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ohyeahdollface
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worried about losing my job.
ohyeahdollface
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I am a nanny, and have been working with my current family for almost three months. I am rarely late, if so not more than 2-3 min, do all my tasks, and keep the six month old entertained. We go for walks, play around the house, and have fun!
Well, another family is joining the share in April, and then both the babies will be about eight months old.
I recently told them that I was pregnant, and the first family was thrilled! But after talking to the second mom, they do not feel that I could fulfill my duties with both of the boys, and a baby in my belly.
How can I convince them not to fire me? and that I can do a good job?
Btw. Hubby was layed off last month, and my income is the only one we have. If I lose this job, we are SCREWED.
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Re: worried about losing my job.
This was what I was going to suggest. Why exactly don't they think you can handle 2 kids and pregnancy? Moms do it all the time. Figure out exacely what their concerns are and reassure them that they have nothing to worry about. See if you can get the other parents who are comfortable with your pregnancy to talk with and reassure the uncomfortable parents.
In the meantime, start the search for another kid in case you need to add someone to the nanny share to keep your pay.
Personally, I would wonder what we will do during your leave, or worse that you will quit when the baby comes. Those would be issues I would address.
GL! And try not to stress. It's not good for your child!
met DH 1995 ~ married DH 2006 ~ completed our family 2008
Life is good!
My nanny was pregnant and we didn't fire her. But my concerns were:
Getting back up for her appointments, especially towards the end when they are more frequent.
What if she ends up on bedrest or some other problem?
What is she thinking in terms of maternity leave? And what about back up during that time.
Will she quit once her baby is born? What kind of day care will she be using for her child. And what if HER child ends up sick on a work day?
I think if you address all those concerns, you should be fine. But I totally understand her hesitation, as I shared it myself.
Yes, I think it would be kind to addess their concerns and reassure them that you can handle the work. Or daycare worker is 7 1/2 months pregnant. Her belly is really large because she has a small torso. She cares for a room of 7 babies with one other teacher and does a great job, plus she has two of her own kids already. I'm sure she gets tired and sits more with them now but they are babies anyway. You can sit on the floor or in a rocker and care for them easily.
The pregnancy discrimination act does not apply in your situation. There must be 15 employees. So not sure it's worth the time to consult an employment attorney.
I understand your concerns. I think the other poster gave very good concerns from the family's perspective. I agree you should think through you answers and ask the family's to sit down an discuss. You might consider an arrangement where you plan to train a temporary back up - they could find someone through care.com or sittercity.com. If keeping your job is important, you may even consider offing to take 1/2 pay for a week or two (say when you are 36/37 weeks pregnant and getting the temporary replacement up to speed). As individual families, it could be a financial burden for them to pay 2 full time salaries. Another thing to consider is your own childcare arragement. I'll be totally up front...when I was interviewing for a new nanny, I had to put in the job description our position was not open to having the nanny bring their own child. I work from home and feel it's more than enough to have my own 2 kids, 2 dogs and a nanny all in the house. Additionally, I truly don't feel that a nanny bringing her own child should require as much in pay since they are also taking care of their own child(ren) at the same time - yet I found they wanted just as much. (again - this is just MHO and my experience)
I think the pps had some good advice. I currently do a nanny share and would be very worried if our nanny was pregnant. Our share is full time (not sure if yours is or not), so it would be a huge inconvenience to have to accomodate our schedules around regular OB appointments, not to mention that most pregnant people do slow down and get tired. It's hard work chasing after two kids full time and will be even harder when pregnant. That's one thing if it's you and your kids, but another if you're paying someone for it - their job performance will likely suffer. My other big concern would be how long you're expecting to work and what the back-up plan is. At work, I have a number of people who could cover for me when DS came 6 weeks early. As a household employer I would have been screwed. Also, how long are you planning to take off for leave, what are you planning to do with your child when you come back, etc. As the PP said, I wasn't open to a nanny who wanted to bring their own child, I felt two kids was enough. And all of those nannies wanted a 10 to max 25% discount for bringing their child whereas I view it as closer to a share where 50%+ of the attention would be devoted to their kid so I wanted closer to a 50% reduction in pay.
I would carefully think through how you will address appointments, maternity leave, what happens if baby comes early, is sick, etc and hope your DH finds a job quickly.