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anyone STILL not able to have sexy time?? (TMI)

arishiaarishia
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So my kiddo will be 9 months (eeek!) next week, and DH and I have yet to be able to have sex again. I think it's actually been almost a year at this point, since we stopped while I was pregnant because it hurt so much.

I went to my OB 4 or so months ago and got checked out. She said everything looked fine, no scar tissue or anything, and she prescribed me one of those estrogen creams. I'm EBF and on the mini-pill, so I guess they're both messing with my hormones and keeping my estrogen low.

I'm going to start to wean in a few weeks, so I'm hopeful that the pain will ease up once my hormones go back to normal. It seriously hurts! DH can manage to get all the way inside, but it hurts soooo bad the entire time he's in there. We attempt to do the deed once a week in the hopes that I'll get stretched back out, but nothing seems to be working. And we use a LOT of lube, too!

Anyone still not able to have sexy time? I really miss it (and I know DH does too). Plus, we're wanting to TTC baby #2 at the end of the year, but that won't happen if I can't stand for him to be in there for more than a few seconds!

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  • Rebedall1Rebedall1

    I had this same issue and actually got a referral from my Midwife to go see a PT who specializes in Myofascial release and pelvic floor physical therapy. My uterine muscles were essentially clenched since the birth and it was causing significant pain with sex. (its not a conscious clenching so you cant just release the muscles thinking about it). Although my PT is probably NOT in your area I would look at her information and see if you can get a referral from your OB for someone similar where you live. I CANNOT stress enough that the pain wasnt in my head-nor is it in yours and it probably isnt a lubrication issue.

    https://www.debragoodman.com/postpartum_physical_therapy.html

     

    sorry its not clicky.  good luck and I wouldnt wait to see anyone.

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    Thank you so much for postng this.  I thought I was the only one.  I went to the OB in June for this and she treated me for a yeast infection, said that was probably the problem, suggested lub, and sent me on my way.  I plan to bring this up at my annual is next month.  Thank you again!
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    imageRebedall1:

    I had this same issue and actually got a referral from my Midwife to go see a PT who specializes in Myofascial release and pelvic floor physical therapy. My uterine muscles were essentially clenched since the birth and it was causing significant pain with sex. (its not a conscious clenching so you cant just release the muscles thinking about it). Although my PT is probably NOT in your area I would look at her information and see if you can get a referral from your OB for someone similar where you live. I CANNOT stress enough that the pain wasnt in my head-nor is it in yours and it probably isnt a lubrication issue.

    https://www.debragoodman.com/postpartum_physical_therapy.html

    sorry its not clicky.  good luck and I wouldnt wait to see anyone.

    Thanks for the link! I'd heard of this and thought it might be a cause. We use a ton of lube, so there may be only so much I can blame on breastfeeding. If you don't mind me asking, how did the therapy work for you? How long did it take?

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    imageMrs. Day:
    Thank you so much for postng this.  I thought I was the only one.  I went to the OB in June for this and she treated me for a yeast infection, said that was probably the problem, suggested lub, and sent me on my way.  I plan to bring this up at my annual is next month.  Thank you again!

    I hate that lube seems to be the most common response. It's like, come on, I'm not an idiot here. It would hurt if he tried to go in dry normally anyway. Tongue Tied Good luck at your appointment!

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    imagearishia:
    imageRebedall1:

    I had this same issue and actually got a referral from my Midwife to go see a PT who specializes in Myofascial release and pelvic floor physical therapy. My uterine muscles were essentially clenched since the birth and it was causing significant pain with sex. (its not a conscious clenching so you cant just release the muscles thinking about it). Although my PT is probably NOT in your area I would look at her information and see if you can get a referral from your OB for someone similar where you live. I CANNOT stress enough that the pain wasnt in my head-nor is it in yours and it probably isnt a lubrication issue.

    https://www.debragoodman.com/postpartum_physical_therapy.html

    sorry its not clicky.  good luck and I wouldnt wait to see anyone.

    Thanks for the link! I'd heard of this and thought it might be a cause. We use a ton of lube, so there may be only so much I can blame on breastfeeding. If you don't mind me asking, how did the therapy work for you? How long did it take?

    After my first apt. I felt a difference. Before going to see her and having her do some of the manual work (which hurts and is not fun) I could just get through sex. Before that I was like you and it was SO painful and I would cry 1/2 way through and we would stop. It took a total of 5 months going at least 2 x month (sometimes 3 x) before I was really able to say I am all better. I just finished the therapy in the middle of January. It was expensive but so worth it. I really encourage you to find a reputable PT in the area who specializes in this. She also worked on my back as I had some lower back issues from BF. Good luck! PM me if you have any further questions or anything.

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