Vent. I want to be a SAHM

kbowman78 · March 2011

I used to be ok with working, but things at my job have been almost unbearable lately with staff changes, budget cuts, etc. I would really like to just quit. I hate that I feel I am devoting all my time to work when I am not getting any sense of fulfillment from it. I'd much rather be with my son, but there is no way we could cut it without my salary until DH gets promoted at his job. I hate to find a different job, because I only work 10 minutes from home and don't want to give up that awesome commute!

Ok, I just wanted to vent a little. Anyone else feel the same way?

ally-cat · March 2011

YES.

This year has been so difficult. I would love to sah, but with dh's salary alone, we'd have to make some huge differences in the way we spend. Doable, yes, but would I be comfortable? Probably not. I wish they still had part time as an option.

ascbride · March 2011

I feel exactly the same way. I just finished my PhD too, so I am feeling especially unfulfilled and like there is no room for growth at my current place of employment, however with 2u2, the 10 minute commute that I have is extremely helpful.

KT&John · March 2011

Same situation and I'm not sure what I am going to do yet. We could make it on DH's salary with cuts to our spending and have worked out the budget we would have to follow to do it. I would prefer working for my current employer as a consultant or very part time, but I'm not sure yet if that will work out. If not, we will most likely take the plunge and I will look for a little something that is flexible.

Good luck, I know it is hard to feel the way you do.

dbryson · March 2011

SAHM is no walk in the park. It is hard work. But I wouldn't change it for the world. I decided to leave my job after Ridge was born and that was a big decision for our family. I had a 6-figure income so we definitely had to tighten the belt. But you adjust. And this time with them while they are young and want to be with you is so short. I figure I have 10-years before they don't want to be seen with me.

I do the photography on the side but it is for the boys college fund and fun stuff like going to the beach. You don't make a ton of money doing this unless you go full time. Plus it seems everyone who owns a DSLR camera these days thinks they are a photographer. But there are tons of little side things you can do to keep your mind active, get out of the house and make a little money.

kbowman78 · March 2011

I'm sure being a SAHM is def. harder than my job right now, but it's like you said, I'd like to spend as much time with him as I can now, while he WANTS to be with me before he gets older and doesn't want to be seen with me! I feel the exact same way. I hope that some day soon, we are able to work out finances so that I can at least cut down to part-time if possible.

runblondie26 · March 2011

Right there with you sister! Hopefully in another year or two I'll be out.

There are plenty of side projects I'd like to pursue just to have a little of my own "fun money", but I'd be my own boss.

seansgirl2006 · March 2011

I long to be a SAHM too. As a teacher I do get the summers off and I absolutely love staying home and being able to take Ethan to things that are only during mornings and also keep up with my house better than I do while working. We just simply cannot in any way shape or form afford it. It sucks. If we could do it by cutting back we totally would. My salary, even my crummy teacher pay, is more than DHs and it is impossible. I am trying to figure out a way to work less at least. I would love to be part-time even. I am thankful for at least summers off but I still feel very sad because I have always wanted to stay home and it just isn't in the cards right now. I do feel like I am missing so much that I can never get back though.

Danielle, maybe I'll just get a DSLR and stay home!

ebearwife · March 2011

We took the plunge and the spending habits adjustment has been hard. I am thinking of trying to be entrepreneurial for the first time in my life to have some "side" money since we just bought a house and I want to decorate it! But OMG I couldn't be happier with my decision.

karenbmcc · March 2011

Thank you for posting this!! After days like today being a SAHM, I forget how fortunate I am to be able to do it. I love being home with my daughter, but sometimes I get so discouraged about being exhausted, covered in snot / excrement / food / etc. etc. etc!!

I hope that things improve for you! And I hope you are able to stay home soon

dleigh2020 · March 2011

I couldn't agree more!

amanda_holbird@hotmail.com · March 2011

It's weeks like this week that I wish I was a SAHM. Between dh and I, we've missed four days of work. Thank God he wasn't traveling this week so he was able to help me out. Both boys have been ill and were only able to make it to daycare on Thursday. The stress I feel trying to take care of two sick boys and work a full time job can almost be unbearable at times. I feel like the sh*ttiest mother taking them to school when I know they need to be home resting, but then I feel like the sh*ttiest employee when I know my boss needs me at work. Dh said that he thinks I'll be able to quit soon...but that could still be two years away. I'm still hopeful that I'll be able to quit when the boys are in elementary school. My goal all along has been to be able to do this.

kbrickell · March 2011

I quit last week. Ditto Ally with the doable aspect and living comfortably but for me I am okay with cutting waaaay back. It definitely will not be easy, but we will figure it out. I am going to look for something part time too but the stress from work, new boss, new contract, commute, hours etc...I think this is the best route for our family.

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