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Prayers I'm wrong

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A family member close to us just had their baby early and in all the pictures they've shared the baby appears to have down syndrome.  I'm hoping this is related more to being 4 weeks early than a true developmental disability.  The family member is a very private person, so it would be days/weeks before they told anyone.  I'm just praying so hard I'm wrong!  Also, they are usually FB crazy, and they appear to be very selective in what pictures they're sharing.

 I've seriously never wanted to be so wrong in my life!

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  • MrsBeckOMrsBeckO member
    Of course everyone prays for a healthy baby, and I wouldn't wish any sort of devastation on new parents.. But I just wanted to put it out there that a baby born with DS would not be the end of the world. Not even close to it. I wish that new family nothing but happiness and hope the baby isn't struggling from the prematurity, but if your worry happens to be reality, please try to remain positive and thankful for the precious new life you've all been blessed with. Best wishes.
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  • lisa5201lisa5201 member

    imageMrsBeckO:
    Of course everyone prays for a healthy baby, and I wouldn't wish any sort of devastation on new parents.. But I just wanted to put it out there that a baby born with DS would not be the end of the world. Not even close to it. I wish that new family nothing but happiness and hope the baby isn't struggling from the prematurity, but if your worry happens to be reality, please try to remain positive and thankful for the precious new life you've all been blessed with. Best wishes.

    That is, in a very eloquent way, exactly what i wanted to say 

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  • hillek5hillek5
    My niece was born with (very unexpected) DS in October.  My brother and SIL were also very FB and picture-crazy before Alyssa was born, but became very withdrawn and selective about who they showed pictures to (much less told).  The best thing you can do, regardless of diagnosis, is be supportive and encouraging...and congratulate them on the miracle they're welcoming to their family.
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  • JoBieger05JoBieger05

    I am just a lurker here, but the OP struck a nerve. My cousin has DS and she is one of the most loving and caring little girls I have ever met. Having DS is not the end of the world. Yes, the parent's will need time to "grieve" the daughter they thought they were going to have, but they will love the amazing gift that was given to them. I suggest you read this:

    https://www.kellehampton.com/2010/01/nella-cordelia-birth-story.html

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  • brideofaussiebrideofaussie

    imageMrsBeckO:
    Of course everyone prays for a healthy baby, and I wouldn't wish any sort of devastation on new parents.. But I just wanted to put it out there that a baby born with DS would not be the end of the world. Not even close to it. I wish that new family nothing but happiness and hope the baby isn't struggling from the prematurity, but if your worry happens to be reality, please try to remain positive and thankful for the precious new life you've all been blessed with. Best wishes.

    Come on guys.  All the responses to this post are ridiculous (except for hillek).

    The girl is hoping the child isn't disabled.  She never said it was the end of the world.  Not even close.

    I'm not quite sure how all of you would react in this situation but I can guarandamntee you I'd feel the same way.  It has nothing to do with thinking a DS baby isn't a blessing or is the end of the world.  When you don't know the outcome of a situation but have a hunch that it's not what you'd hoped for, you hope that you're wrong, no?

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  • cstylescstyles

    I'm very very very sorry if I struck a nerve.  I by no means meant the post to sound as if having a child with a DD is the worst thing in the world.  I have been a child therapist in the field for a long time, I have yet to meet a parent of a child with a DD that wouldn't also pray for a friend that may have just had a child with a DD. 

    I'm ecstatic for my cousin and just want her and the baby to be as healthy as possible.  Also I can only imagine what it would be like to deliver a baby expecting everything to be OK and finding out that your child has any medical or developmental probelm. 

    Again I apologize if in any way my hope for this new baby is in any way offensive. 

     

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