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What "type" mom annoys you most?
One of the blogs I read just posted about the mom type she finds most annoying" the one who gets so involved with her friends/phone call/email in a big group and just assumes that her child is being watched by one of the other moms around (on a playground for instance.)
What "type" annoys you most? (And some of us-myself included- may very well fall into some of these categories. Don't cry. Let's just have a little light humored fun 
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My type would be the "constantly bragging on their perfect child mom". I have one friend (acquaintance) in particular who brags on every single little milestone her child hits (not such a big deal, except she without a doubt will follow it by how her doctor tells her at every visit how far ahead he is of other kids his age). Another friend blogs/facebooks every single solitary word her child utters-he's almost 2, folks, she's going to have to stop this at some point, right?!? I mean, is she just going to keep recording them until he knows every word in the english language? I'm all about bragging about my child when he does something special, but some people just take it SO overboard that you want to hit them.
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Re: What "type" mom annoys you most?
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The "know it all" that doesn't. I was recently openly criticized on FB for keeping Toodle rear facing at 20 months by someone who clearly had no idea the current recs. In 2008 I was also mocked by someone for wanting BPA free stuff and told that was just silly and no one really did that b/c they asked their pedi about it - until about 5 months later when NO ONE bought stuff w/ BPA.
ones that leash their kids ;-) lol.
I don't care for moms that rag their kids out in front of others. Shame and scold them in public. Regardless of age. I think if they need to be reprimanded, do it quietly, or pull them aside a little bit... maybe it's because I have a kid very sensitive to being "shamed" (and a husband, lol) but I'm quite conscious of being considerate to my kid. When I see this happen, I want to scoop the kid up and hug them.
Every time I see someone on the trimester boards say "our parents did X and we're fine" or "our moms didn't worry about all this stuff and we're ok" I want to reach through the screen and slap them. Do your research, understand the risk, and THEN decide if it's ok, don't just base it on the fact that you are ok. Our parents also chain smoked and drank while pregnant and didn't use carseats. I'm willing to bet a comparison of prenatal and postnatal health and safety now and then would show some improvement. And "our parents" doesnt' include the parents of those in our generation who didn't make it or do have severe defects or delays due the stuff "our parents did."
Ones that minimize or make excuses for their child's actions.
Ones that ignore repeated notifications (for lack of better words) that their child is doing negative things, demonstrating repeated negative behaviors, etc and don't do a thing about it, don't believe it, whatever you want to call it.
I could go on and on. I work as a probation officer for teenagers and I have more problems with the parents than I do the kids that are the offenders!
The mom who won't talk to me - or thinks I'm less of a mom - because I only have one child. Literally on the playground, moms of 2 or more will interact with each other and think "How cute for her" when I tell them that he's our only right now. Like I'm less of a mom because I don't have 2 or more.
And I don't think they do a very good job with their 2+, so take that!
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Or another woman I know who homeschools but she just really UNschools. I'm all for homeschooling but this woman never cracks a book. She justifies "learning" because they're playing with legos all day long. EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.
Wow, moms do that?! How insane.
Umm, I agree with mbj - except for just singletons. I hate hate hate when people PUSH unsolicited advice on how to raise my child on me. It's annoying. So those are the types of moms I can't stand.
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As a slight variation on Schmoodle and madhatter's posts. . .
The uneducated mom. I honestly really don't care (99.9% of the time) what decisions you make about what's right for you/ your child/ your family -- so long as they're educated decisions. Do your homework, do the research, and at least know what you're deciding for/ against. I'm not saying that you have to justify yourself to me - but please don't just follow along blindly.
Haha. This is me.
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It's those kind of people who give the APish parenting style a bad name. Kids need and want boundaries, so she obviously is missing the boat. Sounds like she is UNparenting.
The moms who have a child/ren and are still more concerned with their own lives/freedom/convenience rather than what their child needs. Their kids didn't ask to be born, but rather the parents made the decision to have them. To expect that you can just carry on your life just as you did before is not possible. You became a parent, so act like one. Your child needs you.
The mom who ignores her kid. I was in the dollar store one day (buying pregnancy tests
, and there was a mom with a toddler younger than Cal who kept saying "Mommy!" and she never answered him. Well, maybe once, out of probably 20 times of him trying to get her attention (not even 20 times in a row...he'd take a break in between). The grandmother (I assume) was there too. They both ignored him.
Talk to your child. Dollar stores really aren't that interesting, folks.
So, so sad.
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Me too - LOL!
Too funny! I agree! Paige will eat things off the ground and they all gasp. I'm like - if that is the worst thing she puts in her mouth today, then I call it a success : )
The super laid back ones, such as my sil. She doesn't discipline her kids at all (they are 6 and 9), lets them disrespect their grandmother. They call their gm fat, stupid and ugly all the time and they both (the mom and grandmother) think it's the funniest thing! When they come over here they make a huge mess, and talk back to me and she doesn't say or do anything. Nothing. I just don't get it. They feel bad because the parents are divorced and have been for a few years now so they make that the excuse for all their issues.
