What are your biggest pet peeves as a mom about other moms?
Mine is that I hate it when women tell other moms to ignore their pediatrician's advice. Reading some internet article on this or that does not qualify you to override a pediatrician. Until you have a medical degree with a specialty in pediatrics, plus the years of experience that pedi has, you have no business thinking you know better than someone who does. BTW before anyone flames me, I have nothing against advising someone to get a second opinion (from another doctor) if something sounds iffy, just with people who think they personally know more than someone who's been through medical school.
Re: Biggest mommy pet peeves
I hate comparing milestones. My friends and I all have kids around the same age and we all made a pact not to compare who rolls when, who walks when, etc.
It's lame and pointless. Every kid develops at their own pace and will hit some milestones early or late.
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Breleigh & Mason
People who do not feed like they should.My friend has a one 15mo old she still only give two jars of "sitter" food and formula.She doesn't think he would like other food yet.
Moms who don't change their babies when shopping for long periods of time.
you walk around touching other people's babies? Seriously?
When they use "and my baby has been STTN since 6 weeks" as evidence that their sleep strategy is working. If your baby was STTN at 6 weeks, I highly doubt your routine had anything to do with it, it's called an easy baby.
I hate this too.. I especially hate when people tell me twins will do things later than singletons- umm... they weren't preemies so I think they will be right on track- they have been so far.
I still hate the "just you wait" comments.
I also hate it when other moms bash different types of feeding styles (as long at the baby is still getting the nutrition they need). When people would ask and I would say that I am EBF'ing, I would hear "you'll change your mind when your nipples feel like they are going to fall off" or "wait till he gets teeth". Ummm, no I won't but ok. I also hate it when people bash FF'ing. It's really no one's business.
I couldn't agree more with your point about ignoring advice v. seeking a second opinion. I swear, sometimes people thing if they just ignore a potential problem then everything is ok.
lol That's what I was going to say. Seriously? If some stranger tried to touch my baby, sock or no socks, I would be rather pissed off.
My pet peeve is any mom who is a one upper. I have a friend who's daughter is a year older than my older daughter. Whenever we talk about the kids and I mention something that DD is doing she says, "Oh yeah well my daughter has been doing that for this and this amount of time." Uh...yeah. She's a year older. I would expect that she would.
Twice at Fi's softball games, we were sitting with his friends wife who's daughter was like 2 months old. It was 40 degrees outside, and all she had on was a long sleeved onesie (while mom had on jeans, a long sleeved shirt, and a hoodie). I was gaga'ing at the little girl, and grabbed her toes to feel how cold she was. I was two seconds from offering her a blanket and an extra pair of DD's socks. The grocery store was a mom I had seen here and there (we live in a town where its always "I know her, I just dont know from where"), and she stopped to say hi to DD for whatever reason, so I nonchalantly felt her DS' feet - he was also just in a onesie. I felt so bad for him
His feet were like icesicles.
Breleigh & Mason
oh...I thought you meant strangers' babies. So did you give them socks? lol
Whether or not mommies have anything to do with it, I hope he starts STTN soon!
Wow that's gross.
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I considered the last girl a stranger, but I've had to stop myself from doing it before to someone I didnt know lol But that was with babies who had like NOTHING on. And the other mom at the softball field left before I could the first time, and the second time I gave her a blanket to wrap her in. She had put her DD in our PnP because I take it everywhere, and she didn't even realize why I gave it to her. She thought it was because I thought the pnp was hard
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I see a LOT of kids (with adults of some kind) running through Walmart with no shoes on. It seriously makes me want to hurl.
Breleigh & Mason
Honestly, that right there is why I don't go to Walmart anymore. I cannot stand the people. When my DH and I were in college, we went to Walmart. A kid was asking his mom for one of those big bouncy balls they keep in the aisles in cages. And really loud, she yelled "No! We got enough big balls at home!!"
DH and I laughed so hard, we peed ourselves.
