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  • nitalnital member
    i'll be a brat with you.  my SIL is due 2 months after me.  i'm not so much worried about the kids being compared, but SIL/BIL and DH/I are so very different people, and we simply don't agree about much of anything, including parenting styles.  DH and BIL also have this strange jealousy/competition thing going on right now, so they've gotten into it a few times in the past few months.  i'm sure its our fault for stealing their thunder though, because they were TTC, and we just had an oops.
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  • laurakaz13laurakaz13 member

    My cousin and I are 6 weeks apart in age and grew up together.  We're like sisters as well as the best of friends.  If anyone ever compared us, we are completely unaware of it.  In fact, it was wonderful growing up the way we did. 

    I do think you need to get over it as well.  It won't be as bad as you think.  And if there are comparisons, just refuse to engage in them. 

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  • Kiss&MakeupKiss&Makeup

    It will be awesome!!

    In our family my kids are 3.5, 2, and due any day, my nephew is 2.5 and neice is 8 months. They all have distinct personalities, and and are soo fun to be around. Your kids will be lucky to have hers.

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  • n684888n684888
    My SIL and I are 10 weeks apart. Not gonna lie, I had the same worries. But now that my beautiful neice is here, there is nothing that I want more but for our kids to grow up together. I hope that it will help my SIL and I to become closer.
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  • kacellekacelle member

    I had several first cousins around my age that I saw often, and it was never a big deal.  I actually loved having automatic playmates! 

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  • afirefighterwifeafirefighterwife

    i understand completely-

    we announced our pregnancy at 8 weeks.  a couple weeks later we find out that my SIL/BIL literally got pregnant 1-2 weeks after we announced. We were upset and still kinda are upset, because they are "1-uppers". My SIL compares everything from cars to countertops (seriously she said, "Our new countertops are like yours only better."). So our kids will be about 8-9 weeks apart. I was really really upset at first, but now i have come to realize that she (and the situation) can only bother me if i let it. We are totally opposite people so we will raise our children totally different.

    I think you are allowed to be hurt for a while - but you can't let it consume you and take over- this is supposed to be YOUR pregnancy, so enjoy it.

    This may be nasty of me but i am determined to lose all of my baby weight before her- that way if we do get compared after we have our kids- i will be fit and in shape and she won't.- i know this is mean- but you got to do what you got to do. 

    side note: I grew up with a cousin 2 weeks older - and have been best friends our entire lives. (his wife is due 2 months after me).

     

     

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