I think that the way your kids treat others is a reflection on you.
You should send her this article:
Babies Know: A Little Dirt Is Good for You
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Ditto this 100% My mom always had strong feeling about this and those feelings were passed onto me. My mom did not need to embarrass me and make others uncomfortable to get a point across.
Hah! I think our friends think we're heathens, I see the look when I just grab whatever's fallen on the floor and plop it back in Ethan's hands. They're horrified. It makes my day;)
Our 90+ lb Lab licks Ethan on the mouth while Ethan's mouth is gaping open to give him a kiss...nothing can possibly be worse than that LOL (even though supposedly a dog's mouth is cleaner than ours).
Moms that act like I'm crazy because I feel Miles' schedule is important. I have friends who let their two year olds stay up until 10pm, which is fine for them if it works, but Miles starts bedtime routine at 7pm (sometimes a little later, but always around there). I also have a friend who came up to Miles (more than once) when he was allowed to have his Nuk all the time and would pull it out of his mouth and ask me "Is he going to go to kindergarden with that thing?" I was gracious and didn't say anything snide, but I snicker now that her DD is sucking her thumb. Suck on that b!tch! How ya gonna take that one away?! :-)
Oh and I have another Mom I'm around a lot who compares her daughter to Miles ALL the damn time and is always trying to "one up" him. It's so annoying. I did tell her to knock it off though and she was very sweet and didn't realize she was doing it...so that's good I guess.
I try not to let things get to me though because I can be the kind of Mom I hate...so I try to keep myself in check and also take things in stride.
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The super overprotective moms who won't let their kids do anything/explore/get dirty, etc.... My SIL is like this - everything is worse case scenario - "don't run with that pencil you will fall and impale yourself and die" "Don't play with the rocks - they're dirty", "Don't touch the baby, you will hurt her/drop something on her..."
Drives me NUTS!!
For older kids/teens - the mom who wants to be their friend. Such as my other SIL who hosted the kegger for my niece's hs graduation and drank and danced and partied with her kids.
I'll add another one - the mom who wants the world to think that she has it so abnormally rough (when she's just dealing with normal baby stuff!). Like the coworker who went aroudnd telling everyone how was exhausted because, when she came back to work after leave, her baby was only sleeping in 6 hour stretches (um, join the club - but I never went around making sure everyone knew that and looking for sympathy.)
Then there was the coworker who, before she was even out of the hospital, made it known how tired she was - the baby had her days and nights confused (she claimed), only wanted to sleep on mom's chest, etc. - um, no. Your baby is a newborn. She just got thrust into a big scary world and, oh, yeah, she has to eat all the time. She's not confused or needy - she's a baby.
I'm not saying its easy - and I'm all for venting among friends (like on here!) or family - but it bugs me when people act, to the world, like they're the first person to ever experience something, or refuse to recognize that it could be so much worse.
Also not a fan of moms who parent or make decisions involving Cal without asking me. We were at a kids' restaurant (lots of games and such) with a friend and her 2 much older kids (11 and 9)...Cal was sitting in a booster seat eating and she said to her oldest son, "You can take Cal and walk around the restaurant, if you want to." Excuse me? I'll decide if he can do that, thank you very much!
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I am not really *that* bad, but hey, anything I can do to avoid having two sick babies at once!
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This one is me...I only let DS brush his teeth in the bathroom, not walking around because I am afraid he will fall on it and impale himself. And at the playground, I walk around with him so that he won't fall off of the slide, climbing structure etc. And all the other moms are hanging out chatting on the side while their kids roam free. And when DD was born, my DS didn't get to really even touch her for a month or so, because I was afraid he would hurt her...my poor DS and DD!!
I'm not sure I agree with this. Take, for example, the mom I mentioned in my 1st response to this post. She was blatantly ignoring her son, whom she was pushing in a cart, and was trying to get her attention the entire time I was in the store. Not in an obnoxious way, either, just in a "hey, I love you and I want to matter to you!" way. I don't believe she was doing the best that she could. One could argue that she "didn't know any better" but I don't think paying attention to your child is learned, it is inherent. By the same token, ignoring your child is deliberate. I believe she was putting her own needs/wants/thoughts first. Child came second (if that). It just really bothered me.
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It's me, too.
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Geeze, Kim, you probably brag about how perfect and ahead of the curve your girls are too, don't you?!?
Don't worry, Kim, I am kind of the germophobe, too. Not as much as I am the over-protective mom, but I carry like 3 different kids of wipes in my bag - wet wipes for hands after playdates (or for restaurant high chairs), boogie wipes for dirty noses, and binky wipes for DD's paci. And I JUST stopped using our shopping cart cover at the grocery store (but I do wipe the seat down with a wipe before putting DS in it...)
I think the germophope and overprotective moms are overlapping personality types