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My DS never wears socks! (If it's cold, he wears pajamas with feet.) My mom always has something to say about it. It's 80 degrees here anyway and he runs warm. I love looking at his toes.
I hate seeing car seats on top of grocery carts.
DH's friend also still had their (obviously too tall) 7 month old in an infant car seat. I didn't say anything because I can't stand mothers with unsolicited advice.
We live in Florida too, so I know exactly what you mean. And if DS wasn't so cold all the time, a lot of the time he wouldnt wear socks either. He never does at home or when we go for a walk, but I'm talking about places where I know i usually get cold. Our short winter, and the grocery store being the big ones. I just know I'm not alone in being really cold in these places, that some parents dont realize their LO could be really cold also.
Breleigh & Mason
HAHA I would have died. And I avoid Walmart at all costs. I'm so flighty that I always forget something at like 11pm, and it's the only place still open.
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My boss told me he was going to have sleep problems until he was 3, because I won't CIO, I was pissed. She also laughed at me because I am waiting until closer to 6 months to start solids and she thinks I over research everything.
The "I would never let my kid CIO Mommies". That's grand, you should be the president of all mommies. I haven't had to resort to this method for sleep yet, but I totally would if I had to. There's no need for anyone to argue over hypothetical, petty bullsh!t.
Also the "well, you can do better at __________ when you have your second baby". Guess what beesnatches, I'm done! "What? Goodness gracious, you can't just have one baby! It's not fair to Elliot not to have siblings". Thanks for making this catastrophic revelation to me, but I kinda hearted being an only child.YOU on the other hand, can feel free to make the necessary improvements on your 2nd, 3rd...and 276875386th child.
Yeah, that is super weird. Not cool at ALL. I'd freak out if some stranger touched my baby.
I would freak out if you came up and touched my kids feet. Also, babies hands and feet are always colder then the rest of them. Doesn't mean they're cold. (my kids do wear socks though, just to keep crazies from touching their feet.)
Strangers who touch my baby might be pulling back a bloody stump instead of hand.
I can't stand when people let their children run loose with a cart in a store. Its always the jacked up on mountain dew add 7 year old. Drives me nuts.
He he, I do this all the time. I've had way too many experiences with shoddy physicians to ever truly trust what they say. I love my pedi, but I'm quite capable of reading medical research and determining what the latest treatment options are myself.
My biggest pet peeve is moms who bring their snot-dripping, coughing, sneezing, feverish, contagious kids to pre-school/playdates/etc infecting all the other kids and brush it off like it's no big deal.
We haven't had a healthy house in over a month. DD was stuck in the hospital for a day needing breathing treatments and is still sick. I'm a little bitter
Or bring them to school. In my classroom last week alone we had four kids with the flu, strep, two kids with double ear infections, and... something else. I've been sick off and on with something those kids have given me since my second day back from mat leave. That was Feb 2. Ugh!
Seriously. On the other hand, lurk for five seconds and realize that you are going to start a sh!tstorm by asking these mommies about it, because they will not miss an opportunity to teach you how to raise your child.
I doesn't really bother me if a mom chooses on her own to ignore her pedi's advice (though I don't agree that reading some internet articles makes you as qualified to chose an appripriate treatment option as someone who has actual in the field experiece with different treatment options, and knows more about diseases than you do, especially since internet articles are often arbitrary). What bothers me is know-it-all moms convincing other new moms (or trying to) that their pedi is wrong and that they know better.
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I agree with the no sock thing. Even here in FL, baby feet get cold! Put socks on them please!
I also have a weird thing about LO just being in onesies with no pants or shorts. No idea why, I just feel like they aren't fully dressed.
Also, parents letting their kids eat off a table in a restaurant without a plate or at least a napkin underneath their food. That table was wiped off with a dirty rag that sat in a basin of dirty water...doesn't make it clean! I'm investing in those stick-on placemats and will use them religously when DD is old enough.