Someone help me not punch this woman in the face -NBFR

karatechrissy · February 2011

a woman that I am 'facebook friends' with just posted this. (can't make paragraphs. iPhone won't let me sorry) "autism?? Really??? Back in the day parents cure that sh*t w a can of whip ass". Yes whip is what she said... Anyway, how do I politely but sternly tell her she is fvcking out of line and has no class?

Banana44 · February 2011

There is no polite way to say you are an uneducated, classless, simple-minded, abusive fvckturd - so I suggest not being PC - that usually works for me.

Honestly though - ignornant doesn't change - it just gets more stubborn and more stupid. You might be best off to ignore.

I'd hold your fingers off tehe keyboard from you, but your on the left coast and I'm on the right :-)

RanBer · February 2011

Wow. Really no words for that. My SIL is a speech pathologist and works with Autistic children, it is no joking matter at all. What a terrible thing to say.

J+R · February 2011

I would ask her to show some data on it

Then SHE will look like a total ass.

sweetie0228 · February 2011

Sorry can't hold you back on this one, I'm already swinging a tube sock full of quarters and it's looking for a face to land on.

karatechrissy · February 2011

I don't know how accurate my info is, but this is what I said. (I have taught kids w autism, I just dont know if I have a TOTAL understandig of what it is and idk if I explained it right. The dumb leading the more dumb perhaps?) "Do you know what an autistic child is like? I do, I've taught autistic children. It isn't a behavioral problem, it's social interaction and speech issues they face. Sometimes autistic children act out because they cannot communicate what they are feeling or trying to get across. Autism isn't a go to problem that just gets diagnosed. There are specific guidelines it takes to diagnose a child with autism. It takes several professionals with doctorates to diagnose a child with autism. You cant just go to a pediatrician and them say 'oh ya your kid won't listen? He has autism'. If anything ADD is a much more abused diagnosis than autism. I think you're a nice person and I like you an your family a lot, but your post is highly offensive. You might as well have thrown the N word out there.?"

jaminjeff · February 2011

I think your response was very good. That was totally disgusting and out of line for her to say.

My hairdresser, who is also a family friend I've known for 15+ years has an autistic son and it's no joking matter.

J&A2008 · February 2011

If anything ADD is a much more abused diagnosis than autism.

I was with you until this line. Now all the moms out there (me?) can get pissy with you and write a chapter about ADD.

karatechrissy · February 2011

I knew someone would say something about my add line. I was meerely saying that it's easier to get diagnosed with it and put on Ritalin than it is to be diagnosed w autism. I am NOT saying that add isn't a real problem AT ALL. I believe I was on the side of the poster who was asking of they should put the kid on meds for it recently. It was a dumb thing to put in, but I was also thinking MAYBE she was referring to ADD an not autism? Like maybe she got them confused or something? Regardless, I i Didn't mean to make light of ADD. My brOther has ADHD and has been dealing w it his whole life without medication. (his choice). I know it is something many many children and adults face daily.

karatechrissy · February 2011

She told me autism doesn't exist. She said it's all made up by dr's so drug companies can make money off the meds. :-/

Ginlyn0 · February 2011

As a mother of a DD with Asperger's, people that say things like this are so ignorant. (Chrissy- I do have to say the ADD comment wasn't any better, but I don't think you didn't mean it to be that way.) My DD also has ADHD as a comorbid as many children with an autism spectrum disorder do.

My DD went through complete neuropsychological testing before being diagnosed by a neuropsychologist and now currently sees a psychiatrist quarterly so she was definitely not diagnosed by a pedi. I have an 8 page report detailing all the findings of her deficits. While some of the things we were dealing with were "symptoms" of an autistic disorder which I would later find out. I really had NO clue that she would come out of the testing being diagnosed with either ADHD or Asperger's.

She was struggling with school in first grade and her grades started slipping way down and that is why I took her for complete testing. She has social issues and sensory issues, but being a girl those social issues were being overlooked as being "shy" and I really had no clue about sensory issues at that point. Now at her age, she doesn't have hardly any behavioral issues because those are typically avoided by avoiding her known stressors. When she was younger and couldn't communicate the things that were stressing her, yes, there were behavior issues (tantrums, complete meltdowns), but that is because WE didn't understand that certain things caused her pain or distress (certain clothes, shoes, crowded places, breaks in routine, a messy room) Now most of these things can be avoided by preparing her for change, avoiding certain clothes, ect. She is at the mild end of the spectrum.

I literally cried when I read the report the first time, especially the part about the ADHD. The report said basically when they introduced distractors during the testing process that DD's "level of functioning became severly impaired." I have 2 close relatives (a nephew a year older than DD and my cousin 2 years older than DD) who were already diagnosed with Autism Specturm Disorders. We thought we knew what autism was. We thought there was no way DD could have an ASD because she hit EVERY milestone at or before schedule, except for the social issues. We had no clue. DD recieved additional help from the school district after her diagnosis. She is currently in mainstream classes with no accomodations making straight A's, but the social issues and sensory issues remain but she has learned ways to help herself cope with those. This is not the case with many kids with an ASD.

It pains me that some people think this is something made up. I would make it go away if I could, but the reality is, it is real and we live with it.

Littlejen22 · February 2011

karatechrissy:
She told me autism doesn't exist. She said it's all made up by dr's so drug companies can make money off the meds. :-/

If that is her response to you I would respond stating that luckily there is treatment for Autism and ADD/ADHD but she likely just has to live with being stupid! Then a few days later I would block her, not immediately b/c I would want everyone to read my reply.

Honestly I can be chicken especially since I eventually want to start a photography business and do not want to piss off my network but I do not think I could hold back on that. And I have taught an Autistic child in martial arts also, I realize that the spectrum is hard for people to understand but it is very real.

hopanka · February 2011

Meds? WTF?....There are no meds for autism, it's treatable with therapy, but not curable..there exist no meds for autism.

Can she point me in the right direction? I would like to find an "aspirin" to give to my ASD son and finally cure him!

What an idiot!...If I wasn't too exhausted, I'd be offended...but I have no energy to be offended.

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