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Just found out SIL 7wks pregnant

Runnergrl4Runnergrl4
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I just found out tonight my SIL is 7 wks pregnant. We have been trying since Aug with a miscarriage in Dec. When I found out I wanted to be sick and cry even though I should be happy to have another niece or nephew. Just needed to vent. 

 Have a good night.

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Re: Just found out SIL 7wks pregnant

  • PachitaPachita member

    I'm so sorry.  That ticker that you have on your siggy, is that from your pregnancy that ended in a mc in December?

    My  SIL is also PG, and she's due 2 months after my EDD. I know the feeling.

    BFP#1: 7/14/10.  EDD: 3/19/11--MMC-- D&C 9/2/10.
    BFP#2: 12:22/10.EDD: 8/30/11 C/P 12/25/10
    BFP#3: 10/26/11 EDD: 7/2/12-- Daniel born 7/14/12. My rainbow baby!                                                                                                                                           BFP #4:  2.22/15 EDD: 11/4/15 C/P 2/28/15                                                                                                                                                                                      BFP #5:  4/5/15   EDD 12/11/15 (Ectopic Pregnancy)

    BFP #6: 3/2/16 EDD 11/5/16
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  • Runnergrl4Runnergrl4
    Yes I just saw the ticker since I had not posted since my mc and it just reminded me of how farI would have been. Sometimes its just not fair but you have to pretend to be happy.
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  • MrsMitty08MrsMitty08

    First, I am sorry for your loss.  I could have totally made this post.  In fact, I made a similar one yesterday about feeling guilty about my emotions.

    We have been TTC since August and had a miscarriage in December.  I just found out yesterday that my SIL is 11-12 weeks pregnant.  The moment I found out, I couldn't even control my emotions.  I started bawling.  Then I felt guilty for feeling this way and my emotions have continued to spiral for going on 48 hours now.

    One thing I've learned from the ladies here is that it is totally normal to feel the way you are feeling and I can attest to feeling the same way.  I feel like I am rewired now because a year ago, I would have been ecstatic for them and never thought twice about "me" and now it is all about "me" and their happiness is only a reminder of my loss.

    It's such a tough place to be in and I think something else I am realizing is that the grieving process can take a while and we all have to work through each of the stages.  

    We are here for you!!!  VENT AWAY!!!

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  • Jered&GenaJered&Gena member
    Same here! my sis is pregnant with #3 and both her and her hubby dont work?! I know how you all feel, it like you want to be happy but all you can think about is what you lost! its sad! :(
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  • LauraDunLauraDun member
    I'm so sorry but I'm in the same boat too!  we also m/c in december and a close friend of mine just told me she is pregnant and wasn't even trying (of course).  She and I would have been 2-3 weeks apart.  I am very excited for her but jealous and sad at the same time.  It will happen for us too!
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  • sdlaurasdlaura member
    I'm sorry :(  My little sister found out she was pregnant with her first two days before my termination for medical reasons at 21 weeks (it was our first pregnancy).  She had stopped TTC when we originally got our bad news, but had conceived the night before.  The universe has really crazy timing sometimes.  It's OK to feel however you're feeling right now.
    BFP #1 9/2010 (lost our baby at 21 weeks) BFP #2 8/2011 (ectopic pregnancy) BFP #3 10/2011 (chemical pregnancy) BFP #4 12/2011 (Abigail born 8/15/12) BFP #5 5/2013 (Griffin born 1/23/14 with heart defects, now repaired!)

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  • mandy6418mandy6418
    I completely understand how you feel. I did cry and have a major meltdown when I found out my SIL was pg. :::HUGS:::
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    BFP-11/21/10 M/C-11/25/10
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  • PiperSPiperS member
    I know how you feel and it is so hard! My SIL is 28wks and I should be 21wks, my best friend is 19wks, another good friend is 20wks. I havent seen any of them since my m/c. I feel like a bad person but I just haven't been ready. Sometimes life is so unfair but you will get your sticky baby soon! ((hugs))
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  • kate626kate626
    I am so sorry! That must be really hard... I havent found out anyone else is pregnant since we lost EMily... But my cousin is due in a few weeks...she keeps calling to hang out... yeah no thanks...I have another friend that is due 3 weeks before I was, one who is due 3 weeks after and one due 3 months after.... It really sucks... and hurts. Hang in there sweetie and feel however you need to feel.
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  • Nellaone1Nellaone1 member
    I know exactly how you feel.  In fact, I just posted almost the same thing on Thursday night.  It's hard on so many levels.  I did go out and purchase a congratulations card for them, figured I can control my emotions enough to write a sweet little message, which I will pop in the mail on Monday.  Hang in there, there are a number of us going through the same thing... It is nice to have this little corner of the internet where you can feel supported by girls going though the same thing and get a little reassurance that the emotional range isn't out of the ordinary.  I still have a hard time though not beating myself up over my emotions sometimes though... wishing I could be happy for others and not feel torn apart on the inside.   
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  • Runnergrl4Runnergrl4

    I am glad I am not alone. I keep thinking about it. I told my mom and she didn't seem to understand.  Thanks for all of the kind words and it is nice to know I am not the only one who is going through the same situation.

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