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Monitoring FB for teens/preteens

allboys2006allboys2006
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I check my oldest DS's texts and FB regularly (he's 12).  A couple months ago, a 'friend' of his had posted in response to another friend's post and it had all sorts of horrible things.  Swearing, telling people to s*ck his stuff, f word repeatedly, etc.   It was bad.  I'm not a prude by any sort, and I was appalled.   I decided to call this boy's mother and tell her.  She was horrified.  The FB pages of the boy and all of his siblings were removed within hours.  I would want to know if my kid was doing this stuff.  I was surprised that parents do not check this stuff out.  I was a really bad teen so think I will be extra vigilant watching my own boys, but still- how do you let your kids go wild on FB or any social site and not monitor it at all? 

That being said, another incident has come up.  It's a girl who has recently fell out of the social group my son is in.  No one likes her anymore because she is "mean".  Well, the stuff she said today was out of control.   Should I do anything?  I don't want to become the monitor of every child- but when this 11 yr. old girl is telling boys they can lick her ** and stuff it up their a**, I have a hard time not saying anything. 

 Advice?   I don't want to become *that mom*.   But this is the internets people!!  Shouldn't these parents know to monitor this stuff?  

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Re: Monitoring FB for teens/preteens

  • r9stedtr9stedt

    You are MOM.    Call her freakin' parents!!   Past that, there isn't anything you can do.

     

     

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  • JOEBunnyJOEBunny member
    I plan to know every single parent of every single kid my DD hangs out with :-)  It is kind of my personal mission to be that mom.
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  • rebsrebs

    Yeah, you might be 'that mom' to the kids, but so what? The last mom you talked to appreciated it.  I know I would if it slipped under my radar. 

    Tell the mom. At the very least it will let your kid know that you think it is unacceptable.

    Rebecca- mom to 3 kids: DS born 2005, DD born 2007 and DS born 2010.
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  • chelle828chelle828
    These kids truly don't understand that this stuff is going to come back and haunt them forever.  It will be around FOREVER.  I'd call.  In fact, I have called on my 13 year old neighbor before and it was much appreciated.
    Michelle, Happily married to R 2006,
    StepMom to P, Mama to R and E.
    SAHM and weekend NICU nurse
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  • evaazaleaevaazalea member
    If it was my kid writing that stuff, I would want to know.
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  • jlw2505jlw2505 member
    I would call the parents or send them an email letting them know what out there, maybe even do a screen shot so there is no question on what she was saying.  I agree, parents need to monitor kids these days.  My brother is rarely on FB but has asked my sisters and I to keep an eye on his kids, mainly his daughter as we are all friends with them. 
    Jenni Mom to DD#1 - 6-16-06 DD#2 - 3-13-08 
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