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My thoughts on co-ed showers...

leslienpeteleslienpete member
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I think they are a great idea, if you are having one. My sister is throwing a shower for me w/ my mom, aunts, MIL, grandmother, girlfriends, etc. Honestly, I don't want my husband to come to that. I want it to just be all ladies. He might come by towards the end to say hi to everyone and help load up the gifts. Now, if someone like our close friends offered to throw a co-ed shower w/ a BBQ and drinks, I think that would be great!

There is a big difference in having 7 guys come to your family shower w/ your grandmother and aunts then having 7 guys come to a couples coed shower!  

 

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Re: My thoughts on co-ed showers...

  • EcoBabyEcoBaby
    Exactly. I wouldn't expect guys to sit through the same kind of traditional showers I have to sit through. Co-ed showers should be planned around the idea that its NOT a traditional shower.
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  • SarahgracescSarahgracesc
    Our shower was both sides of our families and our close friends, so it was really large (we both have large families).  Fathers, uncles, cousins, brothers, etc. were all there.  There was a TON of really good food, no stupid games (the only "game" was my Mom passing out gifts, and she had gender neutral gifts, female gifts, and male gifts), just a lot of everyone hanging out and having a good time.  We did open presents in front of everyone, but people really seemed to enjoy themselves (everyone was amused by me bursting into tears just about everytime I read a card).  People went swimming, etc.  So no, not a traditional shower.  But I, personally, think traditional showers are torture.  I'm not saying that anyone that has a traditional shower is wrong, I'm saying that people who "feel sorry for the poor DH's who are "FORCED" to attend showers" are a little behind the times.
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  • holly423holly423

    My MIL is throwing me a shower this Saturday for all of DH's family. It was going to be all ladies. She asked me a week ago if DH was going to come and I told her I didn't think so. I said he was welcome if he wanted to, but why would he want to sit around with a bunch of women. She was disappointed and didn't understand why he wouldn't want to come (her world revolves around him). So, now she has invited 2 guys that he is friends with to come with their wives so he would come. He is so excited (yeah, right).

    One of our bridal showers was co-ed so there were a lot of women and men and he really did enjoy that one.

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  • bnljane1988bnljane1988
    This and the replies I agree with.  I would not expect DH to sit through a "traditional" shower.  Shit, I don't want to sit through one.
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  • leslienpeteleslienpete member

    imageSarahgracesc:
    Our shower was both sides of our families and our close friends, so it was really large (we both have large families).  Fathers, uncles, cousins, brothers, etc. were all there.  There was a TON of really good food, no stupid games (the only "game" was my Mom passing out gifts, and she had gender neutral gifts, female gifts, and male gifts), just a lot of everyone hanging out and having a good time.  We did open presents in front of everyone, but people really seemed to enjoy themselves (everyone was amused by me bursting into tears just about everytime I read a card).  People went swimming, etc.  So no, not a traditional shower.  But I, personally, think traditional showers are torture.  I'm not saying that anyone that has a traditional shower is wrong, I'm saying that people who "feel sorry for the poor DH's who are "FORCED" to attend showers" are a little behind the times.

    Now this sounds like fun!

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  • divakatdivakat
    We had one with dd. It was a ton of fun. Lots of food, beer, wine, etc. Just a big party---no tacky games or anything.  I'm just not into traditional showers. But to each their own.
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