both want 2, so we are done after this baby. I used to say that if this baby were a boy I would try one more time to get a girl. Now, I don't care if it's a boy or girl I'm done! As long as I have a healthy lil one all will be great!

marriedtoeric · March 2011

Before getting pg, 3. Now, maybe 2, maybe 1. We're waiting to decide until this LO is 4 or 5.

SusieBW · March 2011

Neither of us really likes the idea of "trying" to have kids, so even with this one, we both agreed that we weren't going to try and prevent it, and if I got pregnant, great, but if I didn't, that would be fine too. Neither of us was even the least bit willing to chart or have any kind of fertility testing or anything done - it just wasn't that important to us. We're thrilled to be having a baby, but we would've been happy to remain kidless, too.

I think that for now, we're going to see how this one goes, but probably have the same attitude for the next few years - if I get pregnant again, great, but if not, then we're happy with just one. Once I hit my later 30s, I think we might start trying to prevent it again. I'm 31 now.

I don't think he wants more than 2, and I don't want more than three.

hisaak · March 2011

I've always wanted 3, DH wants 2. But after being on my fourth pregnancy, I am started to see his perspective ... so we will see how it goes once this one is born!

lmjt · March 2011

I would like to have one of each.... but if this one turns out to be a boy again, I may be tempted to go for a third.

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